To feel a bit upset that my DH has decided we are not celebrating UK Mother's Day despite being British, we have to celebrate on 21st for UAE MD...

(49 Posts)
Samie10 Sun 10-Mar-13 12:03:43

Its my first Mother's Day. I was upset this morning to find out my husband has made the decision that we will have MD on the 21st as that is when it is celebrated in the UAE where we live. Now, I know I will get a MD, but, we are English and everyone else I know here (Who is English) celebrates the UK day...other than us it transpires....I was actually a little bit excited this morning about it (is that sad?!)......should i just shut up and look forward to the 21st?

CocacolaMum Sun 10-Mar-13 12:06:28

Yes. Hth

smile

When you say 'made the decision' ... is it possible this means 'forgot until just now'?!

Sorry, but it does sound a bit convenient.

If you were hoping for something no wonder you're a bit disappointed, but tell him so, it doesn't matter so long as you talk about it.

WorraLiberty Sun 10-Mar-13 12:14:58

I agree he probably forgot, otherwise you would have had this conversation beforehand surely?

Hissy Sun 10-Mar-13 12:16:06

AH, FFS, your first? And you couldn't celebrate BOTH, let alone the UK day? I'm sorry, but I think your H is an idiot, and actually very bloody mean!

What's HIS problem with spoiling the mother of his child, on ONE day a year? You don't skip the first opportunity to make a mother feel special.

I think you have every right to be very pissed off.

What's this bloke like celebrating your birthday etc?

aldiwhore Sun 10-Mar-13 12:17:03

Well HE shouldn't have made that decision really, and although it is trivial in the gran scheme of things, YANBU to be pissed off!

diddl Sun 10-Mar-13 12:17:35

We're in Germany & only do the one here.

And the one FD here.

Apart from the time we happened to be in UK on MD-so I got 2 that year-MILwas most pissed off.

TallyGrenshall Sun 10-Mar-13 12:18:07

Does it really matter that you have to wait a whole 11 days? Really?!

We're not doing Mothers Day today either, cos OH is at work so we're doing it next month. As long as I get a day of being spoilt then it doesn't matter what everyone else is doing

SirBoobAlot Sun 10-Mar-13 12:20:28

No, YANBU. Who made him king of the fucking world?

Samie10 Sun 10-Mar-13 12:20:33

I did 'subtly' remind him..he honestly thought that it was a good idea to choose one. I think I am probably being a bit pathetic (I know I am) but I thought it was a wind up this morning and he was going to produce a card..or a cup of tea..
He is great with Xmas and birthdays...just poor judgment perhaps this time.... Ill check to see if Fathers Day actually exists here and if it dosn't I say we cant celebrate it!

diddl Sun 10-Mar-13 12:23:16

"Who made him king of the fucking world? "

Blimey-overreaction much??

He's chosen to do it on the day of the country that they live in-bastard!

HoldMeCloserTonyDanza Sun 10-Mar-13 12:23:23

He's really U to only bring it up now. I hope he apologised for upsetting you.

Having said that, when we lived in the States we only ever celebrated US Mother's Day. It's much better to go with the one where you actually live.

C0smos Sun 10-Mar-13 12:26:12

Sorry YABU
Where I live Mother's Day is in May (I think, might be June) it wouldn't even cross my mind to celebrate on the UK day when we don't live in the UK.
If you want to live overseas then you have to accept things are sometimes different. My DS would be really confused if we celebrated on the wrong date as they have a mums day theme at school that week and make cards etc.
My mum lives in the UK though and I always forget until a few days before as there are no reminders in the shop, plus you can't buy Mother's Day cards here so she always gets a blank one!

captainmummy Sun 10-Mar-13 12:26:13

He's chosen not to celebrate mothers day today? Is it his decision? As your are the mother in question, surely it's your decision?

TheNebulousBoojum Sun 10-Mar-13 12:28:12

How ridiculous, of course you should celebrate both.
The English one with flowers and card and a cake and being taken out for the day.

The UAE one with lots of expensive gold jewellery. grin
And another meal out.

Samie10 Sun 10-Mar-13 12:32:32

TheNebulousBoojum I love that idea!
Im only upset (and only a bit) because all of our UK friends celebrate today....anyway in the grand scheme of things it dosn't really matter - i know that!!

SavoyCabbage Sun 10-Mar-13 12:35:05

I celebrate it at the same time as my mother who is in England.

complexnumber Sun 10-Mar-13 12:36:25

But today is a bog standard week day here, isn't it? Your DH has decided to go with the day that means your MD is on the weekend. Unless he does shifts or something doesn't that mean you get to spend more time together, he can take the baby etc on the 21st?

Samie10 Sun 10-Mar-13 12:39:03

Yes its is and Im at my desk working really hard.
Im just being pathetic I know I am, i fancied a little rant!

Pickles101 Sun 10-Mar-13 12:44:17

Today is a bog standard weekday!? I thought it was Sunday!

TheNebulousBoojum Sun 10-Mar-13 12:44:40

Don't waste the energy, plan for next year!

TheNebulousBoojum Sun 10-Mar-13 12:45:39

Pickles, Friday is the Key day of the week in Islamic countries, not Sunday.

Samie10 Sun 10-Mar-13 12:47:29

Our working week is Sunday to Thursday, our weekend is Friday and Saturday...im at work for 13 more minutes...tick, tock....

Pickles101 Sun 10-Mar-13 12:48:16

Sorry, didn't realise that poster was UAE based too!

Pickles101 Sun 10-Mar-13 12:51:02

My OH is Australian, do what I'm going to do and have two grin

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