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WIBU to say no to this dad?

(151 Posts)
TidyDancer Sat 09-Mar-13 19:06:16

This happened earlier this week, and is actually quite trivial. DP thinks I was being a bit mean, so I thought I'd throw it out there!

I was walking through my local shopping centre after work when a small child (3 or 4 at most) took a shine to my bag. In all fairness, it is a rather lovely bag. It's a pink tote bag with a penguin on it. I use it for my lunch and some odds and ends on work days.

Anyway, aforementioned small child squealed in delight at my bag and I smiled as I passed her. Next thing I knew, the father of the child was tapping me on the shoulder and asking me if his DD could have my bag! I was a bit taken aback tbh, and said that I was sorry, but no, she couldn't have it. I was perfectly nice about it, but walked away to get the car. As I was leaving, I heard the dad say to his DD "sorry darling, the mean rude lady said no". There was crying following this.

Was it really unreasonable of me to not want to give away my bag? It was not a free bag and I was quite stunned tbh.

Any opinions? smile

TidyDancer Sat 09-Mar-13 19:55:03

Mr Tidy says only if you cry if he says no. wink

Pan Sat 09-Mar-13 19:55:26

FFS it's only a bag. That poor child will be scarred now. YABVU sad

catgirl1976 Sat 09-Mar-13 19:56:18

Pan, could I have your car?

DS will cry otherwise.

MsPickle Sat 09-Mar-13 19:56:50

Apart from the fact it's a ridiculous request, what did he expect you to so with the contents? Hand those over as well?

What a daft wally.

expatinscotland Sat 09-Mar-13 19:57:20

'FFS it's only a bag. That poor child will be scarred now. YABVU'

It's a tenner. If a child came up and asked you for a tenner just because they wanted it to you hand it over? Or your phone case or phone? The OP's son chose it for her.

Pan Sat 09-Mar-13 19:58:57

sad

Lovelygoldboots Sat 09-Mar-13 19:59:15

<wonders if penguins are next seasons trend on the catwalks>

HecateWhoopass Sat 09-Mar-13 19:59:18

I think pan must surely have been joking. grin

Wallace Sat 09-Mar-13 20:01:00

I think it was Pan grin

Lovelygoldboots Sat 09-Mar-13 20:01:33

I assumed pan was messing about.

TidyDancer Sat 09-Mar-13 20:02:40

Yeah I think Pan was joking. I hope so anyway!

Lovelygoldboots Sat 09-Mar-13 20:03:34

Was it the arctic animal or chocolate biscuit on your bag?

OkayHazel Sat 09-Mar-13 20:03:56

Laughing a little bit at the image you going 'Why yes, of course she can', and then unloading your belongings into your arms and carrying on with your day.

What a knob.

Pan Sat 09-Mar-13 20:05:18

<wonders how long I can keep this up for>

In years to come that poor little girl will be in counselling, and...

Well It's the bear pit that is AIBU!

The man's a feckin' loon obv.

TidyDancer Sat 09-Mar-13 20:06:12

I have a creature on my bag, Lovely. I think it's a gentoo penguin. smile

BananaramaLlama Sat 09-Mar-13 20:06:53

Could he have been asking if she could hold it for a minute? Am clutching at straws because otherwise it is so bizarre that he would ask for it.

nipersvest Sat 09-Mar-13 20:07:13

i'm going to try this when we're out tomorrow, maybe with a mulberry. will get the dc's to have a tantrum wink

yanbu, bloke was rude for asking, what kind of a message is he sending his dd, if you see something you like, just take it!

Lovelygoldboots Sat 09-Mar-13 20:07:35

My favorite penguin smile

Pans the daddy!!

Pan Sat 09-Mar-13 20:08:08

They are probably a double-act, a la Oliver!, collecting odd items from strangers based on crying girl, and then ebaying them.grin

midastouch Sat 09-Mar-13 20:08:47

How strange, i wonder why he didnt just ask where you got it from

thenightsky Sat 09-Mar-13 20:08:52

I might have handed it over, but I'd have asked for, oooh, about £50 grin

catgirl1976 Sat 09-Mar-13 20:09:10

Oooh nipers

I want a Mulberry. Cracking idea. DS has amazing tantrums so I reckon we could score one grin

Fakebook Sat 09-Mar-13 20:09:12

I can see this being in a sketch show. The guy asks for the bag and you hand it over along with your trousers, top, bra and knickers and walk out of the shop whilst he stands there gobsmacked. Brilliant.

Pan Sat 09-Mar-13 20:09:21

Glaikit - nah, I just nick stuff.

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