To Ask Parents Nicely to Say No to Their Children

(64 Posts)
Chockyeggpants Tue 09-Apr-13 16:26:39

And mean it and enforce it?
Many thanks.

I am sorry your DD was upset by other children. I think parents should teach their children respect and kindness to others. Its not U for you to expect your child to be treated fairly by other children.

usualsuspect Tue 09-Apr-13 16:51:48

Depends what the question is.

Pick your battles.

BumpingFuglies Tue 09-Apr-13 17:43:41

Were the little charmers' parents even there?

wintertimeisfun Tue 09-Apr-13 18:43:36

at a guess in know what OP means. re my job i am in a position where i unintentionally regularly observe (worst offenders, middle classes) parents not saying no to their precious off spring for fear of a/them kicking off and embarassing them in public or b/think they look cool and laid back letting their kids do what the fuck they want.

to ask parents to say no to their children - YABU. Arbitrary is bad.

to ask parents to say no to their children sometimes - YANBU. Boundaries are important.

to ask parents to say no nicely to their children - which is how I read the title, because of the avoided split infinitive, YANBU. Why can some people only yell?

MintyCatLeaf Tue 09-Apr-13 19:09:41

People seem to be deliberately misinterpreting the OP.

OP, YANBU.

firesidechat Tue 09-Apr-13 19:21:15

Thought it might have something to do with that thread OP.

Didn't dare contribute after the first couple of posts in case I came across as smug. I am smug, but try to keep it to myself.

firesidechat Tue 09-Apr-13 19:22:50

Forgot to add.

YANBU.

HoneyDragon Tue 09-Apr-13 19:25:52

Am I the only person confused as to how the op posting this on here will help her dd?

HoneyDragon Tue 09-Apr-13 19:26:32

And can someone help me out?

usualsuspect Tue 09-Apr-13 19:30:25

No idea,Honey.

firesidechat Tue 09-Apr-13 19:47:04

I think it has something to do with being prepared to be an unpopular parent (saying no when necesaary) and hopefully bring up well behaved, well rounded human beings. Or something like that.

firesidechat Tue 09-Apr-13 19:47:29

necessary

ATouchOfStuffing Tue 09-Apr-13 19:55:05

Sadly parents who think they look 'laid back and cool' just look lazy and uncaring to most people. OP I do know what you mean, was just being facetious as I know someone who is constantly yelling NO! and eye rolling - i.e not enforcing it. It just becomes background noise and the child actually ignores or laughs at her now because it means nothing.
Pick your battles, as someone else said.

HoneyDragon Tue 09-Apr-13 20:14:47

Okaaaay. So basically we are speculating on what the op means, but the majority agree its to do with shit parenting?

In which case I'm out. I dye kids blue and threaten to drop them down gin bottles, so this I'd not the thread for me.

JollyPurpleGiant Tue 09-Apr-13 20:18:27

How do they respond, Honey? If my mother threatened to drop me into a gin bottle I'd be delighted grin

BumpingFuglies Tue 09-Apr-13 20:18:36

I said No at least 500 times today. Do I get a special award? grin

MsBella Tue 09-Apr-13 20:28:12

I prefer using positive techniques to teach my kids, the idea is that if they're doing something really dangerous and I say no they'll take it more seriously than if I was moaning no don't do that stop no no all the time at them which could also make them unhappy and anxious

Chockyeggpants Tue 09-Apr-13 20:30:04

Fireside has it bang on.
I was asking parents to step up and say no to their children instead of not wanting to upset them or make the children hate them. My teaching friends reckon that it's as if the parents are afraid of their children, and this lack of boundary setting has huge repercussions in schools.

Chockyeggpants Tue 09-Apr-13 20:31:58

Saying no makes your children unhappy and anxious??
WTAF.
How many more believe this??
It just goes to prove what my teaching friends are saying.

HoneyDragon Tue 09-Apr-13 20:33:05

Well you could have said that in the op!

Weedy parents are bloody annoying.

Jollypurple .... My plan was to drink all the gin in the very big bottle then drop them in it. I started a thread about it. Oddly enough everyone was in firm support of my plan.

MsBella Tue 09-Apr-13 20:33:39

Well it made me unhappy and anxious never knowing if I was doing something wrong or not and I know of others too...

FanjoForTheMammaries Tue 09-Apr-13 20:34:43

So many critical and judgy threads on MN at moment, it's grim

MsBella Tue 09-Apr-13 20:36:19

I'm pretty sure most parents aren't scared of their children... its just being positive instead of negetive...

'Youre doing that wrong, stop, no, bad, no etc etc" instead using positive parenting

JollyPurpleGiant Tue 09-Apr-13 20:36:36

I missed that one, Honey. I do remember the blue one though.

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