Note: Please bear in mind that whilst this topic does canvass opinions, it is not a fight club. You may disagree with other posters but we do ask you please to stick to our Talk Guidelines and to be civil. We don't allow personal attacks or troll-hunting. Do please report any. Thanks, MNHQ.

To dislike attention-seeking "woe is me" facebook updates with no explanation

(83 Posts)
frogspoon Sat 06-Apr-13 13:15:36

Facebook friend has recently posted this update:

"Today has been absolutely heartbreaking. Sulking, wine and zombie films are required."

Several friends have responded to the messages by asking what is wrong. She has not bothered to respond to any of them.

AIBU to think there is probably nothing wrong and she is just attention seeking as usual. Surely if something bad actually had happened, she would explain. She does have a habit of posting these messages often, usually the outcome being that her boyfriend has a cold/ has gone away for the weekend etc.

sallysparrow157 Sun 07-Apr-13 18:48:30

A mate of mine posted a while ago something along the lines of "stressy day today, looking forward to getting home and sitting on the sofa with a cuppa" so not overly attention seeking, just a bit of a moan but deliberately not going int what was making her day stressy (so as not to openly moan about her workplace on Facebook). A couple of friends then decided to comment on her status with great detail about the somewhat sensitive work situation and as she was on her phone on the Facebook ap thingy she couldn't log in to delete it, making her stressy day a bit worse! I agree that the very clear attention seeking posts are annoying but sometimes cryptic ones are needed if you want to have a bit of a moan without getting into trouble (though still annoying if you're nosey and don't know what they're talking about)

Viviennemary Sun 07-Apr-13 18:48:59

I couldn't be bothered with facebook for this reason. If a friend of mine was very low I'd expect them to ring me up and come round for a coffee. Not post a cryptic message on facebook which I wouldn't see anyway.

BegoniaBampot Mon 08-Apr-13 00:55:20

i use FB everyday. I never really see the kind of stuff everyone goes on about. all the woe is me or racist abusive posts, folk fighting online. Don't blame FB for having idiot friends.

My pet Fbook hates - attention seeking updates (like ones already been described here), people who post the Dalai Lama's/positive thinking blah vlah daily updates to everyone's newsfeed, posting stuff like 'Friends are like stars, you can't see them but you know they're always there' etc etc. But, also blow by blow accounts of their toddler's potty training. Thanks, I really want to know that in detail. Not.
Then there's the people (MIL, SIL hmm who insist on sending you game requests when you clearly never play zombiewars/mafiawhatever/bejewelled blitz and have no intention of ever doing so. I just block em all ! (along with potty training mum's thrice daily updates).

TheRealFellatio Mon 08-Apr-13 03:10:23

YABNU. I bloody hate them. I saw one the other day (not a friend of mine but a friend of a friend) that said 'If only I could turn the clock back, but it's too late. It's done and it can't be undone. I am distraught' or some such nonsense. Cue a hundred messages of 'oh what is it hun? We all love you. I'm here for you if you need to talk.' etc, etc

I just thought 'Fuck off.' Either tell people properly or shut up.

CalamityJ Mon 08-Apr-13 06:19:11

Facebook is used for 3 types of status update:

1) Breaking news - I'm engaged/pregnant etc.
2) Boasting - Look at this photo of me doing something amazing with my amazing friends somewhere amazing!
3) Cryptic moaning - Just had the worst day/Why can't things ever go right for me?/Today calls for wine etc.

YABU if you haven't worked that out yet grin

Verbalpunchbag Mon 08-Apr-13 06:35:21

If it wasn't for Facebook how would you know what your friends were having for dinner or what they were watching on tv?

shellbu Mon 08-Apr-13 07:58:25

i have deleted f/b i was getting pissed off seeing daily holiday countdowns , how many hours at the gym they will have to do now they had a bar of chocolate , im ugly pics ( oh your not , yes i am sadface ),cryptic messages ( you know who you are ) ! oh and the cat pics i bloody hate cats .

Join the discussion

Join the discussion

Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Register now