AIBU to tell my DP the bracelet he got me is a fake

(32 Posts)
pizzaqueen Wed 03-Apr-13 12:36:13

My partner bought me a Links London charm bracelet for my 21st birthday, 3 years ago. I absolutely loved it thought at the time it was a very extravagant gift for him.

Since then I've added more charms for my graduation and birth of my son - it has much sentimental value.

One of the charms came loose so I took it to the shop today to have it repaired. The lady said she couldn't find the matching metal and consulted her manager - turns out its a very good fake. I was embarrassed to say the least, she didn't fix it for me but gave me the parts to do it myself as al my charms are real and she felt I was a genuine customer. She was extremely apologetic, it wasn't her fault though! She said they see a lot of fakes and a lot of website online are very convincing that its the real product.

So should I tell DP I know it's a fake? I don't know whether he thinks it is real or deliberately gave me it knowing it wasn't real because he felt he had to get me an extravagant gift.

I'm gutted not because the bracelet is fake but because it now has a lot of sentimental value. I wouldn't care of it was a £20 Argos charm bracelet...it's the thought and sentiment that matters and not it feels tainted.

MonaLotte Wed 03-Apr-13 12:38:44

Is it the whole bracelet or just a charm? That would be very disappointing. I would let him know in case he doesn't know and has spent a lot of money on a fake.

neunundneunzigluftballons Wed 03-Apr-13 12:40:46

I would say there is no come back 3 years later and now it is 'real' in the sense that it means the world to you and is priceless. I would not tell him and in a few years time when you have loads of charms break it properly and make him get you a replacement

I wouldn't say anything, either he has been had, or he couldn't afford the real thing and was too embarrassed to say. It still has the same sentimental value to you amd you have had it for years now so it doesn' t really matter.

Chocoflump Wed 03-Apr-13 12:43:00

I would not tell him either. There's always the chance he knew it was a fake but felt he had to give an expensive present so bought it. It would really embarrass him.

Passmethecrisps Wed 03-Apr-13 12:45:03

Hmm. I think I would tell him. Just as you have done here. It is likely he has bought it not realising it was fake. Although, when you think about it does its provenance actually matter? You love it and it has masses of sentimental value. Hmm again. What would you gain from telling him?

Passmethecrisps Wed 03-Apr-13 12:46:05

I have decided. You should keep it to yourself.

MomaP Wed 03-Apr-13 12:46:33

I agree that you should tell DH, mainly because he may of spent a lot of money on the bracelet and had no idea it was a fake himself.

expatinscotland Wed 03-Apr-13 12:48:12

I'd tell him it was fake.

TheCraicDealer Wed 03-Apr-13 12:50:02

I'd be worried about him buying something else from the same source and getting conned again tbh. Not even just with another bit of jewellery, it could be any "branded" item that he's trying to save cash on.

But it's a good lesson to learn- these type of things (a quick google shows that the silver braclet retails at £110 across a number of retailers) are around the same price everywhere. If something's too good to be true, it usually is.

livinginwonderland Wed 03-Apr-13 12:51:10

I think you should just leave it. Telling him won't achieve anything - if he knew, it's just awkward, and if he didn't, he'll be so embarrassed.

ThreeWheelsGood Wed 03-Apr-13 12:51:11

Tell him - he must believe it's real. That way you can share your disappointment, he can help you fix it. if you want you can both save together for a new one.

pizzaqueen Wed 03-Apr-13 12:51:52

It's the bracelet that is fake, the farms are all real.

I have no idea whether he knows its a fake or not. I'm
So torn over whether it would embarrass him because at the time he couldn't afford the real thing but wanted to spoil me or if he was just had by a convincing website (I know he bought it online).

Passmethecrispa youre right I probably won't gain anything from telling him.

pizzaqueen Wed 03-Apr-13 12:52:12

Charms are real*

Waferthinmint Wed 03-Apr-13 12:56:40

Three years on it is not worth mentioning as he can't do anything about it anyway. It will just be awkward and embarrassing for all.

KnottingnotKnitting Wed 03-Apr-13 12:56:44

Out of interest, who bought the charms? If he bought the charms and those or genuine, surely it is unlikely that he would have bought a fake bracelet?

If, on the other hand, you bought the charms yourself I would keep quiet about the bracelet, as he might not have been able to afford the real thing and thought you'd never know the difference.

KnottingnotKnitting Wed 03-Apr-13 12:57:47

*are, not or!

Locketjuice Wed 03-Apr-13 13:03:56

I would tell him, purely because if he brought it not knowing it was fake I would think he would want to know as I would.. Although it might be quite awkward hmm

pizzaqueen Wed 03-Apr-13 13:06:38

The charms were gifts from various people. I think I'll keep quiet. Thank you everyone for your advice.

I'm just going to tell myself he bought it in good faith it was real. Even if he did know it was early in our relationship and he probably just wanted to impress me with a nice gift. Makes no difference now.

MusicalEndorphins Wed 03-Apr-13 13:11:37

Let it be yours and a few thousand mumsnet members little secret.
You love it and that is what counts.

whokilleddannylatimer Wed 03-Apr-13 13:13:14

I would leave it, three years on if he thought it was genuine he is very unlikely to get a refund, especially if it was from a site selling fakes as real.

If he knew it was fake and couldn't afford he will be embarrassed.

Nothing to gain either way.

ImTooHecsyForYourParty Wed 03-Apr-13 13:18:25

It came with the same amount of love whether it was real or fake, so I wouldn't say anything.

CajaDeLaMemoria Wed 03-Apr-13 13:19:49

Did she seem genuine?

It's not unknown for genuine LL bracelets to be declared fake at some shops, especially if you go without the reciept.

hiddenhome Wed 03-Apr-13 14:25:53

Take it to another jewellers for a second opinion. Perhaps she was telling you it was a fake in the hope that you'd want to buy a 'genuine' one from their shop.

cumfy Wed 03-Apr-13 14:57:49

How odd!

Why didn't they fix it ?

Surely the provenance is irrelevant; you just wanted your bracelet mended.
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