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To be annoyed at DP for wanting to spend so much on a pointless purchase?

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Cookethenook Mon 25-Mar-13 12:30:34

DP recently won a £200 amazon gift card in a competition. It was GREAT timing as we got a baby monitor (DS 2 due in a few weeks) and DS's birthday present with it. It left us with about £90 left on the gift card. I said that DP should treat himself to a game or something as well with it as we don't really have a lot of spare cash for treats and he was the one that entered the comp.

I was expecting him to get a game or some clothes or something suitably nerdy with it.

He has decided he wants a device that lets him plug our iphones into the car stereo. We already have one that works perfectly fine (feedback if you put the phone too close to the stereo, but really is a minor problem). Apparently this one is better... but it costs nearly £50.

Now, just to put this into perspective. 1- £50 is quite a bit of money for us to spend on anything, let alone a piece of kit (it's basically a few wires). We share all of our finances and while we're not 'poor', but we do have to watch our money and we don't treat ourselves to luxuries very often. 2- DP has one pair of wearable trousers (apart from work trousers). I've been trying to get him to buy another pair of jeans for ages as he just wears them until they fall apart and then doesn't replace them. 3- DP has been talking about getting a new car recently. Him and his dad went out and bought this bloody Golf because they thought it was 'fun' little car... they're both the WORST impulse buyers and we've had so many problems with it (eats through oil and petrol, one of the windows stopped working, one of the back doors didn't open, small cracks on the windscreen which also cause us to go through wiper blades at a rate of knots.... i could go on!). If we did sell the car and get a new one, there is a good chance that we might not even need the device he wants to get.

When he told me what he wanted to get yesterday, i gave my reasons as to why i didn't think it was a sensible purchase. He was really annoyed and said that i'd told him he could buy what he wanted with it, which IS true, but i really thought he'd buy something a bit more useful or fun with it and possibly not spend quite as much.

Now i feel like a total cow, and i can see why he thinks i'm being unreasonable, but i still can't help but feel frustrated that it's basically £50 down the drain. Am i just going to have to let it go?

StuntGirl Mon 25-Mar-13 13:24:54

1) It's his money, he can spend it on what he likes.
2) New release games are just less than £50 most of the time, so even if he had bought an 'approved' treat he'd have been spending virtually the same.
3) IT'S HIS MONEY.

Glad you saw sense.

niceguy2 Mon 25-Mar-13 13:27:50

You were not suitably clear. You said this:

I said that DP should treat himself to a game or something as well...

What he heard was:

"Buy yourself something you want"

What you meant was:

"Please buy something which I approve of"

Astley Mon 25-Mar-13 13:31:42

....that is cheap.

WhatsTheBuzz Mon 25-Mar-13 13:32:18

you sound controlling. You're well-off enough for iphones so what does this unexpected 50quid matter?

Cookethenook Mon 25-Mar-13 13:35:00

For the love of god, read the whole thread, it's only a page long!

Ra88 Mon 25-Mar-13 13:45:40

You told him to treat himself , not treat himself but here is a list of things you can buy!

maninawomansworld Mon 25-Mar-13 16:19:07

You told him he could buy a treat for himself.... so what's the problem..

wombatcheese Mon 25-Mar-13 16:34:10

I'm puzzled, if money is tight £110 on a baby monitor and DS's Bday present is quite a bit, but it's DP's £50 on the wrong treat you mind about.

MimiSunshine Mon 25-Mar-13 16:42:20

You share birthday money? shock hmm
He's an adult, not your child. You may think its daft but the mild annoyance you have for the crapness of your existing cable obviously bugs him enough to have wanted to replace it, his money therefore YABU

ll31 Mon 25-Mar-13 17:17:23

You sound really annoying tbh. .. 'here use the rest to get something you like:-( seeing as how you won tHe voucher )o h no, actually I mean only get something if I agree to it and if I think it's not waste of money ...'...

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