To be a bit uncomfortable with friend's behaviour...

(105 Posts)
wifey6 Tue 09-Apr-13 23:16:34

towards her children?
My friend & I have been friends since school..both have young children who play together weekly. From very early on I noticed she favoured her youngest DS. (They are 4 yo & 2 yo) The way she would give more attention, in ways of cuddles, time & even how she spoke to him.
It was the opposite with her eldest DS, who she would be (still is) very dismissive of.
She makes comments in front of her eldest that the youngest is 'more handsome', 'sweet', 'loving' etc.
the eldest does act up for attention but more worryingly has started agreeing with his mum that the youngest is all the things she says & that he isn't.
I don't say anything to her, but make every effort to reassure the eldest that he is 'handsome', 'loving' & 'caring' & really include him when playing with my own DCs.
Should I say anything to her about the favourtism & if I do, how do I handle it without causing offense?
Sorry for long post

flaminhoopsaloolah Wed 10-Apr-13 22:36:23

Nothing useful to add OP...just wanted to say you are a bloody amazing friend/person.

olivertheoctopus Wed 10-Apr-13 22:42:48

Well done OP. so pleased you were able to say something and get through. That takes real guts.

cjel Wed 10-Apr-13 22:48:57

Don't know how my previous post got this far down . I posted before you had spoken to her. You did fantastic job and hopefully , like you say it will be the start of the family getting the help they need.x

ppeatfruit Thu 11-Apr-13 09:49:26

wifey Do let us know how it all goes.

cjel Thu 11-Apr-13 11:09:51

Thinking of you today, hope you are okx

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