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To think if you work one day a week...

(62 Posts)
StuffezLaBouche Thu 07-Mar-13 18:02:35

You should arrange your appointments for any of the four working days you're not at home?
Willing to be told IABU here as I'm childless so obviously haven't experienced this.
An ex colleague of mine fell pregnant after a long time believing she couldn't. Took her maternity leave and returned to work (teaching) @ 0.2, which is one day a week. Her DH works from home and grandparents look after the toddler while she works. All fine.
Her child is now two and she is pregnant again and thrilled. However, she's arranged her last two medical appointments on the one day she works - which means a TA has had to cover her (not fun for the TA in the school in question.)
So genuinely, AIBU to think she should have arranged them on a different day?

gymboywalton Thu 07-Mar-13 18:03:46

all depends what the medical appointments are

if she is seeing a consultant, then they often only run clinics on certain days

YouTheCat Thu 07-Mar-13 18:04:06

If at all possible, she should change appointments. If not possible may be she should change the day she works?

NotTreadingGrapes Thu 07-Mar-13 18:04:34

YANBU.

In my experience, you take appointments when you can get them, midwife appointments while I was pregnant were like gold dust!

HousewifeFromHeaven Thu 07-Mar-13 18:05:24

Yanbu

fairylightsinthesnow Thu 07-Mar-13 18:07:08

depends on what they are. A lot of clinics etc only run on a particular day. when I was pg with DC2 I only taught on 2 days. Every fortnight I had to attend a clinic at the hospital that was on one of my two days. When I went back after ML for three days a week I had all sorts of issues trying to see the HV for my son's 2 year check because they only did them on certain days and they weren't my days off. I had to wreck our half term plans in order to fit it in rather than miss a couple of lessons. Anyway - should a teacher, as opposed to a TA not be covering? (Sorry, I'm secondary so don't know what the norm is in primary)

Blowninonabreeze Thu 07-Mar-13 18:07:31

Personally, in that situation, I'd move heaven and earth to get appointments on any day other than the 1 day I worked.

BUT sometimes logistically that's tricky. Eg the midwife only comes to my surgery on a Wednesday. (However the one time I couldn't do a wed, she arranged for me to see her at a different surgery)

The consultant who specialised in hypertension only does clinics on Thursdays, etc etc etc

Depends on what the appointments r. Some things you can only do on certain days as midwives only visit surgeries on set days or the testing is only done on a Tuesday morning etc. if however she has the option to arrange then although legally she's entitled to the paid time off , ethically I think she could rearrange so not to inconvenience everyone.

However there is nothing you can do, it's her business and people will just have to accept it as legally she's entitled .

YouTheCat Thu 07-Mar-13 18:08:13

TA's cover a lot in Primary.

XBenedict Thu 07-Mar-13 18:09:30

Sounds simple to achieve in theory but as others have said many clinics only run on certain days etc so in practice it might not be so straight forward.

CMOTDibbler Thu 07-Mar-13 18:10:05

If they are hospital ones, you don't get any choice in the matter unfortunatly. But if things can be arranged, then they should be on non working days.

whatyoulookinat Thu 07-Mar-13 18:10:19

Yabu if its the only day she can see the midwife.They usually work several health centres & will only be at yours one day a week. Maybe its the day she works?
Yanbu if she can make app on another day.

IcanandIwill Thu 07-Mar-13 18:11:15

Depends on the appointments. I had to see a Consultant and the clinics were set, it was a case of that day or nothing. My Midwife was a little more flexible but not actually that much.

StuffezLaBouche Thu 07-Mar-13 18:11:31

Thanks for these comments - just wondering what was normal. It's a bloody tricky school that's really in the shit at the moment for various reasons (me leaving, obviously, muahaha) and yes, it is a TA covering. The kids are VILE when TAs cover. (Yes ideally it would be a teacher, fairly lights, but budgetary reasons mean it won't.)

Titchyboomboom Thu 07-Mar-13 18:11:32

Mine were always on the same day of the week, no option as a small village surgery

youmaycallmeSSP Thu 07-Mar-13 18:15:27

YABU once you know the ins and outs of it smile As others have said, there is usually little or no choice of appointments, especially if you're under consultant-led care for a complicated or higher risk pregnancy. Paid time off work to attend antenatal appointments is also a pregnant woman's legal right.

StuffezLaBouche Thu 07-Mar-13 18:18:34

Paid time off work to attend antenatal appointments is also a pregnant woman's legal right.
Thanks SSP I knew that and that's why I had an inkling IWBU :-) I also didn't know appointments were so hard to get! Fair enough!

youmaycallmeSSP Thu 07-Mar-13 18:24:05

If she's deliberately scheduling appointments for her work day to maximise her time off then it would be fairly outrageous. I can only imagine the slackest of slackers or someone in an awful workplace that they couldn't wait to leave doing that though.

CatsRule Thu 07-Mar-13 18:27:21

She should arrange them for her days off however I attend a clinic and it only runs on a Thursday morning...I have no choice. If I wotked part time I would probably feel I should switch my day off to accommodate.

StuffezLaBouche Thu 07-Mar-13 18:30:26

I do actually think that, SSP but didn't say in my OP as I thought it made me sound vindictive and I wanted honest responses. She's fairly open about not wanting to be there. I wouldn't either. Still, if she's entitled to take her appointments then her invention doesn't really matter, I guess

MrsDeVere Thu 07-Mar-13 18:31:17

Paid time off is a right but you are expected to make appointments at reasonable times.

If you work one day a week that would give you four other days free.

You don't always get a choice though. I work two days a week and do all that I can to avoid those days.

I managed ok when I was pregnant because there was a clinic on one of my non working days. I had to ask to be transferred over though. I could have gone to the other one and got away with it but it would have been taking the piss tbh.

DS has loads of appointments and they do come up on working days. I have to make up the time.

wigglesrock Germany Thu 07-Mar-13 18:32:44

I only worked 2 weekdays when I was pregnant and the midwife clinic fell on one of those days. I always took the last appointment of the day but still had to leave about 30 mins early. It's just one of those things.

MerylStrop Thu 07-Mar-13 18:35:34

Well it is her legal right, of course, but morally she really could try to change appointments to be on days she does not work.

If it is just routine midwifery appointments, there is, in my experience (3 kids), some flexibility if you ask politely (eg go to the hospital or different clinic), ditto any routine tests at hospital. If it is something urgent or serious then of course then that is different.

mamapants Thu 07-Mar-13 18:36:12

I could only see MW on a tues. Health visitors only on a Mon. Nothing she can do about it probably. Little choice with times either.

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