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To not want this child to come on holidays with us

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arabesque Wed 10-Apr-13 11:08:07

A group of girls I used to share a house with years ago have arranged to go on a reunion weekend to the West of Ireland in June. The plan was to book into a nice hotel, and spend the time relaxing, having nice meals and a few drinks and catching up and reminiscing. However, one of the group has now asked if its okay to bring her six year old daughter as her husband wants to play in a golf tournament that weekend. A child hanging around is going to completely change the tone of the holiday imho. I haven't spoken to all of the group yet but the two I have been in touch with are not too keen either.

AI (or we)BU to think of saying that we'd prefer if it was kept to adults only as it's the first time we've all been together in about ten years?

NynaevesSister Fri 18-Oct-13 18:52:24

Finally found this! Have been wondering how it went. Sounds fab!

wizzler Wed 12-Jun-13 18:49:20

Thanks for the update OP ! Glad you enjoyed your weekend!

Takingthemickey Mon 10-Jun-13 14:46:46

Just read this thread in one go and spit out my coffee laughing at friend sending a picture - how very teenagerish.

Glad you had a great time without the 'fun blocker'.

Glad to hear you had a good time, thanks for the update (had been lurking)

prettybird Mon 10-Jun-13 13:29:02

Fantastic. smile Glad you had a great time and lots of wine and juicy gossip good memories were shared.

What do you mean unfortunately you had to drink her share of the champers and wine? grin
Sounds very fortunate to me.

Arabesque so happy this thread popped up again - thanks for updating!

So so pleased for you (and your pregnant friend, how nice) and pmsl at the thought of EF in Torremolinos.

grin

LadyBeagleEyes Mon 10-Jun-13 11:54:16

Oh BTW, did she go with her DH?
I thought he was on a golfing weekend.

LemonBreeland Mon 10-Jun-13 11:54:04

Thanks for the update. So pleased your weekend was not soured by EF.

The text photo is truly hilarious!

LadyBeagleEyes Mon 10-Jun-13 11:53:11

Thanks for the update Op.
Glad your weekend turned out so fab.

Noseynoonoo Mon 10-Jun-13 11:50:52

Love it - both that you had a great time and that your 'friend' felt the need to send that photo. Hilarious really!

Noseynoonoo Mon 10-Jun-13 11:49:50

Love it - both that you had a great time and that your 'friend' felt the need to send that photo. Hilarious really!

LizTerrine Mon 10-Jun-13 11:49:38

Sounds like a great weekend smile

LittleprincessinGOLDrocks England Mon 10-Jun-13 11:48:11

Sorry - that will teach me to post without reading the whole thread! lol

LittleprincessinGOLDrocks England Mon 10-Jun-13 11:46:42

YANBU - It is a girly weekend away, probably alcohol flowing, dancing the night away kind of reunion. No place for a 6 year old. Even if it were a tame get together having tea and scones the poor girl would be bored rigid!

Arabesque Mon 10-Jun-13 11:39:51

Hi

Just back from a great weekend! One long wanted but totally unexpected pregnancy announcement (which meant unfortunately that we had to drink her share of the champers and wine), loads of shocking revelations about who fancied who at college and

EF did not turn up but did text us all a photograph of herself and DD on a beach on Saturday with 'Greetings from Barbados. Hope you're having a great time in rainy dull Ireland'. hmm. None of us actually believe she's in Barbados but she's obviously out of the country somewhere as the weather was scorching in Ireland, which she obviously wasn't aware of. We suspect she's probably in Torremolinos or somewhere. To be honest, we'd all (apart from pregnant friend) had a couple of glasses of midday champagne when we got it and we just had a good laugh. PG Friend is so happy and over the moon nothing could upset her at the moment smile.

wizzler Sat 08-Jun-13 16:17:49

I too check this thread regulalry to see if there is an update.. surely it can't be long now! op?

gorionine Fri 07-Jun-13 08:46:28

Just read the entire thread this morning! I just am [shocked] that things had to go this far. I totally agree with:
Well, I'm always first in the queue for child-free socialising - however I don't think there's anything wrong per se with not being like that. What is wrong is not accepting that the rest of the group wants a child-free do and then either accepting that, or pulling out.
I am actually never in the queue for child free events because child care is an absolute hell for me to organise (DH working long hours, no family around so only potential babysitters would be attending child free event themselvessmile -totally refuse to hire someone I do not know-)
Friend should just have said she could not come because of childcare issues and ask for all the juicy gossip afterwards. All the group would have been sympathetic and would have probably missed her being there instead of now probably thinking they have had a lucky escape and being glad she actually did not come.

For what it is worth Arabesque, and a bit late, I do not think given the circumstance you and the rest of the group could have done anything differently. I think you all gave her plenty opportunities to stop the situation escalating.

I'd forgotten this! Any update?

Oh, I'd forgotten this! Hope Op comes back for an update, has she posted anything recently?

TidyDancer England Thu 06-Jun-13 23:30:55

Argh! I saw this thread come back and thought the OP was here with an update! Come on OP!

rubiesandpearls Thu 06-Jun-13 23:17:12

Bumping for update too!!

mumbaisapphire Thu 06-Jun-13 23:15:09

It's June at last. Any update OP? Or do we have to wait a bit longer?

prettybird Tue 23-Apr-13 11:28:33

We can't really get a full update until June and we find out whether or not EF appeared! grin

Hope you and your true friends have an absolutely fabulous and child free time and come back having had such a good time already planning the next one even if it does have to be years in the future smile

CorrieDale Tue 23-Apr-13 11:15:08

So the vipers' nest prediction was spot on. I'm sorry but not surprised, and wishing I'd coughed up that fiver.

Fwiw I do not believe for one second that EF will regret what she has done. She will by now be slagging you off to her post-natal friends who will learn, when it happens to them, that there can be two sides to every story. Unless one of them happens to have come across this thread and is trying even now to reconcile the 2 versions of events...

Enjoy your weekend arabesque. As so many others have said - you've dodged a bullet there! When it's all over I would love the name of the hotel!

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