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swayed for a girl =diet,timing,ph levels,and got another boy.

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racheael76 Sat 06-Apr-13 19:32:39

hi i really wanted a daughter this time as we already have 2 sons.i did the dairy diet,milk no salt limited chicken drank evian water ,took calcuim and magnesuim tablets,douche with massengill vinegar(cost a fortune form overseas!) plotted ovulation conceived 5 days before ovulation.i did every thing i know for a liitle girl.so many people have a daughter and a son.did anyone sway and got the sex they wanted?did anyone sway and got wrong gender?what did i do wrong?

I know this is always an emotive topic and always, always, always someone will say the OP should just be grateful for having a child at all.

Why should the OP not be allowed to want one particular gender of child, there can be genuine reasons for thinking they would love to parent one gender of child and have a lot to give them.
The 'you should be grateful' lot, yes of course we should all appreciate our ability to have children but there is ALWAYS going to be someone worse off than ourselves, it doesn't make the OPs feelings any less real or valid.

OP I think charting your cycle and ttc as early as possible was the best chance you had - the other stuff just sounds a bit bonkers. I think the best advice you've had on here is from Caja saying you should see a therapist before you start ttc. No child should be a disappointment before they are even born. Good luck to you.

Booyhoo Sat 06-Apr-13 20:04:47

ogooglebar there have been so many of these type of threads clearly started to piss people off over the past few days, all started by jenny145 or laura533 (examples-not real usernames).

Ogooglebar Sat 06-Apr-13 20:05:56

Wanting a particular sex or gender assumes that you have some rather rigid expectations of what your child is going to be like and how they ought to behave...

flippinada Sat 06-Apr-13 20:06:43

Um..was there not a dodgy post a couple of weeks back from someone about a similar issue that got pulled? Someone else disappointed about having a son?

Oh ffs if this is troll... hmm

SkinnybitchWannabe Sat 06-Apr-13 20:08:02

The nan determines the gender so get another man I guess is the only answer I can give you!
As a mother of 3ds I can understand you wanting a girl, if I had the money I'd be off to America to a fertility clinic so I could have a girl.
That doesn't mean I don't love my beautiful sons btw

SkinnybitchWannabe Sat 06-Apr-13 20:08:24

man not nan!!

Ogooglebar Sat 06-Apr-13 20:09:26

Bahaha at the nan determining the gender skinny grin

flippinada Sat 06-Apr-13 20:09:34

It's just that one pulled a lot of people in and this has a similar feel to it.

If that's not the case then I apologise to the OP.

sunshine401 Sat 06-Apr-13 20:12:18

My First born was a girl ..... grin biscuit

To get a girl your partner needs to boost his X chromosome sperm. He can do this by wearing your pants, only eating meat from female animals and bathing in this extremely expensive vinegar that you can buy direct from asda me.

Alternatively celebrate your good fortune in three healthy little boys.

Ogooglebar Sat 06-Apr-13 20:15:16

Maybe numbers in names should be banned.

racheael76 Sat 06-Apr-13 20:18:54

thank you for your replies i do feel awful butsoooo grateful for my three sons i love them to bits i just want a girl to compltele my family .i just feel a bit down sometimes as i have a good mother daughter relationship with my mum which i mayl never have.just looking for support but you have made me feel my boys are so precious and its no big deal i dont have a girl as i feel i am left out i am from a huge family of girls and my friends have girls.all i did was play with my girl doll when i was younger dreaming about my future .thank you for making me feel better.xxxx enjoy the weekend.x

SirBoobAlot Sat 06-Apr-13 20:20:40

And what exactly is it about a girl that you so desperately want, OP?

I never understand this.

Children are individual human beings. Is it the pink, fluffy things, sewing and hair clips that make you go all gooey? Well, you'd have a field day with my DS. If football, mud, dinosaurs and Thomas are your thing, then you'd adore my friend's DD.

I hate when babies are reduced down purely to their genitalia.

I hope that you don't do this fucking ridiculous "keep having babies until I get one I like" thing. And hope even more that you never tell your sons how you feel.

Poor little boys.

racheael76 Sat 06-Apr-13 20:20:46

dear ogooglebar very sorry my name is spelt like this the most popular spellings were already taken.x

Ogooglebar Sat 06-Apr-13 20:22:37

Oh, ok then. I'm glad you feel better anyway. With three children of any sex I don't think anyone could say your family is incomplete!

racheael76 Sat 06-Apr-13 20:25:35

i would never tell my sons and they are all loved greatly.i always wanted four children although i just thought id have a mixture but was wrong.ps me and husband work hard to ensure they go to their hobbies football ,rugby so four would be the limit as we could afford no more.a little bored when husband takes boys to watch football and my friends are shopping with daughters .my be next time i can go to ballet!

quoteunquote Sat 06-Apr-13 20:33:03

Get an older vegan husband, increase your chance of a daughter.

It's all down to the sperm,

So get on the guardian's soul mates, or move to southern India and get shagging.

Booyhoo Sat 06-Apr-13 20:44:35

boys can go shopping, girls can watch football.

i think you are bing a bit immature saying your only played with your girl doll and dreamed of your future. you were a little girl then. you are an adult now, you really should have realised by now that childhood dreams, whilst lovely, are very idealistic and rarely pan out exactly as you dreamed them. thsi is part of being an adult,

you could have four rugby playing girls and still have no-one to go shopping with. there are no guarantees.

make the most of your children, if shopping is what you want to do with them then go. i have two boys who love shopping, one loves getting his nails painted and the other is starting to get very into his hair and picky about his clothes. they both also love getting mucked to the eyeballs in the garden and i know 100% that if i had a girl she would be right there in the middle of it with them.

SinkyMalinks Sat 06-Apr-13 20:45:06

Er...

I'm a girl. I play rugby and would rather poke my eyes out than go on a saturday shopping expedition.

But feel free to crack on with the gender stereotyping eh?

Booyhoo Sat 06-Apr-13 20:45:36

and take your boys to the ballet! why on earth wouldn't you? confused

Boooyhoo - I can't think of any boys I know who would, in honesty, want to go to the ballet.

BarredfromhavingStella Sat 06-Apr-13 20:52:14

Fuck me, stereotyping much? I'm a girl, love rugby players , adore cars & the ballet is one of my favourite things in the world.

A child is an individual & should be treated as such, saying your family is incomplete without a girl is frankly pathetic-you need to get a fucking grip.

Booyhoo Sat 06-Apr-13 20:55:17

that's quite alright daffodil. i wasn't saying you should take any boys to the ballet.

mine would go. my eldest wants to be a gymnast- but the course at the local leisure centre wont enroll him because he's a boy and boys have to be taught differently hmm

TheBigJessie Sat 06-Apr-13 20:55:36

To be honest, you're better off investing in ballet lessons for boys than girls. The competition for girls to get into the Royal Ballet School is fierce. Less boys apply though. And all of the famous ballets have parts for men, don't they?

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