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AIBU Mother vs MIL

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AdmiralData Sun 10-Mar-13 13:28:55

In a nutshell, I am 38 weeks pregnant and am going to have a c-section tomorrow (Monday 11th). I see my dm every week and have done at least twice a week all through this pregnancy. I see my pil very rarely due to mil having two jobs that clash with husbands job. My dm told me that she would be too tired to see me yesterday as she works hard. Therefore the mil made us a nice dinner last night.
There was a small mix up with the mothers day cards, the mil got my dm and my dm got my mil. I switched them round last night but my mother (who KNEW whose cards she had) read the cards intended for mil.
She phoned me this morning, screaming at me because I apparently worship my mil and treat my own dm with no respect whatsoever because ... get this ... I UNDERLINED THE VERSES IN THE CARD A BIT DIFFERENTLY.

I bought them the exact same cards with the exact same verse and added my own little equally touching finishes to both. My 'dm' read the card deliberately and makes digs about mil whenever she can. (This behaviour is nothing new for my 'dm' she has kicked off like this throughout my pregnancy over trivial matters).
It has ruined my day and potentially tomorrow as I cannot stop blaming myself for being a vile human being. Have I been unreasonable for any of the things my 'dm' is annoyed at me for?

VikingLady Sun 17-Mar-13 21:15:38

Congratulations! thanks

Congratulations and well done! Your mum's behaviour was pretty a-maz-ing. Well done for putting it behind you! (You know you're not a vile human being, right!?)

Herrenamakesagreatwelshcake Sun 17-Mar-13 21:30:47

Congratulations! If you have a spare minute perhaps during a night feed I suggest you have a look at the 'toxic people' thread over in Relationships. My spidey senses tell me that you will recognise more of your mother's behaviours being recounted there.... to have a go at you over something so trivial (and for it not to be totally out of character) makes her sound like a bit of a narc.

It's not you, it's her. Repeat until bored wink

Herrenamakesagreatwelshcake Sun 17-Mar-13 21:33:03

http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/1704553-Some-thoughts-about-toxic-people

Just worked out how to do links on my tablet! It's a good day grin

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