To think asking for expensive gifts for Mothers day is greedy?

(130 Posts)
MomaP Sat 09-Mar-13 21:06:31

Im sorry if you disagree, actually, no I'm not! envy

I have just witnessed two friends of mine, on facebook say they have convinced their DH's to buy them an ipad for mothers day!! WHAT? hmm

Both women have 2 DC, who are all under the age of 5. Am I missing something?

My DS made me a present at school this week, its in DS possession, ready to give me tomorrow, I am SO excited. grin What ever this present is, I know its made by him, that means more to me than anything - it is something I will, without a doubt keep forever. Sentimental gifts/cards are what mothers day is about, or well, it used to be anyway.

AIBU to think anyone expecting things like ipads etc are greedy and have no appreciation for mothers day, its just about material items to them?

wine

Greensleeves Sat 09-Mar-13 21:34:15

At the extreme, ie "Ker-ching, I got dh to buy me an iPad" yes it is a bit odious

but tbh I am finding the "oh my baby gave me a radiant smile and that was joy enough for me" brigade equally hard going

I don't get all the angst confused

SashaSashays Sat 09-Mar-13 21:34:45

If they can afford it whats the problem. I don't think they should be putting it on facebook as thats just bragging, but I personally don't need to convince my DH to buy me something for mothers day, I get what I want when I want it most of the time. Does that mean I'm extra greedy?

Tomorrow I imagine I'll get jewellery from DH, chocs and wine and perfume from the DC. Probably a few home made cards, a few shop bought, makes no difference although I'm not a fan of some of the tat they bring home.

DeWe Sat 09-Mar-13 21:35:20

I have a lovely card from ds he wrote himself saying "I love my mummy because she gives me lots of kisses and cuddles".
Dd1 & 2 I think are planning something.
That's all I want.

CuriousMama Sat 09-Mar-13 21:39:48

My dss are preteen and teen and I don't really want anything from them but exdh will get me something from them and possibly dp too? They'll have sorted something. I'd rather have a hug.

I told ds1 (15) to make me a card with one of his sketches on as he does some lovely ones.

YANBU, I find it rather crass tbh. Very boastful.

CuriousMama Sat 09-Mar-13 21:40:30

Also loving the minecraft idea, will get ds2 to do that grin

INeverSaidThat Sat 09-Mar-13 21:44:57

threebeeonegee

I'm guessing DS1 has made me something on Minecraft. He will show it to me then blow it up as a tribute to me

That is inspired. I like your DS's style. grin

cardibach Sat 09-Mar-13 21:48:03

Sasha - sounds like you'll get more tomorrow than I get (or want) for Christmas! How many children do you have to have so many cards? (^"a few home made cards, a few shop bought"^)

INeverSaidThat Sat 09-Mar-13 21:48:10

SashaSashays

I agree, it is not that they are getting pricy gifts - it is the fact they are bragging about it on Facebook. If you can afford it, you can spend your money on whatever you like smile

suebfg Sat 09-Mar-13 21:50:36

Sounds like they don't have their priorities right

INeedThatForkOff Sat 09-Mar-13 21:51:28

YANBU, and not just about mothers' day. I have cousins (they're siblings) who send each other links on Facebook to things they want for birthdays / Christmas. I hate that they do it so publicly.

MomaP Sat 09-Mar-13 21:54:26

Sasha 'I get what I want, when I want, does that make me extra greedy'

I am sorry, are we getting off the subject? What does that statement have to do with my OP? I am talking about Mother's Day and the sentimental prospects. Not what you can get "whenever you want" Geeezz!!!

janji Sat 09-Mar-13 21:54:43

Anyone can brag on facebook but o often wonder what might be missing in their life to make them feel they have to do this. The real meaning of Mother's Day for me is my children taking the time to give me extra cuddles, homemade stuff etc. anyone can splash cash; earning children's real love cannot be bought.

Sparklingbrook Sat 09-Mar-13 21:59:28

Why get a present from your DH on Mothers Day Sasha?

SashaSashays Sat 09-Mar-13 22:02:48

Cardi 5 DC, plus I usually get one from my 2 nieces who've lived with us on and off. I'm lucky, DH always makes a massive deal of occasions, although I return the favour on Fathers Day. Also some of my DC are teens or older so work and buy me nice presents. I'm not complaining I do shitloads for them all!

OP I do actually think my point is relevant, you're saying its only mothers day, should be about homemade gifts etc, but I think if waiting until special occasions to get expensive gifts makes them greedy then what am I? In your opinion mothers day doesn't warrant such presents, but I think any day of the week you deserve nice things. Anyway its probably just an excuse to get something they've wanted for a while or to justify an expense.

The bragging is irritating but why on earth do you care if they're getting a big present.

Bitofagirl Sat 09-Mar-13 22:03:11

I will Ofcourse love my school made cards and gifts torrow, but the shallow side of me can't wait to use my new mulberry purse.

Facebook is for boasting, if it upsets don't go near it tomorrow.

SashaSashays Sat 09-Mar-13 22:05:18

Because Sparkling, my 2 youngest aren't exactly at shopping age and my DH thanks me for being the mother of his children, the effort I put in etc. SO thats why I get a present form DH on Mothers Day. He gets one from me on Fathers Day.

Why is that an issue?

LadyLech Sat 09-Mar-13 22:06:22

Nah, I don't really get mothers' day. I haven't asked for anything, and will be happy with a lie in and nice breakfast. Don't see the need for big presents.

germyrabbit Sat 09-Mar-13 22:06:58

oh my ds loves minecraft i hope he's made something for me to then blow up!

HokeyCokeyPigInAPokey Sat 09-Mar-13 22:07:59

I don't care what anyone else gets, in my eyes a hand made card from my dd's will trump everything else imo.

DH bought tulips from the corner shop for the children to give to me. I'm really happy with them - simple, pretty, thoughtful. I'd rather my children grow up knowing that I'll be delighted with whatever they give me than think I'm a demanding old shrew who will never be satisfied and for whom they will eventually resent buying presents.

INeverSaidThat Sat 09-Mar-13 22:09:24

Bitofagirl

grin.

As long as you don't post photos of bag on Facebook.......

willesden Sat 09-Mar-13 22:09:29

I want to wake up DS and ask him for a Minecraft gift. I soooo want one now grin

ifancyashandy Sat 09-Mar-13 22:14:25

I am not a mother but I have one grin.

About 5 years ago, she made a 'photo' album of cards, letters and photos of her life. There were cards in there I'd made when I was 3,4,5,6,8 (you get the picture!). I had no idea she'd kept them.

I cried like her a baby. And I want it when she, God forbid, dies. It'll be a reminder if her love for me.

An iPad? A lovely gift but naff all compared to your child's art work (I imagine).

MsWetherwax Sat 09-Mar-13 22:18:57

I bought my dm a laptop for Mothers day. In my defence it was also partly her birthday present (her birthday is today), and it was a reconditioned one, but she has wanted one for a long time and has recently had a nasty health scare.

She would never have asked me to but it, but is absolutely thrilled with it. I don't think £2 for every year she's been my Mum is particularly extravagant, and the look on her face when she opened it this morning was priceless.

On the other hand, I am an adult, and bought it myself, so not sure if YABU or not. <picks splinters out of backside>

MomaP Sat 09-Mar-13 22:19:39

Sasha. Of course, anytime of the year should warrant such gifts, but I truly believe expensive materialistic gifts such as tablets, computers, etc, is absolutely absurd.

Rather than husband going to a shop and picking things for children, why doesn't father spend time with the children making something special for mummy? Wouldn't they understand and appreciate Mother's Day, not to mention, have such self accomplishment when they hand mummy something they've put time into, rather than handing their mother a iPad, computer and not having a clue about what they've just handed their mother.

But hey, if you can afford it...

thanks

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