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To never want to come out this room again

(44 Posts)
KittyLane1 Sun 31-Mar-13 20:10:34

Am currently holed up in DH's aunties bathroom. Visiting his family for Easter. I received horrible news recently about a family member on my side, I have been feeling awful and teary but still decided to come tonight.
Having been feeling so down I decided to cheer myself up by getting all dressed up, tight dress, heels and full make up. I am only 20! I have a fairly normal, curvy figure (14) and I am happy with how I look

We arrived and everyone said how sorry they are at my bad news, I thanked them and turned to put my coat in the other room, before I had even left I heard MIL and her mum laugh at me, saying what did I think I was wearing and what do I look like!

AIBU to think you don't console and then slag someone in the same breath?! I am very upset and don't want to face them again sad

Piemother Sun 31-Mar-13 20:13:44

Can't read and run. Can you go back in and get very drunk? It's probably how I would handle it. thanks

NumTumMum Sun 31-Mar-13 20:13:46

Oh that's dreadful! Did they realise you heard? I might be tempted to say to them that I heard, let them feel terrible instead of you. Can you go home or are you too far away?

CocacolaMum Sun 31-Mar-13 20:13:57

what utter shits!!!!

I'm sure you look fine x I hope your MIL and GMIL get warts.

kinkyfuckery Sun 31-Mar-13 20:15:39

Guilt them! Tell them very clearly that you heard their disgusting comments, then walk away and ignore (if you can't leave!) Shame them into behaving.

Salmotrutta Sun 31-Mar-13 20:15:53

Oh that's horrible!

I'm sorry you have had bad news and yes, that was spectacularly mean of them to slag you off.

Could you be brave enough to take them to one side and tell them you heard?

Then tell your DH? How would he react?

NotHoldenCaulfield Sun 31-Mar-13 20:16:29

You poor love. What a couple of sweethearts. They are jealous old bats who wish that they were 20 again and able to pull off a dress like that.

You ANBU. They are horrid. You look great. Dry your tears and get back out. Don't let them upset you. I can never understand why some women are so unkind to others. Xxxx

weblette Sun 31-Mar-13 20:16:37

Kitty I bet you look lovely, you're worth a zillion times more than their shallowness. Hold your head high xxx

cocoachannel Sun 31-Mar-13 20:16:59

I would be tempted to let them know I'd heard and make them feel the cruel, hurtful people they are. Is your DH with you? Did he hear?

Dylanlovesbaez Sun 31-Mar-13 20:17:00

What a paid of bitches. Tell your partner and leave. This has enraged me!

GypsyTart Sun 31-Mar-13 20:17:03

I'm sorry that you've had some bad news. And what you overheard was horrible. Unfortunately there's only one thing you can do and its get on down there and brazen it out. Don't let those miserable bitches know they've hurt your feelings.
And no doubt you look perfectly nice dressed up. They wouldn't have mentioned it otherwise. x

whosiwhatsit Sun 31-Mar-13 20:17:06

You sound gorgeous and they're probably jealous because you're 20 and beautiful and they're not (and I say this as a forty year old myself). Try to put yourself in the frame of mind of pitying them as they must be quite miserable themselves to be so nasty about you.

Happy247 Sun 31-Mar-13 20:17:07

how horrid....just ignore and try to enjoy your evening.

I agree with Kinkyfuckery (never thought I'd say that sentence grin )

cocoachannel Sun 31-Mar-13 20:17:30

Oh and thanks

Salmotrutta Sun 31-Mar-13 20:17:33

x-post!

I'd deffo tell them- but I'm a lot older and have reached that stage of confidence.

You could do it icily politely and put them on the back foot.

I think you SHOULD let them know they've hurt you, actually, Gypsy

ekidna Sun 31-Mar-13 20:18:13

Gosh I wouldn't stick around after that. Nasty ladies. Poor you. Hug.

McPheetStink Sun 31-Mar-13 20:18:54

What vile people

I my recent experience, people will say the most awful things about you that they wouldn't have the guts to say to your face. That makes them weak and cowardly. Ignore and pity smile

ujjayi Sun 31-Mar-13 20:19:21

Hold your head high and then tell them you heard. Nasty, insincere women. Show them up for what & who they are.

catinboots Sun 31-Mar-13 20:19:49

Horrible, jealous cunts.

Get your coat and DH and get out of there now

(Hugggggs) winewinethanksthanks

HumphreyCobbler Sun 31-Mar-13 20:20:10

What a couple of bitches. I would tell them I had heard actually. And then fuck off home.

landofsoapandglory Sun 31-Mar-13 20:21:23

I think you should tell them that you heard what they said. Say it in a loud voice in front of everyone else and watch them squirm!

Jestrin Sun 31-Mar-13 20:21:24

I agree with the others. You need to go out there and they'll them that you heard what they said, found it very hurtful and then I would probably leave!

Happy247 Sun 31-Mar-13 20:21:44

are you ok? i bet you look fab.

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