To think that dh should let me sleep?

(29 Posts)
washngo Sun 17-Mar-13 23:16:28

I am 39 weeks pregnant. I have spd, nausea, heartburn, painful braxton hicks and am exhausted from looking after my 2 and 4 year old. I could (theoretically, although i will probably be overdue) go into labour and need my energy reserves any time. With all this in mind could my husband not refrain from prodding me awake, and telling me to turn over and snore in the other direction? I am now wide awake, and cannot sleep. Surely at this time my sleep is more important? Is that terribly selfish? I feel like this is just demonstrating a total lack of care or thought but maybe I am over thinking...

Jux Mon 18-Mar-13 09:50:13

He's being incredibly selfish. Sounds like you need to have a firm talk.

washngo Mon 18-Mar-13 09:29:28

Even more annoyed now because he has only just got up. I have been up 2 1/2 hours and taken ds to preschool. He could have got up and done that for me! Feeling totally let down.

washngo Mon 18-Mar-13 07:02:26

Well, I finally fell asleep at half 12 and am now up for the day with two toddlers. Dh is still fast asleep of course, he can get to work on time if he gets up at 8, so very rarely gets up before then. All feels very unfair! I am going to buy him earplugs this morning!

CalamityJ Mon 18-Mar-13 04:48:29

My DH moaned about my snoring but wouldn't have dared wake a sleeping pregnant lady!! Get him some earplugs and if they can't block it out then he goes on the sofa. I think you can 'bank' sleep in the sense that you could go into labour at any time so the previous night's sleep needs to have been a good one.

Jengnr Mon 18-Mar-13 02:45:19

My husband spent a lot of my pregnancy in the spare room. Was easier for both of us.

It was actually because of HIS snoring rather than mine - weird because he doesn't snore normally but when I was pregnant he found new ways to annoy me smile

Tolly81 Mon 18-Mar-13 02:15:50

YANBU. Sofa or earplugs, the choice is his. And I would also get the lamp on and start reading or re-nest the bed or even just wake him up! I had HG while pg and mild SPD and whenever I was awake I was nauseous. If dh had woken me up he knows full well I would have gone crazy and dd was our first!

HelenLynn Mon 18-Mar-13 01:54:58

Good grief. I'm two weeks less pregnant than you with not as many unpleasant symptoms and one child fewer to look after, and there is NO WAY my husband would get away with this. NO-ABSOLUTELY-NO-NOT-A-CHANCE way. Sofa or earplugs for him.

Whathaveiforgottentoday Mon 18-Mar-13 01:14:23

Ear plugs. That's how my dh dealt with the problem.

ihearsounds Sun 17-Mar-13 23:59:37

Time to get prodding and wakie him up, simply to ask him ridiculous questions.. Got a book, get the light on and get reading.. When he starts moaning remind him that he woke you up to begin with... Childish yes. effective yes. tomorow unless he has a death wish he wont prod you. If he does growl at him to use the sofa then, and blaim it on pain, tiredness and hormones smile

WafflyVersatile Sun 17-Mar-13 23:55:32

No stick with his whoring is keeping you awake! That should confuse him enough to keep him awake too. grin

Blessyou Sun 17-Mar-13 23:53:37

Yikes, that's snoring not whoring

Blessyou Sun 17-Mar-13 23:53:13

Is he asleep now? Prod him awake and ask him to go to the sofa as his wnoring is disturbing you [evil grin]

Cherriesarelovely Sun 17-Mar-13 23:50:06

Nothing U at all. I think it is one of the most annoying things ever to be unecessarily woken up when you are already having trouble sleeping. My (otherwise wonderful) DP does this but coming into the bedroom, seeing me asleep and telling me about some randomn news item she has just read about on her ipad. Aaaarggghhh! You definitely need sleep, you have alot on your plate and must be shattered. Good luck with DC 3!

kissyfur Sun 17-Mar-13 23:49:05

Send DH to the sofa! YANBU and he should have offered, hope you get some shut eye v soon

NatashaBee Sun 17-Mar-13 23:48:22

DH snores and it's utterly miserable, so I do feel for your DH. Having said that, if you're due to give birth any minute he should let you rest, and go and sleep on the sofa.

washngo Sun 17-Mar-13 23:47:08

Having put the light on to read so that he can sleep more easily he has finally put the light off and of course gone straight to sleep. I will now lie here for hours I expect! Am going to try and get some sleep now though- tomorrow's another day to get through after all! Thanks for all the replies.

AudrinaAdare Sun 17-Mar-13 23:45:22

You are not being selfish and he is being an utter cunt. Let him sleep on the sofa and wake him up each time you get a kick or a pang so that he can semi-share the miracle of pregnancy. You need space and as much rest as you can get before the ordeal of labour. Rocket Surgery it is not.

WafflyVersatile Sun 17-Mar-13 23:36:28

Yep, tell him next time to sleep on the sofa. You can't help that you're snoring and you need the bed more and sleep more. You can't reserve energy but starting your labour already knackered isn't helpful.

Yanbu. If he can't stand the snoring he should vacate to the sofa. That's what I do (when my poking and prodding fails to get DH to turn over).

TheSeniorWrangler Sun 17-Mar-13 23:30:10

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

WorraLiberty Sun 17-Mar-13 23:28:05

I really really do feel for you OP.

But I honestly have to say that constant snoring for me is like listening to your neighbour's car alarm going off all night.

It makes me feel stabby...sorry blush

thezebrawearspurple Sun 17-Mar-13 23:27:21

Send him to the sofa? I poke dh when he keeps me awake snoring so your husband has my sympathy but under the circumstances you need the bed so if he can't sleep with you in it and keep his hands to himself, you have to kick him out.

washngo Sun 17-Mar-13 23:24:17

Although euphemia that is a good point, no reason why dh can't sleep on the sofa.

Worra - thank you that makes me see it from his perspective a bit!

DragonMamma Sun 17-Mar-13 23:23:51

I cannot abide snoring so I can empathise with him I'm afraid - preg or not, I'd feel murderous at being kept awake by those bloody rumbles.

washngo Sun 17-Mar-13 23:21:34

Sadly not, children in bunk beds in second bedroom, third bedroom only big enough for cot, and definitely not in a fit state to sleep on the sofa.

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