AIBU to tell people off who park in parent & child spaces but have no children with them?

(558 Posts)
Ameybee Thu 28-Feb-13 15:47:28

This does my head in when I'm struggling to get 2 kids out the car in a normal space yet some idiot without kids is parked in the child space!!

I told a lady off today! I said 'do you know this is a parent & child space?' She said 'yeah' I replied 'so you're just being inconsiderate then?' She thought about it then made up some bullshit about her child being 'down there, in that shop!!' - she had just driven in!!! Clearly lying. So, would you say something to someone!???

OutsideOverThere Thu 28-Feb-13 16:21:56

They are provided as a courtesy, yes, but a courtesy for parents with children.

How does anyone justify using them without? I don't understand. If I go to the shops without my children in tow, I blooming well park in a normal space, further away from the doors and with less space around the car.

Isn't that what you do? I mean, I like to think the parents with their kids will appreciate my leaving their spaces alone.

People sometimes just park there to avoid their sparkly expensive car being scratched.

OutsideOverThere Thu 28-Feb-13 16:24:17

Oh yes and for those of you saying PARK FURTHER AWAY - and lug a huge baby seat 500 yards to the shop rather than 20 yards?

Would YOU like to do that? I mean fgs.

Sirzy Thu 28-Feb-13 16:24:31

People sometimes just park there to avoid their sparkly expensive car being scratched.

Given upthread someone admitted her child running ahead and opening the door into another car perhaps that understandable...

Its a shame car parks cant just make all spaces a bit wider

skratta Thu 28-Feb-13 16:25:00

Not this again....

Have you got salty pop Ron, Tiremumno1? Cos that's the only one I like.

skratta Thu 28-Feb-13 16:25:13

Popcorn!

OutsideOverThere Thu 28-Feb-13 16:25:39

Yes it is a shame Sirzy. But the main issue for me is the carrying of heavy baby carriers till you can find a suitable trolley to put them down in.

It's bloody hard work. They are really awkward as well as heavy.

Sirzy Thu 28-Feb-13 16:25:48

why not just get the baby out and leave the seat?

I do sometimes wonder how parents ever coped before P and C spaces, or how people who don't drive ever manage to leave the house

OutsideOverThere Thu 28-Feb-13 16:26:32

Because he is asleep? hmm

woozlebear Thu 28-Feb-13 16:27:37

grin at the 'it's a convenience not a right' brigade. Well, yes, sure, but then so are most things that we deem socially acceptable. It's not like the OP is saying the person contravened her human rights and should be hauled up in the Hague, just that such behaviour is rude and inconsiderate. Would you also say it's unreasonable to get annoyed about people sitting in priority seats on buses not giving up their seats to the elderly etc? Priority seats aren't a right either, but it doesn't stop it being bloody rude to sit there while someone who needs it more struggles to the back.

OP, if you're anything like me, what's upsetting you more is not the actual physical inconvenience (not that that isn't annoying) as much as the outrage of witnessing petty selfishness. YANBU. I don't even have children and it annoys me when I see it!

valiumredhead Thu 28-Feb-13 16:29:06

Imagine for a minute if you don't drive and you have to lug baby, buggy and changing bag etc on the bus <gasp!>

If you struggle to get out of a car how on earth would you manage?!

Panzee Thu 28-Feb-13 16:29:31

I find it really hard to care about this issue. And I have a preschooler and a newborn.

OutsideOverThere Thu 28-Feb-13 16:30:30

Been there and done that Valium. With the 12 tins of catfood under the buggy on the way home.
Plus all the other shopping.

It's really shit and I'm so glad to have a car to use now.

usualsuspect Thu 28-Feb-13 16:32:20

I don't care.

woozlebear Thu 28-Feb-13 16:32:55

Valium I don't drive, but always assumed that the whole point of driving is to avoid having to lug that sort of stuff on the bus. Which would then make it really galling - having specifically driven to make it more convenient and pleasant - to find you have to park far away from the shop. I don't really get this logic of 'your supposed inconvenience isn't nearly as inconvenient as x, y or z, therefore you're being a spoiled ninny and I'm going to mock you'.

usualsuspect Thu 28-Feb-13 16:33:48

I didn't care on the other 500000000000 threads about this either.

Pancakeflipper Thu 28-Feb-13 16:35:58

I used one of these nice big spaces the other day. I forgot my children were not with me.

I will miss these spaces when the children are grown-up ( is there an age when you have to stop using these spaces?) cos they are lovely and easy to park in.

Ameybee Thu 28-Feb-13 16:36:16

It was a busy retail park that I couldn't walk to. My issue isn't that I need to be near the shop - dont care about that, my issue is not having space to get the kids out. I'm sure back in the day they didn't have p&c spaces but neither did they have big bulky isofix and other carseats that leave less room to get the kids out!

If you don't think they are required then don't complain when your car door gets scratched when someone tries to get their kids out in a normal narrow space!

And she wasn't disabled - there were plenty of disabled bays in any case so if she was she should've parked in them!

TheCrackFox Thu 28-Feb-13 16:37:51

I honestly think P and C spaces should be put furthest from the doors so it will stop people without children parking in them. Lugging a car seat and toddler a couple of hundred yards isn't that big a deal.

Sirzy Thu 28-Feb-13 16:38:20

Again there is no requirement to get car seats out of the car.

And how do you know her health status?

CloudsAndTrees Thu 28-Feb-13 16:41:08

I find it really funny how stressed people get about this.

So you have to 'struggle' for an extra 20 odd seconds to sort your child out? So what? Where is the actual problem?

OutsideOverThere Thu 28-Feb-13 16:42:01

Ok Sirzy, but I'd like to see you try and do the shopping with a 5 week old baby who rarely sleeps, plus two older children, and get to the car park with your baby asleep in his seat and then WAKE him up - then what do you do with him?

Put him in one of those plastic trolley seats that are massively too big, hard and bumpy and dirty and will not let him sleep at all? Carry him screaming round the shop? Breastfeed as you shop?

Which is it?

Branleuse Thu 28-Feb-13 16:42:22

I've never used them. I don't think they make getting in and out of the car any easier tbh.
There's only ever about 10 and always full, so just use a normal space.

Sirzy Thu 28-Feb-13 16:44:19

If going out is that hard then shop online!

CloudsAndTrees Thu 28-Feb-13 16:45:53

Don't people just put a blanket underneath their baby if they find the plastic seats to hard and dirty? confused

usualsuspect Thu 28-Feb-13 16:46:50

We never used them either.

They didn't exist in my day , imagine that shock

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