to think that I should be able to go into a bar without being sexually assaulted?

(188 Posts)
BubblegumPie Sun 03-Mar-13 02:59:27

I am quite drunk so sorry for any typos/incomprehensible..ness

I have just been on a rare night out with DH. DH is a music journalist and I went with him to a gig he was reviewing, we had a lovely night and then joined some friends from another band in a different bar after the gig.

I bought us a drink and then as the bar was packed I held my drink up high so that I didn't spill it on anyone, as I walked past a man, he groped my breast. I threw my drink in his face and asked him what he thought he was playing at, he laughed in my face so I slapped him (I don;t normally condone violence, but I guess my emotions overtook my reasoning) his friend then poured a drink over me, so I chucked what was left of mine over him and gave them both a piece of my mind. They both and the women with them went on to laugh at me and make fun of me.

DH and band were very supportive and kind and I felt really daft because I ended up crying and being comfroted by the lead singer of the band.

AIBU to think that I should be able to walk through a bar and not be fucking groped by some random cunt?? I don't think I am!!!! Urgh, just needed to get this off my chest before I got to sleep.

ChildlikeConfusion Sun 03-Mar-13 18:08:23

Never seen a shrug one on Mumsnet.

Only ever the Smileys listed beneath.

BubblegumPie Sun 03-Mar-13 18:10:26

Oh I wonder where I saw it? Never mind!

Fraying Sun 03-Mar-13 18:41:38

Sorry this happened to you Bubblegum . I think you're right - in an ideal world you wouldn't be groped in a pub, and you wouldn't react. I must admit I did the same. A guy grabbed my backside in a busy pub once. It was so mobbed I couldn't turn round but I had an umbrella in my hand and hit the groping hand with it. It probably wasn't the most sensible response but it was the instinctive one . . .and it stopped the groping.

MamaMary Sun 03-Mar-13 19:19:29

Shocked at some of the replies on this thread. I can't believe the no of posters givong the OP a hard time, just because she acted in self defence.

OP that was a horrible thing to happen and I for one am glad you showed the man how unacceptable his behaviour was.

Maybe I shouldn't be surprised that his female friends stood up for him, given some of the replies on here.

Also really shocked at some of the replies. And some of the incidents other people are recounting.

Does anyone else remember the thread that was on here asking how many posters had been sexually assaulted in their life? It was a scary scary number of posters who replied that yes they had been.
It's so fucking prevalent in society, and the fact that it is accepted and almost normalised is beyond frightening.

MidnightMasquerader Sun 03-Mar-13 19:36:16

Nice to see people turning up on the thread focusing on the important thing, first and foremost. smile

BubblegumPie Sun 03-Mar-13 19:37:12

I've heard some horror stories in rl today too. One friend was grabbed by a man in a club and dragged into the middle of a group of men who then pulled at her clothes, groped her and made disgusting comments about her body and what they'd like to do to her. Thankfully she managed to get away. Another friend recalled a time where a couple of men were stood outside the women's toilets waiting to slap their arses as they walked to and from the loos.

thebody Sun 03-Mar-13 19:43:19

It's absolutely disgusting but honestly op you could have been glassed.

Life long scarring or loss of an eye wasn't worth it.

BubblegumPie Sun 03-Mar-13 19:46:16

yes, we've already covered that thebody

TattyDevine Sun 03-Mar-13 19:51:12

I think its up to the OP whether it was worth it or not, actually, as it was HER it happened to.

amillionyears Sun 03-Mar-13 20:02:20

I want to know what the police do about sexual assault. Otherwise all women do is talk, and men can carry on getting away with it.

KellyElly Mon 04-Mar-13 16:17:28

That's awful OP. I slapped a bouncer around the face when I was 19 after he tried to shove his hands inside my knickers. I got punched in the face and chucked out of the Club. I stupidly didn't report it. If a man assaulted me like that again I would still slap him round his face or probably punch him now You did nothing wrong, he did!

BubblegumPie Mon 04-Mar-13 16:22:23

Thanks kelly What a twat, taking advantage of his position like that.

I haven't heard back from the bar WRT the CCTV, so I'm going to give them a few more days to reply and if I still haven't heard anything I will ring them.

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