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Online dating - 'No brats in tow please' from a mid-40s male. Seriously??

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Mendi Thu 04-Apr-13 20:02:53

The following from the Match.com page of a slightly pudgy, looks 45-years old plus loser '42 year old' 'commodities trader':

'I'm looking for fun/ friendship/relationship, but am looking for an independent woman who can do 50:50, especially financially. No freeloaders please. No 'worn the t-shirt' types (but who've still failed to learn from mistakes & blame everyone else, but themselves). No 'free dinner/drink ticket' types. No 'baggage/brats in tow' types (do you really think a man wants someone else's mistakes or left overs to bother with? Get a reality check, pleaze). And no 'cheap easy trashy commodity' types. I could go on, and lament sometimes. Just someone who is honest and down to earth, but has moderate style, finesse and poise (plus can pay her own way in life, or did I already say that. Lol). Simple basics can go a long way. '

I have only dipped my toe in the water of OD and already realised it;s not for me. All blokes who expect your knickers to drop off at the mere prospect of hooking up with him, or like this guy, sort of 'don't bother me if you have ANY baggage at all' even though at my age I must surely reasonably expect that any woman of appropriate age will have at least a failed relationship or a kid or two.

'No baggage/brats in tow types (do you really think a man wants someone else's mistakes or left overs to bother with?...'

What a charmer.

WallyBantersJunkBox Sat 06-Apr-13 17:11:11

Velvet have you thought about going on UniformDating.com?

A senior person in the forces or the Police force can be the right mix of brains and brawn IYSWIM?

Even if the idiots on the ARRSE website have given the forces a bad name there are a lot of nice guys on there in senior ranks?

Unlike most of my peers I found city traders a complete wimpy turnoff. Probably for the same reasons as you.

IT geeks are quite my thing too though. My DH is an ex Army IT geek and I never had any issues with that.

babybarrister Sat 06-Apr-13 17:36:05

I did not meet DH online although both of us had been on the same website but at different points in time!

DH was a set up though via a colleague .....

There is hope out there I promise!!! [I was divorced!!]

VelvetSpoon Sat 06-Apr-13 17:39:03

WallyBanters funnily enough one of my Exs (the best one!) was in the police, he was the only man I know who understood what my job involved and was interested in hearing about it. Shame most policeman are serial shaggers!

I am currently 'dating' someone who does web design and stuff, he is rather lovely though it's VERY early days yet smile but he is clever enough and also (as he is good at mechanical things and buys and sells antiques) is practical and interesting enough too...it makes a refreshing change smile

IfNotNowThenWhen Sat 06-Apr-13 18:18:57

I don't know really velvet-I wouldn't want you to think I am beating them off with a shitty stick-far from it!
I think, though, that I grew up being kind of "alternative" and the other kids I met were often from very wc backgrounds, but were square,pegs,misfits in the town we lived in, so I always knew a lot of people from very bog standard roots, but who were interested in books, and music etc.
I guess I have just kept meeting them as an adult.
Having said that, they tend to be from the kind of background where Dad is a machine fitter or whatever, but they have white collar jobs, but still that sense of having a foot in both camps, like you do.
I think Guardian Soulmates is the best site for these types actually.

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