I'd like to know if I'm being a cow or whether I really am right in wanting to distance myself from this woman. Sorry it's a bit long.
Dd started school in September and made friends with a little girl. Her mum was really enthusiastic about the friendship which I found a bit ott, but they were friends in class and dd really liked the girl. The first time I found this woman weird was when dd started receiving more party invites than her dd. She found out dd had been invited to one particular party and started a complete attack against the party girls mother behind her back calling her a snob and stuck up. This carried on for months and only stopped last week when the mother invited her dd to her house for tea and she's stopped.
During the first few months of school I met her mum in a shop once and she started telling me about how many parties her granddaughter was invited to and that she has 2-4 invitations a week . It was really odd because the week before the girls mum had had a weird conversation with me saying "we must be the hated ones because we're not as snobbish as the other mums, that's why our kids don't get party invites". I had to just smile along. The other day she found out dd had received more invites and she went all quiet and told her dd "doesn't matter darlin you'll have more" .
Another thing I found odd about her is how she has started competing her dd with my dd after she realised I care a lot about Dd's reading, writing and maths. She didnt make an appointment for the first parents evening because "it's not important. I bet all the other snobby teachers pets are meeting the teacher". She then realised DH and me had booked an appointment and would go and she got a bit upset. This parents day, she booked the first slot and came upto me all smug that she'd got the first appointment and I just smiled and nodded. It's just really small pathetic things she keeps competing with and it's annoying me now because I'm not the competitive type of person and she keeps making comments like "oh we should fight it out in the playground to see who's dd is better" . I know she's joking but I don't give a shit what her or any other child does.
I didn't meet up with her a few times outside school because I wasn't sure about her, but she really kept pushing the girls friendship and talking about meeting up so I invited her dd around our house over half term and her mum kind of invited herself along too. I talked to her for 5 hours and realised she is a really draining person. Her tone is monotonous and she mumbles a lot and I catch myself asking her to repeat herself a few times in every sentence. I feel really bad for feeling like this, but I just get really depressed after talking to her. Even my DH finds her mundane when he meets her in the mornings some days.
Recently I've been ill and she keeps phoning and messaging me. I phoned her back yesterday and told her I can't talk because I'm ill and my throat hurts, and she just completely ignored me and kept talking. Apparently she was worried about me because I've been really quiet recently and she wanted to know why. I've hardly had a chance to meet her! On the phone I had to cut her short because I couldn't listen to her draining conversations about her ex and the people from the past (we had old school bullies in common and tbh, talking about them doesn't really make me happy but she wants to talk about these people all the bloody time).
So
AIBU to slowly back away? She knows I'm not as forthright with her as I was, and she's feeling something is odd, hence the stream of texts/phone calls. I've just found out I'm pregnant and I don't want to drain myself emotionally even more listening to her. I'm happy for dd to be her Dd's friend, but I just can't be her mums
Friend too. I just can't.
I'm sorry it's so long.
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AIBU?
To want to stop meeting this Mum at Dd's school
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TommyPickle · 11/03/2013 21:14
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