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Mothers Day...grrr

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BoringTheBuilder Sat 09-Mar-13 10:59:24

My last post was a mess but hopefully you got the message. I'm the one who is in charging of present buying for Dh's family for Christmas, but only because I'm a control freak and obsessed with bargain hunting. But I don't buy for the adults B'day and other celebrations either. And the only reason I buy for adults for Christmas its because its is really very important for them to receive gifts on the Christmas day which makes me cringe every year. If I let Dh in charge she will break the bank. I'm still kicking myself I didn't buy for this year's Christmas on the sales in January................when are the next big sales coming up?????????

Bunbaker Sat 09-Mar-13 10:34:08

"Boring, it's not a commercial date. It's Mothering Sunday, and it is a date in the Christian church year."

That's right. Mother's Day on the other hand is a commercial thing, not to be confused with Mothering Sunday.

DonkeysDontRideBicycles Sat 09-Mar-13 10:25:44

Your reward will be in heaven or hopefully nice things/surprises for yourself tomorrow!

2rebecca Sat 09-Mar-13 10:19:30

I just used to send a card and present for my mum. My husband sorts out stuff for his mum and whilst I helped my kids sort out stuff for their dad (my ex) for father's day I wouldn't get involved with all these other women. If people are old enough to buy and wrap a present they get on with it. If they aren't that doesn't make it your job.
Fine be the present martyr if you want but don't winge about it. Women don't have to do the present and car jobs men can't be arsed to do. There isn way I'd be assiting my kids to get any other woman a mother's day card or present either. They only have one mum, me. My kids don't send my husband father's day stuff, he's not their dad. Your husband should be sorting out presents for his ex if she doesn't have a current bloke to help with this or the kids aren't old enough to do it themselves.

BoringTheBuilder Sat 09-Mar-13 09:25:07

I think I get why OP is sending a gift to her X's girlfriend, perhaps she treats OP's child nicely and makes an effort with him when he is visiting his dad and OP wants to show her appreciation for that. I think its your intentions buying all these presents are nice OP but try and don't get caught up in the commercialism next year. You can do something together with the kids at home like biscuits/muffins/cards and it will be just as well received I'm sure. But if you think bought gifts are a must, try to buy on the Christmas sale well in advance so you can't get more value for your money. Happy Mothers Day I hope you have a lovely time.

PlinkyLove Sat 09-Mar-13 01:32:38

I said to my daughter don't buy me anything for mothers day, I don;t care about it please don't money is tight. She is disappointed but money is not what its about.

StuntGirl Sat 09-Mar-13 00:56:24

Yep, you've gone overboard. Just don't do it...

OkayHazel Sat 09-Mar-13 00:37:12

As far as I'm concerned, Mother's Day presents are only to be sent from the child, to the woman who birthed/raised them. Dad's current fling will not be getting a look in!

givemeaclue Fri 08-Mar-13 23:26:33

You've gone overboard, if dcs want to give something to all and sundry let them make a card themselves!

yousankmybattleship Fri 08-Mar-13 23:26:27

What's the point if you are buying and wrapping the presents? If the children really want to do somehing nice they can make a card or write something if they aren't fussed, then really why bother?

Methinks you are taking this a tad too far.

mummymeister Fri 08-Mar-13 23:22:16

Commercialism gone mad - dont fall for it. next year get the kids to make a huge batch of gingerbread men/cookies/cupcakes and give them out instead. cannot be doing with it myself. i get a home made card and thats it.

RivalSibling Fri 08-Mar-13 23:11:50

My ex h.. Girlfriend present from my ds

Really?

You are his mother. She isn't.

FannyBazaar Fri 08-Mar-13 22:25:14

I think the kids should at least be doing the wrapping of the presents that are 'from them'.

I think when you are buying presents for your ex-H GF it ceases to be a religious holiday.

BoringTheBuilder Fri 08-Mar-13 22:02:13

It is commercial in a sense that some people feel they have to BUY something. From the shops. Who make sure they advertise as much as possible to brainwash people and obviously children. Nothing wrong with it, shops need to sell and make money, but some people are already under so much pressure. Which mum wouldn't appreciate just a poem, a drawing, a home made hand made card and a nice cuddle??

gwenniebee Fri 08-Mar-13 21:55:07

Boring, it's not a commercial date. It's Mothering Sunday, and it is a date in the Christian church year.

Piglets, I once listened to a great sermon (when I worked in a school with Sunday chapel in Mothering Sunday - that was popular!) which talked about it being a day honouring all in a mothering role, even the 28yr old male form teacher got a mention. That's what you're doing - good on you smile

BoringTheBuilder Fri 08-Mar-13 21:52:43

hahaha, arts and crap crafts
sorry...;)

BoringTheBuilder Fri 08-Mar-13 21:51:27

The poem idea sounds lovely, what a sweet child, how old is he?
Have you thought about arts and crap crafts for them to make and give?

Pigletshere Fri 08-Mar-13 21:09:11

I'm doing it as the kids want to... As a mum I think it's a waste of money and my time but they excited.
Thanks Mummydarkling...my ds has written me a poem that I'm not allowed to read until Sunday

BoringTheBuilder Fri 08-Mar-13 21:06:02

I don't understand how people get so hooked up on commercial dates
Wake up!

mummydarkling Fri 08-Mar-13 21:04:37

thanks It may not feel that way at the moment but I think you are doing a great job, yes it is probally a made up thing but it is nice to have your contribution noticed. Hope you have a special time with your DS too.

INeedThatForkOff Fri 08-Mar-13 21:04:31

Oops, DS's. Really confused

INeedThatForkOff Fri 08-Mar-13 21:03:50

But your exH's GF isn't your DH's mother confused

Pigletshere Fri 08-Mar-13 21:00:39

Ok wrapped 4 sets of mothers day presents now
My mums
My others halfs mum...ok so far
My ex h.. Girlfriend present from my ds
And my oh ex from his kids...
Also brought all 4 sets of presents and cards...

Just think the whole thing is a total joke ...

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