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to cook one meal and if they don't like it, tough.

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TubGirl Mon 18-Mar-13 17:19:49

For the last 17 years DH has done the cooking. His hours at work have changed do now I have to.

I cannot be arsed with all this chopping and changing.

Dd2 only eats chicken, roast potatoes and chips.

Dd1 is veggie and won't eat potatoes in any form.

Dh likes meat.

I'm veggie. I like one pot lentilly stuff. Nobody else does.

This evening we have cauliflower cheese with roast potatoes and green beans. There is cold chicken for Dd2 and Dh.

Except Dd1 doesn't do potatoes and isn't mad keen on cauliflower.

Bollocks to them all. Picky bastards.

I plan on putting it on the table. If they won't eat it they can bloody well go hungry. Or eat toast. Or something.

TubGirl Mon 18-Mar-13 17:25:42

I just cooked roast potatoes ffs. For the first time ever.

The ungrateful fuckers better eat them.

Feminine Mon 18-Mar-13 17:30:25

Its all very new to you isn't it? grin

I don't know what to say apart from welcome to my world.

mabongwen Mon 18-Mar-13 17:33:46

Its how I grew up, that or nothing. We were never left to go hungry though we would just get porridge about an hour before bed.

Magimedi Mon 18-Mar-13 17:34:20

In my house there is always a choice.............................

Take it or leave it.

And I don't know how old your DD is who will only eat chicken, chips & roasties, but that's not a very wide diet.

Floralnomad Mon 18-Mar-13 17:35:05

I have a sign in my kitchen
DINNER CHOICES
1.TAKE IT
2. LEAVE IT

Having said that it doesn't work like that but if I'm in a really bad mood I refer them to the sign.

LangenFlugelHappleHoff Mon 18-Mar-13 17:35:20

Sorry I'm a like it or lump it person...one meal which suits all. I'm not a restaurant!

Stick to your guns. smile

timidviper Mon 18-Mar-13 17:36:02

Yes Magimedi beat me to it, my house had the choice of take it or leave it too. DCs have both reached adulthood without starving and did become less picky in time

wannabeEostregoddess Mon 18-Mar-13 17:36:22

One dinner gets made in this house. If you dont like it you will be very hungry.

PastaBeeandCheese Mon 18-Mar-13 17:36:29

YANBU. I do offer a slice of buttered toast if DD won't eat what had been cooked for her but that's because she's 16mo and I'm soft.

lottieandmia Mon 18-Mar-13 17:37:05

Generally I think YANBU!

Pendipidy Mon 18-Mar-13 17:38:04

So for 17 years your dh has done this and you can't be arsed now its your turn. Were you so concerned when your dh had to do it? You sound selfish and the dc s only eating this and that soun.ds ridiculous. No wonder children grow up thinking they rule the roost

GreenShadow Mon 18-Mar-13 17:38:27

No Way would I cook more than one meal!

Your family need to learn to eat a wider selection of foods.

Trouble is, if offered toast as a option - mine would often go for that, so I'm afraid, there are no alternatives here and they are expected to eat what I have cooked.

inchoccyheaven Mon 18-Mar-13 17:39:04

We tend to eat a variation on a theme if it's something not everybody is keen on. For example DH and ds1 like salmon so they have that with boiled potatoes, but Ds2 and I don't like boiled potatoes so will have breaded fish with rice.

I am happy to cook variations as I don't wan to eat something others like just because that's the only choice.

loubielou31 Mon 18-Mar-13 17:39:35

I only make one thing, (unless it's something that I know the DCs really won't eat like a v hot curry) they either eat it or don't but that's the choice. I've noticed that they eat very little when it's something they're not keen on and fill up on the days it's boring pasta. They're not starving and viewed over the week their diet is pretty balanced.
YANBU

SanityClause Mon 18-Mar-13 17:43:41

I will usually only cook one meal, but with compromises.

So, DS doesn't like ratatouille, but does like the roasted courgettes, onions, aubergines and peppers. So, I take some out and dress them, before adding sunblush tomatoes and passata and herbs.

If it is a meal only 3 of the 5 like, I will cook it less often than a meal that 4 or all of us like.

In your case, I would cook vegetarian food, but add meat for the meat eaters. You could, for example, make a meaty spag bol, along side a lentilly one. Or a chili sin carne next to a chili con carne. Or ratatouille with jacket potato, with a lamb chop for the meat eaters. Or a chicken Caesar salad, with avocado for the veges, but also with chicken for the meat eaters. (I know a traditional Caesar dressing is not vegetarian, but you can make a yummy vege one.)

It just needs a lot bit of planning.

OnceUponAThyme Mon 18-Mar-13 17:44:18

YANBU. I cook one meal and, unless it's a genuine hatred of it, thats all that's offered.

schilke Mon 18-Mar-13 17:46:45

Oh I do a variety of dishes - we are all veggie. Dc1 & 4 eat pretty much anything. Dc2 not good at veg. Dc3 not good with carbs. Dh wheat free......I hate cooking meals.

Indith Mon 18-Mar-13 17:47:18

When they were toddlers they used to have supper before bed (milk or a bf and a cracker or something) so if they had completely refused dinner then I'd slip a banana or a slice of toast in there too to make sure they were not hungry. The big ones are 6 and 4 now so they eat it or go hungry. Their choice. However, all I ever ask is that they try a couple of mouthfuls. If they have had a stab at trying it then they can still have pudding. Also, I work around the problem in some way. My kids eat most things (I have no idea if this is dumb luck or because I have never pandered to their whims) but for example ds1 hates potatoes so we do toad in the hole with mash on the side instead of just straight bangers and mash. He still has to eat a mouthful of potato but he has his yorkshire pudding so he won't go hungry.

I do allow genuine dislikes though, we all have those!

thefirstmrsrochester Mon 18-Mar-13 17:47:44

We are a take it or leave it house. For those who choose to leave it, there is bread, jam, wheatabix and the like.
It's a house, not a restaurant.

BoneyBackJefferson Mon 18-Mar-13 17:48:10

"Bollocks to them all. Picky bastards."

Unless you have thought this every night that your DH cooked for you and the kids YABU

BTW I agree with you grin

freddiefrog Mon 18-Mar-13 17:52:12

YANBU

I am not running a bloody cafe, like it or lump it

I do compromise, i.e. DD2 doesn't like roast potatoes, so I do her a jacket spud. DD2 doesn't like mash, so I take her portion out before mashing the rest.

I am not messing about with different meals for everyone

ENormaSnob Mon 18-Mar-13 17:56:13

Yanbu

All genuine dislikes will be catered for but otherwise it's take it or leave it.

I'm not running a cafe.

Lovelygoldboots Mon 18-Mar-13 17:56:55

What's for tea? Followed by not again!

Two statements that make me so feckin cross. God I used to quite like cooking. Where do people stand on pudding? My dps mum always used to do pudding. So he always wants sometging else ans so do kids. Pudding equals more feckin clearing up. BTW yanbu

TubGirl Mon 18-Mar-13 17:57:23

DH has always done variations but I'm not up to that yet.

DD2 has never eaten normally (aspergers, sensory stuff).

Tomorrow I'm doing lentils.

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