to wish my Mother would stop taking my DD's out dressed really badly?

(71 Posts)
Yardley Wed 10-Apr-13 14:03:24

I know I am being really but...Mother is staying with us this week, doing us a huge favour and looking after DD's whilst I am at work.I have just spied Mother and DD1 walking past my work, with DD1 dressed in a combination of a top thats far too small for her (which was in a bag to go to the charity shop), pink jeans, (that clash badly with said top), and for some reason, school shoes.God Love her, she looked horrendous! (still gorgeous to me etc etc, but still, why would my Mother do that to her? Why?)

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie Fri 12-Apr-13 00:17:44

Some 7 year olds aren't really fussed about clothes though and would go out in their PJs....OPs DD may be like that. My own DD is 8 and hasn't let me choose her outfits for years but I DO have a say when she's going to a special event.

I've taught her some basic rules...such as Jeans OR a denim jacket DD not both together...leggings and a LONG top not a short t shirt...no red, red and red....you need to add something else. grin

She's getting there.

I've taken to buying my dd a kind of capsule wardrobe where everything matches everything else ( all from the same tesco shelfwith matching shoes suitable for the season it sounds posher that it actually is) in the hope that my OH can't feck it up. He still manages- we've had tights instead of leggings with a t shirt and sandles. Jammies instead of clothes. Clothes pulled from the charity bag at the bottom of the wardrobe which blatently don't match and are too small and he's fought to get her in them.
I've also had the comment, " Did daddy dress her today?" when I've picked her up from the childminder.
It's weird cos he always matches when he dresses himself. grin

Cherriesarelovely Fri 12-Apr-13 00:24:54

Well of course Yabu but I would be exactly the same! Never thought I would feel like that but there you go!

Cherriesarelovely Fri 12-Apr-13 00:25:48

Dangereuse I have had great success with that approach too!

YoniTrix Fri 12-Apr-13 00:28:24

Dangerous, are you me?!?!

DH drops DD at nursery and I pick her up. She always looks a state. For exanple, tunic that is meant to go with leggings with bare legs and no socks in the middle of winter. I have also picked her up and she was wearing pyjama bottoms. He has done the too small clothes out of the charity bag thing too, and never brushes her hair. It is mortifying!!

YoniTrix Fri 12-Apr-13 00:29:17

I am actually thinking of buying the nursery uniform as DH never gets DS's school uniform wrong!!

Ozziegirly Fri 12-Apr-13 05:50:11

My DH is a well dressed man but when he dresses DS he always manages to go for something with a stain (from a different drawer where I keep the old clothes for painting) or something way too big (also in different place to all the other clothes) or puts him in board shorts instead of normal shorts.

I used to look forward to seeing what kind of "refugee chic" ds would be sporting when they came to see me in hospital when I had ds2.

I just laughed ds2 off my boob at the pram wheel coming off post, he looked up at me with a face of quizzical indignation.

ParadiseChick Fri 12-Apr-13 06:29:17

My mil looks after my 1 year old ds once a week and for some inexplicable reason he comes home wearing not just one but two pairs of pajamas!

knackeredmother Fri 12-Apr-13 06:31:58

Bunny mother- my nanny does this too. Somehow manages to find the one item of clothing that is 2 sizes too small and hideous!
I definitely reccomend the laying out clothes approach!

exoticfruits Fri 12-Apr-13 06:39:20

It is just one of those things that you put up with. Mine had very odd combinations of clothes when DH was looking after them. I just inwardly winced and then ignored. However, in your case, I would lay clothes out the night before. Even then you will have to take pot luck with shoes. ( unless you hide the ones you don't want her wearing)

greenandcabbagelooking Fri 12-Apr-13 08:01:19

I teach ballet, and you can tell when dad has dressed the three year old because her leotard is back to front, her crossover isn't crossed, and her hair band has been pulled down rather than up.

They do look very cute like that.

JamieandtheMagicTorch Fri 12-Apr-13 08:04:23

Whatbis an "out dressed badly" , and why is you mother taking it?

gazzalw Fri 12-Apr-13 08:12:04

DW is the queen of matching clothes but DD somehow senses this, and without any help from anyone else manages to put together the most strange combinations of clothes. DW used to be shock but now just accepts that it's part of DD's quirkiness. DD is a bit of a 7 year old Nadia Auermann (she of the very, very long legs) so she tends to pull it off, regardless of how strange the mismatch - we just call it boho chic now wink

gazzalw Fri 12-Apr-13 08:13:11

PS, OP you are incredibly lucky to have an involved parent so count your blessings!

witchface Fri 12-Apr-13 08:29:23

My mum loves to tuck jumpers into jeans, jeans into socks and turn the sleeves up on coats where the arms were not too long to begin with! She did all this with me too and I am waiting for the day she takes dd shopping in pjs. She tells me no one knew but I was old enough to and she took me to bleeding m&s where they had them hanging on a rail. The shame!

wiltingfast Fri 12-Apr-13 09:00:53

Oh I hear you OP why o why can other people not see the gorgeous is looking hideous in awful outfit. My cm always insists she has plenty of clothes then dd arrive home in nasty too small ugly clashing clothes that sometimes are not even ours! Drives me cracked but I say nothing cause I don't want to rock theboat.

That said girl's clothes are quite tricky, so many bloody bits to them, coordinating dress, leggings, vest blah blah god it takes me time in the morning to pull an outfit together for dd so I have some sympathy for someone who is not used ro it.

I was sorting my kids clothes out recently and a I came across a suggeation where a woman uswd to fold outfits into a bundle together in the drawer so all anyone had to do was pull a bundle from the drawe and hey presto!

I wish I was that organised grin

RenterNomad Fri 12-Apr-13 09:21:47

Laughing at "a man dressed that child"!

grin

exoticfruits Fri 12-Apr-13 09:39:35

DW is the queen of matching clothes but DD somehow senses this, and without any help from anyone else manages to put together the most strange combinations of clothes

Good for her-I instantly like her!

gazzalw Fri 12-Apr-13 09:43:31

grin

I cant believe how the op has been jumped on, I read it as being a clearly light hearted observation.

My daughter dresses herself, we've had the tights as trousers (I do draw the line there), but I quite like the clashing patterns and things not quite matching.
There's time enough for her to look all pulled together and worry about things co ordinating. I only intervene if it's weather inappropriate or if we're going somewhere 'special'.

<disclaimer, I am not of the contrived wellies, mad hair and a tutu brigade in case it sounds like I am>. grin

tedmundo Fri 12-Apr-13 10:09:45

YABU .. I always think most little girls look a bit "mad bag lady" style at that age, and that is because they like to dress themselves!

It doesn't hurt anyone and gives them a chance to express themselves .. And for you to get lots of photos to embarrass them with in later years when they are über fashionistas!

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