Very lighthearted AIBU - but am I unreasonable?! Is it normal?!

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MagratOfStolat Fri 15-Mar-13 09:56:48

My DS is 22 months old. DP yesterday had a day at home to do work on the computer, so I was doing my normal routine when it comes to DS - we'd play, then watch cartoons, then lunch, then naptime, then he'll play on his own while I get on with housework etcetc...

All going swimmingly until...
DP: JESUS CHRIST! Do you ever STOP TALKING?!?! (with a massive grin on his face)
Me: Eh?! Say what now?
DP: You haven't bloody shut up all day, you'll run out of words in a minute!
Us: Arfarfarf gigglegigglegiggle.

Turns out I'm on my own with DS so much that I've got a running commentary going in English and Pidgeon Welsh! "Look at the pili pala! Isn't it pretty? Are you having fun playing gyda trains ! Awww, ti'n hoffi chwarae trains! Dai iawn! Nah, bach, you can't play here, mami doing the ironing! Mami smwthio!" and on and on!

Is this just a normal "mum stuck at home" thing? I've never been one for complete silence and DP thinks it's hilarious that I'm essentially talking to myself all day long. Is it unreasonable? I didn't even realize the extent to which I was doing it!

I feel quite embarrassed now!

paperclips Fri 15-Mar-13 10:47:38

It's good for them. I do it all the time, out and about, in the supermarket. Its kind of partly talking to myself.

"We need to buy some more bananas because naughty daddy ate them all up."

I did this yesterday in Asda in a part of town where I've noted most people don't talk to their little children much, apart from bellowing "get 'ere naaaaa" at them. Yes, that sounds very judgy, but its an observation. And yes i'm being snobby. My point being I probably stood out a bit.

When I talk to DS my accent disappears and I sound a bit posh and sing-songy, like a children's TV presenter.

I still have trouble remembering not to say "look, choo choo" when the train goes past - my dt's are almost 18.......

Thumbwitch Fri 15-Mar-13 11:04:51

I certainly did this when DS1 was a baby; less so as he got older. Now I have baby DS2 and I'm finding I'm doing it again. Normal, good for them! And even better if you're adding in a second language smile - wish I could do that. envy

Cantbelieveitsnotbutter Fri 15-Mar-13 11:05:14

I knew I had a problem when I started doing it out the house when I was on my own.

paperclips Fri 15-Mar-13 11:14:16

Ican'tbelieveitsnotbutter- yes me too!

I am worried I will keep doing this when I go back to work, using silly words in serious situations.

mrsjay Fri 15-Mar-13 11:35:20

I used to do that with mine my dd 1 spoke early I am smug that is was all my hard work grin
It is how babies and toddlers learn to speak and communicate and I work with parents who dont speak to their babies very much and when one does I always have a huge smile on my face as you can see their babies toddlers switch on like a little light bulb,

Buzzardbird Fri 15-Mar-13 11:59:05

It's lovely that you talk to your children all the time smile.

I was praised by my HV for talking to DD when she was a baby and I thought it was strange as I thought everyone would do that?
DD's teacher informed me on parents evening that DD uses some words that you wouldn't expect from a 6yr old. I thought smile and then when I thought about it I was worried in case she meant 'adult' words shock.

Tell DH not to use 'Jesus Christ!' in front of DC's or that could be one of their first words grin

InsertCleverNameChangeHere Fri 15-Mar-13 12:02:20

One day at school pick-up I said bye to my daughter's teacher and blew her a kiss blush

I used to do the running commentary thing, then my older two got up a bit and now they talk constantly. Now, I appreciate the silence too much when I'm alone!

HoHoHoNoYouDont Fri 15-Mar-13 12:02:35

I talk to my cat constantly! He loves it, tilts his head and everything so I know he's listening intently grin

Dh has started asking me if I'm talking to him or if its my inner monologue as I talk to myself all the time! Even when ds isn't there. blush

Maebe Fri 15-Mar-13 13:51:44

I was on my own in the office quite regularly when I returned from mat leave. I started giving commentaries to the empty air... blush

NotWilliamBoyd Fri 15-Mar-13 13:56:54

Ooh takes me back to when my DC were younger, I was driving along one day and exclaimed, "Ooh look at the big red tractor!"
Only then did i remember that i was not even with my kids, but was driving 2colleagues to a meeting in the next town.
They were great about it, didnt rib me at all for being quite so interested in farm vehicles...... hmm

NotWilliamBoyd Fri 15-Mar-13 13:58:57

Mind you, a different colleague made us all laugh when just before setting off on a long drive to some training she asked us absentmindedly if we'd all 'had a last wee and remembered to wash your hands?'

MagratOfStolat Fri 15-Mar-13 14:32:12

This thread is killing me grin some people are hilarious! NotWilliamBoyd - I would have CRIED laughing if she'd said that to me, but I would have known where she was coming from.

Well at least I'm normal...ish!

Squinkie Fri 15-Mar-13 14:40:06

Yes entirely normal.
I did once say my PIN number out loud to small child as I typed it into machine in a shop. Oops! Cashier girl looked at me like I was mad.

NotWilliamBoyd Fri 15-Mar-13 14:59:02

Magrat - well indeed i think we all understood why she said it! A male colleague - also a parent - laughed at what she said and replied that he had been for his last wee already and yes, he had remembered to put the seat donw........

NotWilliamBoyd Fri 15-Mar-13 14:59:30

Down!!! Sorry.

mrsjay Fri 15-Mar-13 16:43:24

I have no little children anymore so I bore talk to the dog all day long, never answers me though

KatyPeril Fri 15-Mar-13 16:46:29

My daughter is at school all day and I still babble away to myself.

mum47 Fri 15-Mar-13 16:50:54

I once said along the lines of "Byedarlinghaveanicedaydon'tworktoohard" to the postie, so used am I to such chuntering when waving the dcs off to school. Her fled looking suitably alarmed.

Anyways OP, you must clearly rise to the challenge and "never stop talking"

StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes Fri 15-Mar-13 17:17:04

I did the 'oooh look at the cows' when on a train... on my own blush and once said 'love you' to my boss when he rang off after a call.

paperclips Fri 15-Mar-13 20:47:15

I once called my boss "mum"

ClippedPhoenix Fri 15-Mar-13 20:59:18

I did this constantly too OP.

I also took him with me to every room if I was going to be in there for more than 5 mins, yep, that included the bathroom due to not wanting him to feel lonely grin

TooExtraImmatureCheddar Fri 15-Mar-13 21:07:36

I talk to my 1 yo and my dog! DD grins and babbles back. In fact, I often parrot her noises back at her - she says "a-wah?" and I say "a-wah" back. The other day a colleague called my name and I turned round and asked "a-wah?" blush The shame!

discrete Fri 15-Mar-13 21:16:19

This thread has given me the best laugh all day, particularly the colleague asking whether everyone had weed!

I do do this with the dc, have done since they were born, and so does dh...but each of us only notices when the other does it! I think it's a fairly instinctive thing, as someone said it's how they learn to talk, but it's also fairly normal to not notice you are doing it.

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