to think regulars who name change are cowards?

(183 Posts)
ssd Wed 10-Apr-13 18:14:30

whats the bloody point??

are you so scared someone on here wont think you're great anymore?

I can understand name changing if someone has recognized you and is giving you grief, but name changing because you feel like saying something that may annoy others is pathetic

stand by your convictions people!

isteppedinto Thu 11-Apr-13 16:55:00

Would you not be bothered about work colleagues, higgle? Or clients?

higgle Thu 11-Apr-13 16:27:01

For most of us does it really matter if people know who we are? All i do is talk to nice people on style and beauty and the dog house and on an odd foray elsewhere ( esp Feminism) get seriously flamed. How does it matter what name I use or if my neighbour realises who it is?

isteppedinto Thu 11-Apr-13 16:15:56

Yes that's the other thing EllieFunt. The papparazzi, the horrors of front page exposure. All becau7se of Mumsnet.

EllieFunt Thu 11-Apr-13 16:11:18

It's just good e-safety, frankly.

I have asked for support on some very personal stuff that not even my nearest and dearest know about.

I don't want my colleagues to know anything about my life that I don't tell them myself.

I am also very, very famous lies

ShowMeTheYoni Thu 11-Apr-13 15:41:37

I name change quite frequently. I post things that could out me in RL and my job is worth more than that. Easier to namechange, post as I like and keep anonymity.

isteppedinto Thu 11-Apr-13 15:36:06

So now that so many of us have so comprehensively and exhaustively explained why we name-change, any chance that the non-name-changers could lay off us a bit? grin

shellbu Thu 11-Apr-13 14:23:04

thanks aufaniae just had to look up iirc as well smile

My MN name is easy to guess for anyone who knows me. I name change to post about certain things that I don't want certain people to know about.

kim147 Thu 11-Apr-13 13:35:35

I'm on other forums and you do get to know the other people and their posting styles. Some people give a lot away and some just post on certain things.

I think MN is different as it is a well known site and it's possible to post on some very personal stuff - especially about relationships and DCs that you don't want the world to know about.

I'd namechange (and have) to post about stuff that I don't want to be identifiable back to me. Then I NC back again.

Samu2 Thu 11-Apr-13 13:31:38

I don't name change but very interesting reading why other people do though.

I belong to a tight knit community, it is great that we all know each other etc I get this board is different but I like posting and people knowing me and name changing regularly must prevent that.

I also do not care if anyone IRL recognises me. If I say something stupid I own it and just carry on posting as me and people will eventually forget smile I am also an open book and wouldn't talk about anything here that I would talk openly about to people I know IRL.

aufaniae Thu 11-Apr-13 13:19:23

quiches means cliques on MN, shellbu. IIRC someone got the words confused a while back and it's stuck.

shellbu Thu 11-Apr-13 13:17:36

do you mean clique berlin or is quiches a term used on here i dont know about ?

fromparistoberlin Thu 11-Apr-13 13:05:56

yes, no quiches or MN-fave for us name changers

then again, I come on MN for fun and banter and advice, not friendship per se

but some people do, and fairplay to em

SarahAndFuck Thu 11-Apr-13 12:33:54

I name change quite often, but I don't swap back and forth between old names to post different opinions or sock-puppet or anything. I just like to have a new name now and again.

I was found on another forum by relatives I didn't want to speak to, so regular name changing is a habit now.

Plus I've had the same experience on here as Arabesque and although I only recognise one of the names from then as still being on here, I'd prefer them not to recognise me either. I tend to avoid threads started by the person I still recognise, and even threads she's replied to, even though I've changed name several times since she and her friends ripped into me.

And it's nice to have a new name sometimes, although it does mean it's hard to join a quiche or get a mention on those "whose your favourite MN" threads.

mrsjay Thu 11-Apr-13 12:14:54

grin PMS I need to namechange on that week i am vile blush

everlong Thu 11-Apr-13 12:13:06

Lol at pms.

kim147 Thu 11-Apr-13 12:00:21

PMs - not PMS grin

kim147 Thu 11-Apr-13 12:00:06

No point namechanging as I do tend to get passionate about certain subjects which easily identify me smile

But I'm careful what I post about and there's things I won't talk about. That's the beauty of PMS.

ChocsAwayInMyGob Thu 11-Apr-13 11:45:42

*I namechanged recently because a couple of people ganged up on me quite nastily over something really really trivial and it upset me and made me lose confidence in myself under that name (if that makes any sense).
I just wanted to reinvent myself and come back as a different person.*

arabesque. you are not alone, That's happened to me. It can be really upsetting.

everlong Thu 11-Apr-13 11:44:22

Yes a flaming isn't good. Maybe I'm stubborn or I just don't really care enough.

I do know when to draw the line though.

fromparistoberlin Thu 11-Apr-13 11:41:30

In RL, I stand my ground. always.

not on MN though, you can get fucking FLAMED for an agreement that goes against the mainstream. Its not nice, and its often unfair

so a few times I have made a measure decision to NC

But I am staying as this name, and shutting the fuck up moving forward!

everlong Thu 11-Apr-13 11:36:57

I disagree Berlin

I'd rather stand up for something I believe and be hated than have to NC because I'm a chicken.

fromparistoberlin Thu 11-Apr-13 11:29:12

I would rather not be hated thanks! fuck integrity!!!!

fromparistoberlin Thu 11-Apr-13 11:28:52

yanbu

BUT...I've done it, yup

everlong Thu 11-Apr-13 11:23:07

I don't think anybody has a gripe about nc'ing apart from doing so to be a goady swine and to hide your normal ID.

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