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To dislike attention-seeking "woe is me" facebook updates with no explanation

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frogspoon Sat 06-Apr-13 13:15:36

Facebook friend has recently posted this update:

"Today has been absolutely heartbreaking. Sulking, wine and zombie films are required."

Several friends have responded to the messages by asking what is wrong. She has not bothered to respond to any of them.

AIBU to think there is probably nothing wrong and she is just attention seeking as usual. Surely if something bad actually had happened, she would explain. She does have a habit of posting these messages often, usually the outcome being that her boyfriend has a cold/ has gone away for the weekend etc.

shellbu Mon 08-Apr-13 07:58:25

i have deleted f/b i was getting pissed off seeing daily holiday countdowns , how many hours at the gym they will have to do now they had a bar of chocolate , im ugly pics ( oh your not , yes i am sadface ),cryptic messages ( you know who you are ) ! oh and the cat pics i bloody hate cats .

Verbalpunchbag Mon 08-Apr-13 06:35:21

If it wasn't for Facebook how would you know what your friends were having for dinner or what they were watching on tv?

CalamityJ Mon 08-Apr-13 06:19:11

Facebook is used for 3 types of status update:

1) Breaking news - I'm engaged/pregnant etc.
2) Boasting - Look at this photo of me doing something amazing with my amazing friends somewhere amazing!
3) Cryptic moaning - Just had the worst day/Why can't things ever go right for me?/Today calls for wine etc.

YABU if you haven't worked that out yet grin

TheRealFellatio Mon 08-Apr-13 03:10:23

YABNU. I bloody hate them. I saw one the other day (not a friend of mine but a friend of a friend) that said 'If only I could turn the clock back, but it's too late. It's done and it can't be undone. I am distraught' or some such nonsense. Cue a hundred messages of 'oh what is it hun? We all love you. I'm here for you if you need to talk.' etc, etc

I just thought 'Fuck off.' Either tell people properly or shut up.

My pet Fbook hates - attention seeking updates (like ones already been described here), people who post the Dalai Lama's/positive thinking blah vlah daily updates to everyone's newsfeed, posting stuff like 'Friends are like stars, you can't see them but you know they're always there' etc etc. But, also blow by blow accounts of their toddler's potty training. Thanks, I really want to know that in detail. Not.
Then there's the people (MIL, SIL hmm who insist on sending you game requests when you clearly never play zombiewars/mafiawhatever/bejewelled blitz and have no intention of ever doing so. I just block em all ! (along with potty training mum's thrice daily updates).

BegoniaBampot Mon 08-Apr-13 00:55:20

i use FB everyday. I never really see the kind of stuff everyone goes on about. all the woe is me or racist abusive posts, folk fighting online. Don't blame FB for having idiot friends.

Viviennemary Sun 07-Apr-13 18:48:59

I couldn't be bothered with facebook for this reason. If a friend of mine was very low I'd expect them to ring me up and come round for a coffee. Not post a cryptic message on facebook which I wouldn't see anyway.

sallysparrow157 Sun 07-Apr-13 18:48:30

A mate of mine posted a while ago something along the lines of "stressy day today, looking forward to getting home and sitting on the sofa with a cuppa" so not overly attention seeking, just a bit of a moan but deliberately not going int what was making her day stressy (so as not to openly moan about her workplace on Facebook). A couple of friends then decided to comment on her status with great detail about the somewhat sensitive work situation and as she was on her phone on the Facebook ap thingy she couldn't log in to delete it, making her stressy day a bit worse! I agree that the very clear attention seeking posts are annoying but sometimes cryptic ones are needed if you want to have a bit of a moan without getting into trouble (though still annoying if you're nosey and don't know what they're talking about)

Minetired Sun 07-Apr-13 18:43:42

My sis-in-law, is always on Facebook going on about how her husband is useless and doesn't pay her an attention. I cant believe how many of her friends like her status, and tell her all men are bastards. Then within 24hrs he is be best hubby in the world and she couldn't live without him! All her friends then like her status and tell her how lucky she is!!!! confused
If she wasn't family I would delete her as a friend.

MunchkinsMumof2 Sun 07-Apr-13 18:05:08

I have vaguebookers too "some people are just not worth the effort" oh hun are you ok? Who has upset you? Chin up you're worth more bla bla ba. Does my nut.

One of favourite things to do with Dp, reading out annoying things on Facebook, keeps our relationship fresh

One of my personal favourites is when someone does something ordinary and every comment is AMAZINGG!!! Wow you're soooooo the best xyz !! Awwww thanks hun so r u !!!!
Puke bucket please plz

YouTheCat Sun 07-Apr-13 15:45:12

All I get from my family on there is 'check in at the pub' grin

I have a policy on Facebook, anyone who does this type of post more than 3 times in a row is a gonner.

Anyone who posts or shares any sexist or racist bullshit is gone first time.

I do however have one girl who makes my teeth itch although she's a closer relative so I've just had to 'hide' get to stop family politics going nuts, she does the 'why do I bother with life' and the lovely 'nice to know even my family don't give a shut when none of them will even bring me a fag' type posts. What makeshift laugh more is that they're always ended with a kiss!

Eg. "Life is so shit, I give and give and get nuffin bk! Xxx"

Gossipmonster Sun 07-Apr-13 15:23:09

I have people who take "Facebook Breaks"

Really? You are that fucking important that you need a break from your fans? hmm

Filibear Sun 07-Apr-13 15:20:37

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YouTheCat Sun 07-Apr-13 15:04:00

Also I've had some friends deactivate for a set time so they could get some work done which is fair enough (or even to just have a break from it). But then there are 1 or 2 who deactivate every other month. I know one who does it and then gets loads of texts etc asking if she's ok and then a few weeks later she'll reactivate it again.

I ignore her mainly. She is nearly 50 ffs.

Whatisthepointoffriendships Sun 07-Apr-13 15:03:49

I hate the a&e check ins too. And then often the person won't come back to answer the questions asking why they are there. Why check in there if they don't want to talk about it?!

YouTheCat Sun 07-Apr-13 15:01:43

It is only attention seeking if you do it often.

I also hate the facebook 'check in' - so and so is at A & E etc. Cue lots of 'Hope ur ok hun xxx' and stuff.

I have some on there who practically live in a and e it would seem.

Whatisthepointoffriendships Sun 07-Apr-13 14:56:19

Lol at mood hoovers!

I have a fb friend who is very attention seeking. Lots of cryptic statuses,and duck faced photos in front of the mirror which get lots of 'oh wow Hun you are gorgeous' comments. Also she brags and puts photos on of stuff she buys. She is 40 and I'd say my 14 year old is more mature than her.

CelticPixie Sun 07-Apr-13 14:12:51

Well said cousin who I mentioned yesterday has decided to deactivate her account again today..... Until next week when she realises she's not getting any attention anymore and then she's back.

I dont know whats worse tbh, the ones who just post sad, or the ones who write a War and Peace sized saga about the trials of their lives!

I hate the pregnancy ones though as I always worry, especially if they then dont answer the phone angry

MrsDeVere Sat 06-Apr-13 20:28:35

I have just done one blush

I have had the most dreadful day but I am not going to into details about it on FB. Just said I had an awful day. Lots of people just giving me XX. Which is very nice.

I don't want them to be worried about me though. I just wanted to say I had a bloody awful day.

But I can see how it might look.

Perhaps those attention seeking posts are not all as attention seeking as we think?

BegoniaBampot Sat 06-Apr-13 20:23:28

I think the thing about clearing accounts and inbox to stay friends is sometimes an automatic thing that goes out, not necessarily from the person.

None of my friends do these attention seeking things -well maybe one and I don't hide her as I find it a bit car cash fascinating.

MyDarlingClementine England Sat 06-Apr-13 19:45:36

Yes very annoying when anyone repeatedly posts anything when no one knows what they mean.

I just think you sad bored person really.

KC225 Sat 06-Apr-13 19:44:10

HairyGrot: What is a grief vampire?

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