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To keep a punishment going despite illness

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LtEveDallas Tue 05-Mar-13 10:09:47

OK MN Jury, do your worst grin. I don't think I'm BU, but promise not to be "one of those" posters.

Last week DD (7) did something very naughty. Her punishment was no 'screens' for a week ie no phone/computer/iPad. I gave the punishment (supported by DH) on Thu.

Yesterday she was sent home from school an hour early with a temperature and headache - she's been 'off colour' all weekend, but seemed better yesterday morning.

Last night she asked if she could go on the iPad and I said no. She didn't push the issue and there was no sulking or anything. She knows exactly why she is being punished.

She woke up crying this morning, complaining of a headache and sore throat. He temp was 38.7, so I've kept her off school again.

DH is a SAHD. I've just had a call off him to tell me she's feeling much better, her temp is back down to 37 and is asking for the iPad. He wants to say yes, I've said no. He is now in a snit with me <<grumpy arse emoticon>>

So, am I being too harsh? I don't think I am, but do you keep punishments going if your DC are ill?

shrimponastick Tue 05-Mar-13 11:44:34

Yanbu op.

I would have said that anyway, before discovering what the punishment was for.

If DS is off school sick, he is allowed to use his laptop only to check if any work has been sent through for him, or to catch up on homework on the school vlm.

<pulls DS down from chimney>

<reluctantly sends him to school>

Morloth Tue 05-Mar-13 11:47:46

Snort, seriously Dickens?

Seriously?! [Grin]

Morloth Tue 05-Mar-13 11:48:54

Smileys are case sensitive?! When did this happen?

LtEveDallas Tue 05-Mar-13 11:49:24

grin

Catchingmockingbirds Tue 05-Mar-13 11:50:48

I was going to say a week is a bit harsh, but after reading what she done I'd have banned her permanently from the iPad! She's still got tv and she can read, draw etc too so yanbu.

kimorama Tue 05-Mar-13 11:53:53

BRIBERY Many parents use some bribery with children "Pass this exam and you will be rewarded" Their are more subtle forms of bribery.

Punishing sick childre, frankly sounds sick except to chinese mums.

Morloth Tue 05-Mar-13 11:56:26

More of your wisdom please kimorama, I can see now I have been doing it all wrong.

kimorama Tue 05-Mar-13 11:56:38

In my experience punishments are handid down from say mother to daughter. A smacking mum has a daughter who smacks.

But fashions change; and what was permissable 50 yearsd ago might get you a visit from the law now.

aldiwhore Tue 05-Mar-13 11:57:04

To be fair, your dd did you a favour. If a 7 year old can guess your password, then it's a shite password. I would still punish, because she knew it was wrong, but I'd also REWARD her for flagging up my rubbish security. grin

Catchingmockingbirds Tue 05-Mar-13 11:57:08

What do you mean kimo?

aldiwhore Tue 05-Mar-13 11:57:58

A smacking mum has a daughter who smacks?

Really?

I suppose only gay parents have gay children too huh?

Gentleness Tue 05-Mar-13 11:58:01

I'm fascinated that kimora thinks my ancestors are in Dickens and think the way you've dealt with your dd shows the wisdom and flair of your namesake OP. Hope your dh manages to not give in. I recognise his pain. My 2 are quarantined till 48hrs past diarrhea but have ample energy and frustration to drive me mad.

kimorama Tue 05-Mar-13 12:00:45

Morloth. There is no strict RIGHT and WRONG for rearing children. We must remember that families are sort of secret. So a question a parent may ask themselves. is would I admit what I do to my children publicly; or is it controversial?

Thats one test.

Morloth Tue 05-Mar-13 12:01:04

That's OK then I dont have any daughters.

Where did smacking come from? Removing a 7 year olds ipad access is not actually equivalent to a beating...

Darksideofthe80s Tue 05-Mar-13 12:01:18

KIM surely your bribery suggestion is teaching the child consequences of a positive action, exactly the same as op teaching the child the consequences of a negative act.

LtEveDallas Tue 05-Mar-13 12:01:54

To be fair, your dd did you a favour. If a 7 year old can guess your password, then it's a shite password
Absolutely Aldiwhore, no argument from me. Certainly gave me a kick up the arse - until this happened we didn't even have security set up on our PC (because DD was always supervised, and Safari is disabled on the iPad), but I've sorted all that out now.

My password is now that long and complex I'm having trouble remembering it grin

She is far more 'computer literate' than I gave her credit for and TBH I thank my lucky stars that this is all that happened.

Morloth Tue 05-Mar-13 12:02:07

Have you perhaps been on the saki?

kimorama Tue 05-Mar-13 12:02:56

Well I dont think punishemt and sexuality are sensible comparisions. Do you?

TotallyBursar Tue 05-Mar-13 12:04:16

That's not any kind of answer now it is Kimorama?

Yanbu op.

shrimponastick Tue 05-Mar-13 12:05:42

kimorama are you deliberately trying to derail the thread. You are talking absolute nonsense.

The DD did something wrong. The DPs set a punishment. The pu nishment fits the crime. How else will the DD learn that she was wrong if not.

kimorama Tue 05-Mar-13 12:05:43

Darkside there is obvious bribery and subtle bribery. For goodness sake the school system has league tables.

Incidentally on smacking Thatcher said "No need for it, shouting is enough"

Darksideofthe80s Tue 05-Mar-13 12:06:15

I don't know what sort of 'secret' shit goes on behind your closed doors kim but I think it's tainting your view of normal parenting.

kimorama Tue 05-Mar-13 12:07:33

By this time a Chinese Mum has usually showed their face on mumsnet.
Not hiding in the cupboard are you?

Morloth Tue 05-Mar-13 12:08:37

My parenting isn't any sort of secret as I am sure my neighbours will agree.

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