To spend DH's money

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DH is a lazy arse, hes a good dad and husband but hes a messy sod who never picks up after himself-don't get me wrong he does do a lot of jobs around the house but he just isn't tidy.

he has a pernicious habit of plonking his pocket change on the bedside cabinets when he gets changed from work. I have asked, I have nagged, I have moaned, I have cajoled him to not do it because I am sick of fishing coins out of 15m ds's mouth.

So quietly a few months ago I decided to start collecting all the bits of change up in jar I keep secretly stashed away. Its been the odd quid here and there but usually 20p and 50p. I have just counted and theres £32

AIBU to spend the lot on a treat for me and the kids? DH is always moaning we cant afford this and that, we rarely go on days out but I have enough there for a train fare to a nice local town or enough to take them to the kids AM cinema and have nice sandwich lunch.

Or should I just give him back the bloody money and tell him how much better off he'd be if he didn't chuck it around and how much safer DS would be!

RichManPoorManBeggarmanThief Wed 03-Apr-13 12:21:55

Spend it

catgirl1976 Wed 03-Apr-13 12:22:59

Spend away smile

SoHHKB Wed 03-Apr-13 12:24:21

Spend it and enjoy! grin

and perhaps get him to put his change straight in the jar wink

Bluebell99 Wed 03-Apr-13 12:25:18

I think you should spend it too. He hasn't missed it so far, and you have saved it. Unless there is something you really ought to spend it on?!

I have just worked out that i started this just after xmas, that approx £10 quid a month he just hasn't missed!

threesypeesy Wed 03-Apr-13 12:26:11

Id also spend it grin

CadleCrap Wed 03-Apr-13 12:26:21

What would he do with the money? If it is not family orientated then spend it grin

Chocoflump Wed 03-Apr-13 12:26:32

Definately spend it

I dunno tough one. DH is a bit like this..leaves money all over the place and I often find notes in his pockets. I tend to have a place I put it and he knows where this is.

Personally, I wouldn't spend it as it isn't my money and regardless of him leaving it about it would feel a bit like stealing.

Up to you though, would he be annoyed if you spent it and then told him where the money was from. Why not just keep saving it and then put it towards a family day out where he goes as well.

ClaraOswald Wed 03-Apr-13 12:27:10

spend it. He doesn't seem to be bothered by "losing" it.

EuroShaggleton Wed 03-Apr-13 12:27:39

Spend it on something for all of you - your husband too. And disuss it with him first.

If I just spend it do i then tell him where the money for the day out came from? I kind of started picking up th money to make a point about how careless he is.

The reason I check the jar was that I haven't been able to give the kids a day out at all this easter hols. It would be nice to do so.

well if you don't tell him then obviously you know it's the wrong thing to do......you don't feel comfortable spending it do you!

The reason I check the jar was that I haven't been able to give the kids a day out at all this easter hols. It would be nice to do so

So just tell him that then - am sure he won't begrudge you and the kids a nice day out but do tell him first.

cathpip Wed 03-Apr-13 12:31:15

Spend it, I do this with the children I nanny for. The rule being if you leave your money lying around then you clearly don't need it, it gets put in a jar and then spent on days out. (daddy has also fallen foul of this rulesmile)

Toasttoppers Wed 03-Apr-13 12:31:34

Spend it on the dc on a nice day out.

livinginwonderland Wed 03-Apr-13 12:31:41

he obviously doesn't need it if it's left lying around the house! spend it!

Heres the drip feed though..... (sorry guilty of this)

I know he went into his overdraft today.

Carolra Wed 03-Apr-13 12:33:40

This made me chuckle - my pet peeve is my DH's little piles of change... they are everywhere. So a couple of months ago we instigated a new rule - if I find them, I can keep them! (although I do usually just put it all in dd's money box, or use them to buy milk - its not very exciting!!)

BuiltForComfort Wed 03-Apr-13 12:38:36

is no-one else shock that your DH can't be arsed to move his money so that his 15mo child isn't in danger of choking on or swallowing coins??

It may give him a jolt if you show him how much cash he leaves around, but really the message to him has to be STOP leaving change around where your baby can get to it. THAT is the issue here, not you having a day out on the proceeds of his laziness.

Pilgit Wed 03-Apr-13 12:38:46

before you spend it I'd have a hunt for any other stashes of money (in our house the sofa is known for hoarding cash). If he's lovely in all other respects I'd then surprise him with a family day out and only tell him hlf way through. will get two points across - 1) that he a=can be a bit careless with money and 2) a bit of saving can mean family fun.

alternative option keep doing it, don't tell him, open a cash ISA and use it for christmas presents - defray the cost of christmas by utilising a bad habit!

is no-one else that your DH can't be arsed to move his money so that his 15mo child isn't in danger of choking on or swallowing coins??

Indeed, he just doesn't think though. It's not malicious.

tomatoplantproject Wed 03-Apr-13 12:47:57

This drives me nuts. I found about £5 in change down the sofa yesterday. I've taken to putting it all into a money box for dd. I gave him a small change purse thing for Christmas which he doesn't use but he's got the message, and I now see the loose change as fair game.

Treat the kids I say!!

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