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My friends 4 year old trashed Ds bedroom and broke his expensive birthday toy.

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Cannierelax Thu 28-Mar-13 12:07:22

AIBU to want some form of compensation for the broken toy? Perhaps a replacement or even a similair but cheaper toy. My Ds is 5.5 and my friends Dd is 4.5. When i told my friend Ds was really upset she said, well that's what kids do. Em, not my child. Aibu? My friend was there when this happened and gave her Dd a row. She knew that the toy was broken but I said I would get DH to try and mend it. I've just messaged her saying DH Was not able to repair it at this point. At this point she stated that's what children do. I messaged back that it was a birthday gift he was looking forward to for several months. She hasn't messaged back.

Boggler Thu 28-Mar-13 20:51:45

YABU

Crikey if I fell out with every parent of a child who accidentally or otherwise dismantled one of ds's precious Lego models that take DH and I hours and hours to make I'd have absolutely no friends left - that's the beauty of Leg you break it and remake it. Even if the bits are in the box of assorted Lego you can remake it, it might take a while but you can. No way should your friend have to pay to replace something that you still have and can be reassembled with some patience admittedly.

WhatKindofFool Thu 28-Mar-13 20:52:47

Aren't you supposed to be able to take lego apart? Sorry, but what do you expect a 4 year old to do with Lego. hmm

HazeltheMcWitch Thu 28-Mar-13 20:54:54

Have you read much of this thread, WhatKindofFool?

Hmm? hmm

HazeltheMcWitch Thu 28-Mar-13 20:55:33

Roar at Legoland, Cannie

It's going to blow your mind!

WhatKindofFool Thu 28-Mar-13 20:57:12

No, please forgive me McWitch

MogTheForgetfulCat Thu 28-Mar-13 20:57:41

Love this thread smile Arf at Legoland!

DS1 has just had the Lego City fire station for his birthday, we spent a chunk of last weekend making it, and him and DS2 have been playing with it. It falls to pieces all the bloody time angry and is sooooo frustrating. Have decided that Lego is fun to build but rubbish to play with - for that I think you need Playmobil and the little people with their stick-on hair grin.

Cannie you've been so graceful. Have a lovely Easter and a brilliant time at Legoland grin

QuintEggSensuality Thu 28-Mar-13 21:04:34

wow. just WOW. grin If noboby had taught my son The Right Way of Lego, he would have ended up like you! smile

My then 5 year old ds1 has never forgiven me for breaking up his exo force sentai fortress that he got for Christmas! I did it so he could rebuild it. He had other ideas, it was a model to PLAY with, not take apart and build again! He was ever so proud. And ever so upset when he found it in pieces. I thought I was giving him the pleasure of building it again.

He has since learnt that lego is for taking a part and rebulding, but some models he wants to keep

Cannie you've brightened my day no end!!

I hope you and your family have a wonderful time at Legoland. grin

Blatherskite Thu 28-Mar-13 21:25:59

I told lego-mad DH about this thread. He has announced that it must be a piss take as everyone knows that Lego is for taking apart and building again - even the big sets.

Good job you didn't marry him OP, you'd have had some proper arguments over lego grin

Cannierelax Thu 28-Mar-13 21:31:02

bllatherskiteblatherskite- I disliked Lego as a child. DH was born abroad where he didnt have any access to Lego.

Cannierelax Thu 28-Mar-13 21:31:41

Having said that Ds has been playing Lego ninjago since he was 4 years old and loves the stuff.

AngryAnderson Thu 28-Mar-13 21:45:50

I would just like to say I know of 2 ways you CAN break Lego:

1. Pull C3P0's leg sideways until it snaps off shock DH and I both had Lego as children and I never thought you could break it...but our 4 year old DS managed it!!! We were astonished that poor C3P0 is actually permanently disabled sad

2. Lose a specific piece that underpins a necessary section. Then you can't build the model. To my mind, that's broken.

And I did ring Lego customer services and didn't think they were that good sad Woman told me they couldn't send me a new C3P0 as George Lucas wouldn't let them sad DH did find hundreds of C3P0s on Amazon though smile Not that we've bothered yet grin

OP, you already know YABU but just for form's sake...

sleepyhead Thu 28-Mar-13 21:48:07

You can also melt it, if you take some of your Lego on holiday to the South of France when you're 10 and leave it in the back window of the car in the midday sun. It warped and was never quite the same sad

Blatherskite Thu 28-Mar-13 21:53:08

DH was the opposite. He was Lego mad as a child and as an adult! to the extent that his parents built him a bedroom with desks on 2 whole walls for him to build and display his models on - before breaking them up and building them again of course wink

MuddlingMackem Thu 28-Mar-13 22:11:58

Have only read half of the replies but have read all of the OP's posts.

OP, YWBU to ask your friend to replace it, as everyone else has said.

However, as someone pointed out, some people like to build lego and some like to play with the finished model. This worked well for me and my brother as I liked to build and he liked to play. So our sets stayed up. smile

If your DS isn't particularly keen on building the set and just wants to play with the finished model, there is one possible alternative course of action for you, if your friend thinks that the building is the fun part. Get the replacement instructions then invite her round, sans destructive child, and present her with the instructions and the lego pieces and invite her to rebuild it, after all if it's no big deal surely she won't mind. wink I'm sure she'd refuse, but in future she might be a little more considerate of those who like to keep their models built, and she might make sure her DC is as well. grin

AngryAnderson Thu 28-Mar-13 22:21:53

Melting! shock

Wow, this thread has been educational. Just googled Lego Death Star ... £1500 shock

ArtVandelay Thu 28-Mar-13 22:43:34

My toddler son and his brother and sister (my steps) go so mental when they see each other that the other weekend they managed somehow to split a small 4x4 lego brick and gouge a ditch in a solid wood floor. They are 2, 9 and 13.

That's destructive (proud)

louisianablue2000 Thu 28-Mar-13 23:11:17

The Death Star wasn't originally £1500 but because Lego don't make it anymore the cost has gone up as people resell (I'm guessing its appearance on TBBT has made it even more popular).

The Police Set has only 800 pieces, that's only a few hours construction for a small child. The building is what makes Lego educational. Just think of how much your DS's spatial awareness will be improved by rebuilding the set.

MidniteScribbler Fri 29-Mar-13 05:13:14

Can I rebuild it? Can I, can I, can I????? Puhlease!!

In case you can't tell, I can't wait for DS to be old enough for Lego!

AngryAnderson Fri 29-Mar-13 15:23:41

ArtVandelay, that is impressive destruction! How do u split a block? shock

kelda Sat 30-Mar-13 14:10:23

it takes quite a lot of effort to break Lego

ArtVandeley are you sure it was real Lego and not Megablocksgrin

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