I'm not normally in a quandry on how to deal with people. But this one has me a bit stumped.
Basically Dp and I have made some friends over the last few months. Some are couples some not. All get on great except for this one of the women. A lovely couple in had us over to stay and other friends stayed too. Huge house. It was a great night.
We've been invited again but this time I have a feeling that the couple with the woman are going too? The woman's dp is very good friends with the couple who's house it is. So obviously the woman or lady if you prefer, is friends too.
I've never really had a great deal to do with this woman until recently when we've had a couple of nights out and she's been there. She has been there before but I've not talked to her as much due to seating. Anyway these last few times I've realised she's hard work. She gets very drunk (nothing wrong with that, I can and do) but she then starts slagging off the dp. Bringing up allsorts. Apparently she also has numerous arguments with the host dh when she goes there? Her dp is a nice bloke they're just very different people. He's laid back she is by all accounts intense? It drives her nuts.
My dilemma is I find it hard not to point out how rude someone's being. But it's fruitless if someone's drunk plus it's not my home so then I'd be rude. The hard part is that we'd be staying over so I can't just up and leave? Also the fact that we all meet up at a place regularly as a group would mean it'd be awkward if she fell out with me.
Actually when she's sober I do like her, or what I know of her. She just can't handle booze. I get all 'love the world' she gets bitter and angry.
Dp really wants to go so it'd be hard not to. Plus last time it was great so maybe it will be again?
I did think I'd just not drink much but the hosts are very generous and tend to top you up. I could feign antibiotics but can't do that every time we go?
I know I should just put up with it but it totally spoils my night when people are like this. I prefer to be with fun loving types in my old age
Has anyone else had similar happen?
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CuriousMama · 09/03/2013 21:30
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