To ask if you'd rather live in a massive house in a crap location, good-sized house in a good-ish location or diddly house in a fantastic location?

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Beepbeep1 Tue 05-Mar-13 19:33:06

First of all let me just make clear I'm very blessed to have a house at all! And very grateful. I know people have bigger 'problems' - this is just a lighthearted thread really.

I'd bet we'd all probably like to live in a massive house in a fantastic area - but that's reserved for people with a lot more money than my family.

At the moment we live in a good sized house in an goodish area but I'd absolutely LOVE to live in a quaint little village...it's a long-time fantasy. However on our budget it would be a diddly (quite crap) house. And DH would be very, very reluctant to downsize. I wouldn't mind so much.

We have good schools, little crime, nice community etc but the suburbs just make me feel a bit sad. I don't think I'll ever really properly love it. Does anyone love where they live? Or is the grass always greener?

We have one DS and another on the way though so I suppose things like a nice big garden are important - again, wouldn't get that in the posh village.

What are everyone else's preferences?

cuillereasoupe Wed 06-Mar-13 09:44:05

We have a massive house in a location that terrifies most of my friends. BUT the local authorities are pumping money into the town because it's so crap ATM and we're getting a new train line next year so I reckon if we sit tight for a year or two we'll do well out of it.

FreudiansSlipper Wed 06-Mar-13 09:49:39

Location

for what we pay rent a good size house in suburbia or stay in bigger flat that I let out myself but much happier here and it has a great community feel

ivanapoo Wed 06-Mar-13 10:01:58

We went for nicer house, slightly less desirable / more suburban location. We probably won't make a huge profit on it or anything but our neighbours are lovely, we're near shops and a couple of decent eateries and most of our socialising is done around each other's houses anyway.

I feel happy every time I walk into my house, it's spacious and lovely.

jellybeans Wed 06-Mar-13 10:17:27

Small house in great area definitely. In fact that is what we have chosen.

SinisterBuggyMonth Wed 06-Mar-13 10:25:04

If it was just me I'd go tiny house fantastic location, something by the seaside.

But now I have a family I go for the goodish size house good location.

Terranova Wed 06-Mar-13 12:36:02

Cuillereasoupe, we have friends who joke about that when they come here, though we arnt a dire area, more middle, it's just you have to drive past a rough area about 1 mile from where we are, before it starts getting better again.

However every party we have, and most weekends, our house gets the vote to host, as with the kids in tow, we can't all fit into posh postcode shoe boxes with tiny gardens, we have a good sized garden and the kids can ride their bikes here.

INeverSaidThat Wed 06-Mar-13 14:20:17

Location 80%
House 20%

Hard to say though.

Beepbeep1 Thu 07-Mar-13 16:34:57

Well...I've four the village smile so now I just need to find the right house at the right price. I suppose as we're in no rush that makes things simpler?

Ahh it's gorgeous. 10 mins from the suburb where we currently live (and where our parents live). 5 mins from a good market town and 20 from the city. It has it's own c of e school, a pub, village hall.

DH not totally averse but we'll see what he's like if I do spot the house.

Beepbeep1 Thu 07-Mar-13 16:35:13

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cheeseandchive Thu 07-Mar-13 17:30:25

We went for a big house (well, 3 bed 2 reception rooms - significantly bigger than what we could have afforded elsewhere) in a location that would send a lot of people running for the hills. We knew we wanted a big family and so went for the trade-off that made the most sense.

But, similar to someone else up-thread, the council have been pumping money into it because of it's bad reputation so I think we'll ok out of it eventually. The area is really popular with landlords, is close to the city centre, some local attractions etc. We have amazing neighbours who look out for us and have actually found ourselves quite a little community in such a seemingly unfriendly area.

However, I did always grow up thinking I'd end up living in blissful village peace...I am still dreaming!

Saltpig Thu 07-Mar-13 17:51:49

I used to live in a big house in a good location. Now I live in a diddly, nice house in a fantastic location. The rent isn't diddly though hmm.

I plan to buy soon and I'll sacrifice the location somewhat for a another diddly house because the prices here (whitstable) are very silly grin.

cheeseandchive Fri 08-Mar-13 11:12:42

Having said that, I have just seen a man blow his nose very loudly into his hand and all over the street.

I would now happily live in a house the size of a matchbox, just to be somewhere where people do.not.do.this.

We've gone for the good house / good location. We are in London and are moving out of a flat in Zone 2 to a house in Zone 3. The location is fine, there are lots of families in the area and transport links are good.

We just needed the space and wanted a garden for the children. Its not too suburban (we once lived in Zone 5 and I didn't like it much) but we won't be able to walk to Oxford Street anymore. My ideal would be to transport the house to where we live now but short of winning the Euromillions I don't think that's going to happen.

KobayashiMaru Fri 08-Mar-13 12:13:09

Its all about location so why put a property thread in aibu?

Viviennemary Fri 08-Mar-13 12:36:08

Well I can see why people put it in AIBU because more folk will see it. I wouldn't go on the property topic that often unless I was looking for some specific subject.

jakesmith Fri 08-Mar-13 13:06:36

Location every time, far better appreciation on the value too so you have more flexibility if you do decide on space later

LaFataTurchina Fri 08-Mar-13 13:16:14

Location for me - no kids yet, and live in a small flat in a naice area.

I think I'd choose small house/flat in a nice location if I had kids too though. I was born in Milan where most people live in flat and most children share bedrooms.
Plus we lived in a bit of a dodgy area growing up and my parents spent ages driving me and my brother around to activities/friends houses as we didn't have many local friends.

maninawomansworld Tue 19-Mar-13 11:19:21

Location every time. We moved a while back from a HUGE house in a nice suburban / semirural area to a good sized house with loads of land in the middle of the sicks.
I am like a pig in muck! I love it and the only way I'm ever leaving is in a box!

littlecrystal Fri 19-Jul-13 16:24:03

I would say a small house in a great location, but then great location for me equals great schools, nevermind everything else.
Currently live in a goodish house in a crap location and thinking of seriously downsizing to be in boring suburbs - I hope my DC will thank me for that when they grow up.

VeryDullNameChange Fri 19-Jul-13 16:36:10

Location has two aspects - the niceness of the area, but also the commute. The "Commuter's Fallacy" has an actual name, whereby people pick a house with an extra two rooms they hardly ever use (or, in the UK, a garden they hardly ever use) but in a location which costs them an extra hour of their life every working day.

We live in a location that many MNers would consider ropy, but the short (and consistently short) commute to Central London is beyond price in terms of quality of life.

Obviously a SAHM may see it differently.

TheCatIsUpTheDuff Fri 19-Jul-13 16:46:31

Depends why the house is crap. If it needs work which you'll be able to afford over time, I'd consider it. If it's not big enough for your family or needs more work than you can afford before it hits crisis point, I wouldn't.

We have an adequate house in a not very special location, but it's convenient for both of us for family and work, and is going to be quite a squeeze when the baby arrives. It'll have to do for now. The next move is still going to be a compromise; it'll have to be in the same mediocre town, and will probably be a new-estate type house. Older, more interesting houses nearer the town centre are a LOT more money for the same amount of accommodation, but we'll make the best of it and hope that one day we can afford what we'd really like.

stuckindamiddle Tue 04-Mar-14 22:41:05

Dikker - my DH grew up in a small village like you describe and really resents it now. He found it v isolating as a pre-teen and teen and his (single) mum found it impossible to keep up with transporting him and his siblings to all the activities they wanted to do.

He'd agree with all the drawbacks you highlight and would never live in such a village again.

Caff2 Wed 05-Mar-14 00:05:36

We rent an estate cottage in a lovely village. We love it, have a fantastic landlord (Our local aristocrat, may or may not be closely related to the royal family ;) ) and my children both love it here (aged 13 and 19 mths). Location for me; I never want to leave my gorgeous cottage. Which I don't even own. But we have a secure tenancy and a free reign to do what we like with the place in terms of making it our own.

Caff2 Wed 05-Mar-14 00:07:04

Oh - the point was we could afford to buy a much smaller place in our local town in a horrible area. So we stay in our gorgeous rented home.

winterhat Wed 05-Mar-14 00:18:06

Location all the way.

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