To say enough is enough

(39 Posts)
textfan Tue 02-Apr-13 00:06:23

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DontmindifIdo Tue 02-Apr-13 14:00:03

see, I'd just do it, and then tell her to her face that if she's not going to discipline her DCs, then she shouldn't bring them to family events because their behaviour is terrible. Quite frankly, shouting once might be enough to stop them doing it again, or at least to get them refusing to go to things horrible Aunty Textfan is at, so either way works.

Talk to your mum, there's a point when being close comes at too high a cost for one person.

textfan Tue 02-Apr-13 14:54:34

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textfan Tue 02-Apr-13 15:14:50

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textfan Wed 03-Apr-13 19:21:34

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textfan Sat 13-Apr-13 05:09:20

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cozietoesie Sat 13-Apr-13 07:29:16

Well that's fine - let there be silence.

textfan

I believe in cutting family a fair bit of slack but basically there's no law that says you have to like or want to associate with your blood kin. If you wouldn't want to be friendly with her if she wasn't your sis then I'd just let her stew now because it sounds as if she's exhausted any leeway.

Be open to her kids contacting you at a later stage in their lives, perhaps, but as for her? I'd forget about her. Family 'do's' will sort themselves out - they usually do.

textfan Sat 13-Apr-13 12:16:57

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RenterNomad Sat 13-Apr-13 13:56:40

Perhaps she'll take family less for granted, now she's in the big world, where people walk away from rude and selfish behaviour, and where "falling out with someone" doesn't bring that person running back! Isn't that just craaaazy?!

DontmindifIdo Sun 14-Apr-13 12:06:49

I think you're best to leave her to think about it for a while. Quite frankly, if her DCs are as bad as you say, then friends will also start to pull away from her (i have one lovely lovely friend who's DS is a bit of a handful, I've pointedly only invited her over to ours in the day when I already know she's not going to be able to make it, then will just see her at grown up events so my DS doesn't have to put up with hers, I do'nt think I'm the only one doing this). Eventually she'll realise she has to do something or be very isolated.

textfan Sun 14-Apr-13 14:20:32

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cozietoesie Sun 14-Apr-13 14:32:19

Sounds as if you're starting to feel sorry for her again?

Don't - unless she starts trying to help herself, your responsibility is to you and your own.

textfan Sun 14-Apr-13 14:36:47

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textfan Sun 14-Apr-13 18:44:03

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DontmindifIdo Sun 14-Apr-13 18:48:51

yes, people will repeat the same pattern until they realise they are reason for it.

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