selecting only certain children at wedding.

(213 Posts)
frangipan Mon 01-Apr-13 09:13:36

how badly is this received? It comes down to money at the end of the day so decided to cut costs by not inviting any children, except bride and grooms child, grooms brothers child and brides sisters child. Thing is there are lots of younger cousins on brides side but only 3 younger cousins on grooms side.

So this basically means one grooms aunt/uncle will not be able to bring their children on grooms side as all other cousins are adults or invited child.

Aunt with the small children was asked to do the cake, she said she would do it as a gift (normally would cost £250-£300, v lucky) to save money. But we hadn't mentioned the no children bit. Invites are about to go out. How bad is this going to get?
(Places hard hat on)

DiscoDonkey Fri 05-Apr-13 18:16:23

I have no issue with the bride and groom not having everyone's children there BUT when someone is doing you such a massive favour you don't think to yourself "oh well rather than offending lots of people we'll just offend the one person saving us £300"

Pancakeflipper Fri 05-Apr-13 18:20:14

I wonder if B&G will realise what a blurgh situation this is especially as your DH has said you are not attending and either extend the invite to your children for the wedding or say that they will get the cake sorted elsewhere. Cos otherwise every time they see their wedding photos with your cake there and you not there - they will wince.

I think making the cake is an almost lovely revenge, there`ll be lots of hmm when people ask who made the cake and they have to explain `Aunty but shes not here as we wouldnt have their children here` hopefully they`ll be very very blush As pancake says, they will wince forever at that.

Have a great day with your family.

Yama Fri 05-Apr-13 18:47:52

I really, really, really hope Frangipan's niece reads this.

I'm with your dh. Have a lovely birthday.

Toasttoppers Fri 05-Apr-13 18:49:00

Best reverse Aibu I have seen, so you are not mean at all you are actually very wonderful. I think what your doing is a good idea.

DontSHOUTTTTTT Fri 05-Apr-13 18:50:41

(. Just to clarify that my hmm in response to inertias post was not at all meant to look like I was being sarcastic. I meant that your her was a good one smile )

Toasttoppers Fri 05-Apr-13 18:52:37

You need to name change to CakeAunt

OhTheConfusion Fri 05-Apr-13 18:53:12

I think you are a very generous Aunt!

Have your or your DH's sibling (ie. Parent of the bride or groom) said anything?

Poor you. What utter tits!

DontSHOUTTTTTT Fri 05-Apr-13 19:00:36

frangipan. Please, please PLEASE let me know if you would like help designing the cake. I am sure I could come up with some unsuitable ideas. grin

Inertia Fri 05-Apr-13 19:08:52

If only you had some kind of icing embossing stamp that you could use to create a pattern all over the cake, reading "This was a gift from Frangipan".

Trouble is you have to do a good job as it's your business.

Hard to believe your relatives could be so mean - they've stitched you up for a cake, saved the cost of your family's meals, and made sure that you can't do anything without seeming petty.

I would send the bride this link as a warning don't piss off your cake maker!

CrapBag Fri 05-Apr-13 20:47:04

Wow. Never spotted that reverse.

You are a far bigger person than I am so good on you.

I hope everyone comments on the cake and they are forced to explain to everyone. How shit of them. At least you know that everyone here agrees with you.

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