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AIBU?

To think asking for expensive gifts for Mothers day is greedy?

129 replies

MomaP · 09/03/2013 21:06

Im sorry if you disagree, actually, no I'm not! Envy

I have just witnessed two friends of mine, on facebook say they have convinced their DH's to buy them an ipad for mothers day!! WHAT? Hmm

Both women have 2 DC, who are all under the age of 5. Am I missing something?

My DS made me a present at school this week, its in DS possession, ready to give me tomorrow, I am SO excited. Grin What ever this present is, I know its made by him, that means more to me than anything - it is something I will, without a doubt keep forever. Sentimental gifts/cards are what mothers day is about, or well, it used to be anyway.

AIBU to think anyone expecting things like ipads etc are greedy and have no appreciation for mothers day, its just about material items to them?

Wine

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Sparklingbrook · 09/03/2013 21:08

Oh and tomorrow there will no doubt be photos of said Ipad on FB with a vomit inducing torrent of gratefulness and love to the DCs.

Something to look forward to.......

YANBU

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MadStaringEyes · 09/03/2013 21:08

YABU, they may be getting a homemade gift too.

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AgentZigzag · 09/03/2013 21:08

Hahahaha I admire their gall Grin

It's canny rather than greedy, but you're right, it should be about home made stuff and things that don't cost a bean.

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LatteLady · 09/03/2013 21:10

When we cleared out my mother's house after she died, we found a card my brother had sent her in the 40s (he is 18 years older than me!) which he had made and she saved. She kept it fr over 50 years... doubt an i-pad would last so long or mean so much.

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DoingTheBestICan · 09/03/2013 21:11

My ds came home from beavers last Monday with a gorgeous flower arrangement he had made himself and he has a card he has made in school to give me tomorrow.
I know I'll have a cup,of tea and some toast in bed tomorrow and a lovely cuddle and kisses off him.
YANBU, I wouldn't like expensive gifts like that,the homemade gifts mean more.

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HintofBream · 09/03/2013 21:13

It's Mother's Day (or even Mothering Sunday) not Wife's Day, why on earth would anyone expect a present from a husband/partner? I have told my grown up DCs not to spend money on presents, they have plenty that they need to cough up for without my adding to it. Nevertheless, still got some flowers today.

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ThreeBeeOneGee · 09/03/2013 21:14

I know that DD made me a keyring out of beads because she accidentally broke it and I had to fix it for her then forget I'd seen it! Grin

I'm guessing DS1 has made me something on Minecraft. He will show it to me then blow it up as a tribute to me.

Very happy with both of these (or whatever else they have spent time or thought on) and have no complaints.

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RatPants · 09/03/2013 21:14

My ds made me a cake in nursery. Then ate it in front of me.

The iPad is from their DH really isn't it? No reason why the dc can't make them a card too.

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Sparklingbrook · 09/03/2013 21:15

Ooh a Minecraft gift Three. I hope I get one of those. Smile

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MrsRajeshKoothrappali · 09/03/2013 21:16

My DS made a rabbit costume for his Sackboy on LittleBIGPlanet in homage to me.

I likes bunnies, I do!

Grin

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Adversecamber · 09/03/2013 21:16

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bugged · 09/03/2013 21:17

YANBU My dcs are so excited about giving me the things they have made at school & their excitement is enough of a gift for me.Dh took them out today to get flowers too but I don't expect or want anything else.

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twinklytoes · 09/03/2013 21:18

reminds me of a colleague's valentines day rant ...

friends of hers are about to loose their house, redundancy etc..literally no spare cash . wife displays picture of a tiffany necklace with "wow, he loves me" on fb.

My colleague was talking this with her husband about this materialistic show of affection; where's the money?; they loosing their house etc... he cowers in corner...he'd lent his friend (the husband) the £250 to purchase the necklace!

My colleague promptly told her husband he'll never see the money so he better email his so-called best friend and tell him it's a gift.

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LoganMummy · 09/03/2013 21:18

Our DS is two. At nursery he made me a card and paper flowers and I love them! Each to their own but DS isn't even old enough to understand. When he is I'll still treasure the handmade gifts the most.

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DoingTheBestICan · 09/03/2013 21:18

Like the minecraft gift,I might ask ds to build me a huge building in my honour then blow it up,he will like that immensely.

Laughing at the cake being eaten by your ds.

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suebfg · 09/03/2013 21:18

I'm happy with a home made card and a bunch of daffodils.

I don't quite understand why married people covet expensive presents on birthdays etc. It all comes out of the same pot at the end of the day so if there's something I need, I just buy it when I need it.

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ThreeBeeOneGee · 09/03/2013 21:19

Sparkling: if previous form is anything to go by, it'll be fairly impressive. He made us a one-roomed spa hotel for our wedding anniversary last year... with twin beds!

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RatPants · 09/03/2013 21:20

I'm no one to talk actually as I've just remembered I had a lovely purse last year from DH as my DC are very little and he wanted to treat me. I wouldn't expect that every year though and definitely wouldn't ask for anything. I'm quite looking forward to receiving pack of biros and half eaten chocolates from the Spar in years to come. Grin

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Convert · 09/03/2013 21:23

I asked for new jamas and DH and DS1 took off to asda to get some, they spent ages looking for some I would like and came back with the perfect pair. The effort it took (DH is really crap at buying things I would like) was so appreciated!

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Mumof3men · 09/03/2013 21:28

Ridiculous and entitled!

All 3 ds are now adults. Ds1 (almost 25) has been through a tragedy recently and is back at home most of the time (huge back story not ready to talk about), last night I heard bumbling around in the bathroom at midnight and assumed he had come home (been with a friend since thurs), this morning went into the room to get something and was delighted and surprised to see ds3 under the covers! (ds 3 moved 100 miles away two weeks ago to live near ds2). he was proudly bearing a bent bunch of flowers (long coach journey) and a box of chocs. he informs me that although gifts are from him and ds2 he is , in fact, the best son as he had to pay his coach fare home!
Just seeing him and speaking to ds2 on the phone (working at police station over the weekend) means more than a bloody ipad!

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Quilty · 09/03/2013 21:28

YANBU - it's so sad how materialistic society has become.

On another note it irritates me that Mothering Sunday is always being called Mother's Day now. Mother's Day is an American thing. Why does this country always insist on slowly losing its identity to the USA?

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dimdommilpot · 09/03/2013 21:29

Dd is 2.4, ive got 3 home-made cards from her all of which are displayed already cos she couldnt wait to give them to me. OH bought me some flowers from her and i also got a 'i love my mummy' mug full of chocolate bars (again early) which will be my new favorite mug which i use all the time! Tomorrow we will make cake and lick the bowl clean :)

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dimdommilpot · 09/03/2013 21:29
  • YANBU
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toriap2 · 09/03/2013 21:31

DD bought me a mug with her own money for the first time this year and she was so proud! I am not supposed to know so had to close my eyes while stood outside the shop (but couldn't quite close my ears). I am chuffed as a sugar butty I am!

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Greensleeves · 09/03/2013 21:34

At the extreme, ie "Ker-ching, I got dh to buy me an iPad" yes it is a bit odious

but tbh I am finding the "oh my baby gave me a radiant smile and that was joy enough for me" brigade equally hard going

I don't get all the angst Confused

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