Aibu - if you saw someone fall over would you go and help them up or would you leave them?

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HepzibahFlurge Thu 28-Mar-13 15:12:36

I have bone cancer in my entire left leg and have difficulty walking but love taking my dog out onto a field behind my flat. I Usually let her off the lead to run after a ball which she loves but I know that if my dog is off the lead and sees another dog she will run to it to try and play. Therefore if I see another dog I will automatically put mine back on the lead as there is no way I can run after her. She is a well behaved dog on the lead and has been to training classes.

The other day out walking I saw a couple with a puppy off the lead. Straight away I put my dog on the lead. The puppy came running over and started pestering mine. We had been out for a while so I decided to go home. Their dog followed me and still kept pestering after mine. The puppy's owners kept calling her to come to them (which she ignored) but didn't come over and take her away

I went to turn to put my poo bag in the bin as my dog pulled on the lead in the opposite direction. This caught me by surprise and I fell over flat on my face into a pool of mud. This is the first time my dog has ever done this to me

The fall was heavy and winded me and I started to cry. What upset me even more was that still the couple did not put their dog on the lead and worse didn't come over to help me out of the mud and just stood and laughed. I begged for help to get up as I couldn't get up but they ignored me. Luckily I fell on my non -cancer leg as could have done myself serious damage. At this stage I was lying on the ground with my dog sat next to me and their puppy jumping on me.

Luckily my mum had arrived to visit me and ran to the field and helped me up. She got hold of my dog and the other couples and shouted 'Come and get your dog'. Eventually they came over but with no questions about how I was and no offers of help. They took their dog and walked off (Still with it off the lead). I went home and cried as I was shocked by the fall

Both me and my mum were shocked that people would not help a person up when they fell over. I know it was my dog which made me fall so will need to think about where I walk her in future for my safety

Would you help someone up who fell over? or would you leave them and laugh?

Bluelightsandsirens Thu 28-Mar-13 15:15:17

Their behaviour wasn't normal most decent people would help

I certainly would

Poppet48 Thu 28-Mar-13 15:17:22

I would have definitely gone over to help you up and if I saw the other couple just standing there laughing at you and waiting for there dog I would have had said something to them as well (after helping you out) very sorry OP and I hope you feel better soon.

propertyNIGHTmareBEFOREXMAS Thu 28-Mar-13 15:17:51

Jesus. What a pair of bastards. I am really sorry you had to encounter them, OP. I reckon about 95% of people would have helped you up. I think you were very unlucky sad

WTAF? What a pair of utter gobshites shock.

I'm angry on your behalf. flowers for you.

To answer your question, I would definitely have helped. I made DP stop the car at the weekend when I saw an elderly man sitting half on the pavement, half on the road. I thought he'd fallen. Turns out he was fine and just waiting for a bus hmm but I just couldn't have driven past without checking.

TheChimpParadox Thu 28-Mar-13 15:20:11

That is awful !

Hope you are OK .

ICBINEG Thu 28-Mar-13 15:20:37

fucking hell what total shits.

Hope you are all right now.

BeCool Thu 28-Mar-13 15:20:48

This proves the adage there aren't bad dogs just shit/inconsiderate/loser people owning them!

What a trauma for you - glad your Mum was there to help you & I hope you feel better now.

Of course I would have, and I would have seen you home safely too.

We certainly live in a world filled with arseholes don't we?

KnockKnockKnockPenny Thu 28-Mar-13 15:22:49

I would have helped you up, so would dh and in fact pretty much everyone I know. Sorry you had to come across these sorry excuse for people. I hope your leg improves.

Hope u ok op too most people do I do always

I have been known to stop my car and help a motorbiker pick his bike off a roundabout loads of cars just drove pass staring.

TheBigJessie Thu 28-Mar-13 15:23:08

I'd help you up! Most people would. I was once on a bus that was driving past just as an old lady on the pavement fell over; the driver came to a screeching stop, and dashed out to pick her up, and everyone on the bus approved!

Purpleknickers Thu 28-Mar-13 15:23:12

I hope Karma (or their puppy) bites their bums

Glad your mum arrived to help I hope you feel better now

BeCool Thu 28-Mar-13 15:23:32

I was 8.5 months PG and helped someone who fell on black ice - I had to waddle across the road to get to her. She landed on the back of her head. I can still hear the sickening sound of her head hitting the pavement all these years later.

I helped her to her place of work and asked them to take her to a doctor. I hope she was OK!

Most people would help.

pollyblue Thu 28-Mar-13 15:24:30

I'm sure most people would help OP - i did recently when a young woman went down like a sack of coal just behind me in town.She said she'd recently been discharged from hospital and was feeling a bit woozy. Several other people came over to help too.

Sorry you encountered such a pair of shits OP

5eggstremelychocaletymadeggs Thu 28-Mar-13 15:25:37

Wtf?!! What arseholes, any decent person would have helped you up handmade sure you were OK! God I would have made sure you got homeok if necessary.

Hope you are OK xxx

bedmonster Thu 28-Mar-13 15:27:42

Fucking hell, some people are complete arseholes. Honestly, I can't think of a single person I know who wouldn't have offered you at the very least a hand up. And I know some seriously selfish inconsiderate people.
I'm angry on your behalf.
Hope you're recovering and not feeling to shit about it, I reckon you got the 0.1% of pricks.

SilverBellsandCockleShells Thu 28-Mar-13 15:28:14

We pulled over in the car the other day to help a jogger who had clearly done himself an injury. As it was, his wife was on her way, but it does no harm to ask.

Sounds like you were very unlucky OP. Good job your mum was there.

Maggie111 Thu 28-Mar-13 15:28:16

What absolute evil people angry

Ooh I hope something awful happens to them. Nasty nasty horrible people sad

On a practical note, we use a Premier Easy Walk Harness with our dog. He pulled me unexpectedly on occassion in the mud and it was giving me dreadful sciatica. He still pulls now, but there is no "force" behind it, he could never pull me over because the lead attaches to the front of his chest, if he tries to go forwards he literally just gets turned to the side.

Bobyan Thu 28-Mar-13 15:28:29

I'm a nasty bitch and I'd be reporting them for having an out of control dog, just to give them the hassle of having to deal with the local police team and teach them a lesson about how to look after a dog.

Meerkatwhiskers Thu 28-Mar-13 15:30:14

I def would have helped you. I'm a nurse so it's instinct and also against my professional code of conduct not to stop and help.

What a pair of arseholes that other couple are.

LadyMaryQuiteContrary Thu 28-Mar-13 15:30:25

sad Hope you're OK, OP. I would help. ds has helped an old lady when she fell in the street and we both walked her to a cafe so that she could sit down (he's 13). People watched as he ran to help her, they didn't say anything or offer to help. sad

jeanmiguelfangio Thu 28-Mar-13 15:30:26

That's awful, hope you are ok, I'd definitely try to help someone up if they fell, and as for the puppy that's awful too

I would help but certainly not everyone does.

I have relapsing remitting MS & this sometimes affects my sight. I was out running one evening in the dusk (not my brightest idea) and misjudged a kerb and fell over.

One person stepped over me.
One person walked around me.
One person watched from their parked car.

Nice.

Meerkatwhiskers Thu 28-Mar-13 15:31:00

btw hope you are OK and thank god your mum was there xx

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