To think it was insensitive to have said this about my post baby body and be a bit upset??

(97 Posts)
emeraldgirl1 Sat 06-Apr-13 19:25:19

I had a c section 3.5 weeks ago.
My SIL has just come round and gone on and on about ow I 'still look five months pregnant' and how this 'didn't happen' with her after her c section.

sad

She kept looking at me from different angles and saying, 'it's just really weird, your tummy still looks pregnant!'

I would have told her (politely) to bugger off but I was too upset to get into it so just left the room.

.i am sleep deprived and have struggled with eating disorders and body image issues previously (SIL knows this) and feel very sensitive on this matter.

I am now worried that I have got totally wrecked stomach muscles from the c section and that they will never be normal ever again sad

Could it be my uterus not contracting down yet?? I haven't been able to breast feed (Been feeling rubbish about this too... SIL also knows this...) and so wonder if my tummy is still protruding from sticking out uterus. Possible??

I probably do look v pregnant still, I am overall quite skinny but do still have a big bulging tummy. I had been feeling better about it these last few days as I thought it was improving and now I feel really really shit.

sIL not known for her sensitivity but this is a bit much. I may just be hormonal and tired but I feel rubbish now and just want to hide away because I feel like a freak.

bigbuttons Sat 06-Apr-13 19:26:22

what a fucking cow she is. I'd keep her out of your house if i were you.

anonymosity Sat 06-Apr-13 19:27:05

You will be fine. She is a complete bitch. When you're rested and feeling stronger you can tell her to fuck off.

Lovelygoldboots Sat 06-Apr-13 19:27:40

What a twat, keep her at arms length.

What. A. Bitch. Regardless if you have or have not shrunk yet, she is unbelievably insensitive. FWIW, it took ages for my tummy to shrink back after my CS. You probably notice because you are slim to start with. I wasn't smile

emeraldgirl1 Sat 06-Apr-13 19:28:39

I have gone upstairs and left them all to it.
I feel really really miserable and embarrassed. I made an effort to look nice for this evening and now I just feel like I am fat and pregnant looking.

IShallCallYouSquishy Sat 06-Apr-13 19:29:08

I had my DD 10 months ago and still look about 4 months pregnant!

What a bitch. Unless you had a sneaky tummy tuck during your c section how on earth are you expected to not have a tummy 3.5 weeks after giving birth?

ENormaSnob Sat 06-Apr-13 19:29:16

Sil is a cunt.

What a fucking witch!

Snoopingforsoup Sat 06-Apr-13 19:30:07

Nasty cow. Ignore her.
She's clearly jealous about something to feel the need to do that!

emeraldgirl1 Sat 06-Apr-13 19:30:14

Thanks everyone.
I am now pathetically googling 'uterus shrinking' to see if I am 'normal' or not!!!

McNewPants2013 Sat 06-Apr-13 19:30:20

Ignore her or better still say did you mean to be so rude.

KatyTheCleaningLady Sat 06-Apr-13 19:30:39

She's an utter heinous cunt.

emeraldgirl1 Sat 06-Apr-13 19:31:36

Am going to go back downstairs and get a very large glass of very old white wine

TaggieCampbellBlack Sat 06-Apr-13 19:31:39

3 weeks????????

Mine is still there after 15 bloody years. I am a greedy pig though.

Anyway. Your SiL is an insensitive cow.

emeraldgirl1 Sat 06-Apr-13 19:31:48

Cold not old!!

cathpip Sat 06-Apr-13 19:32:02

I looked 6 months pregnant post c section, your sil is truly awful and don't worry it does go down. Enjoy your evening and im sure you look fabulous smile

Littleturkish Sat 06-Apr-13 19:32:24

BITCH.

I had a baby four weeks ago and without hyperbole, would feel suicidal if someone said this to me- I too have ED history and lay awake at night struggling with my post baby body, hating myself for even caring.

Ignore her, she's being deliberatly hateful. I BF and uterus has gone back down but I still have a pregnant looking tummy. It's normal. It will go back. So will yours, I promise.

TaggieCampbellBlack Sat 06-Apr-13 19:32:38

Swerp the whole flipping bottle up. And the baby and retreat to your room.

buggerama Sat 06-Apr-13 19:34:14

It takes ages for a c section tummy to go down. And I have had 3. It took me 2 years to feel like ME again after my 3rd. I dont know if I am unusual or not, but after the swellling goes down, then I needed to lose the weight and it felt like all my organs were in the wrong place. Anyway, it took ages for me, ignore the silly bitch, you are in a vulnerable place post cs. This is just the exact opposite of what people should say to you right now. I'm sure you look just as you should right now

HavingALittleFaithBaby Sat 06-Apr-13 19:34:22

You've just had major abdominal surgery. There's probsbly a fair amount of swelling there! She is a cow. When you've composed yourself a bit I'd say to her the MN classic Did you mean to be so rude?!

KayHunt Sat 06-Apr-13 19:34:50

fucking hell, go and point out that her nose is bloody huge and she should get it sorted.

Enjoy your wine and don't stress. It's quite normal to have to wait for your body to return to it's new shape, you've had 9 months worth of growing inside there.

FarBetterNow Sat 06-Apr-13 19:35:43

She is a bitch.

Ignore her.

You will be slim again.
I agree with Mrs Terry, your tummy may appear to be bigger than it really is as the rest of you is skinny.
Hope that makes sense.

It will go down on it's own, don't do any dieting - you need all your energy to cope with the lack of sleep.

The celebrities who get their figure back with a week of giving birth are mental (IMO).

Eebahgum Sat 06-Apr-13 19:35:46

it's perfectly normal. Mine looked like that too and then gradually shrank. I reckon you should make it very clear to her how much she's upset you. Insensitive cow.

Ignore, ignore, ignore.
She is a cow, and almost certainly a lying cow!

You've had major surgery, please try and forget her comments (hard I know), relax and enjoy your lovely new baby. Congratulations by the way!

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