...I haven't done it yet, btw.
In January I posted a thread about me being bullied by my work colleague. I don't know how to link the post on here for you to read for background reasons, not very tech-y, I'm afraid, but if you wish to read it, it comes under employment issues and titled bullied by work colleague, sly tactics, stress levels high:(.
Update: Since my last post, the bullying has upped a level. When my dh found he had testicular cancer, I was off work for a couple of days to help him post-op, very stressful, and while I was off, she told everybody it was because I was stressed about my job, that I was finding it hard!! When I came back to work, I was puzzled that nobody asked me about dh, and did I need help with my job, and to try to relax more. In front of other colleagues, she made a big thing about swapping my day off to tally with dh's hospital visits, all very sympathetic, but when we are on our own, she is horrible. She said ' you should be grateful, at least your husband is alive'. Her dh passed away a year ago last November.
Also she has started complaining to managers about the workload we have to deal with, constantly questioning then about why we have to go through such & such procedure to do this, that and the other. She is also undergoing a complaint made against her by a patient which has gone up to high level and the chief exec has been made aware. I only know this because our operations manager rang up our dept and asked for her, she wasn't in at the time, so told me about it to let us know it cannot happen again. I'm finding this really disturbing: if she carries on making mistakes, the pair of us will be kicked out of the dept. I feel she is doing all this deliberately just for that reason, that if she goes, so do I. She is dragging us both down.
Anyway, what I forgot to mention in my bullying thread was, the work colleague and I became friends on F.book a long while back, before the bullying started. We send messages via fbook messenger for work purposes only, in case of emergency sickness cover. She has a few friends that I know on her f.book account that work together in the same dept, and lately, they have sent me fbook messages this week, separately on different days, asking if I still like my job. One of them even sent me an email with a link which I opened, about working from home... I feel she put these friends up to this to see what my replies would be about my job, but it has made me feel violated. Thats why I want to defriend her, but would it look like she's got what she wanted, a reaction? Please advise...I'm in a state..
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crushedintherush · 03/03/2013 13:59
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