to report neighbour to landlord for smoking weed?

(136 Posts)
alisunshine29 Wed 27-Feb-13 23:07:17

DD was playing in the garden tonight and our neighbour and some boys were smoking weed. I've smelt it many times before but hadn't realised that's where it was coming from - she has a 2 year old who was also out in the garden so hadn't suspected her at all. If it wasn't for her having a child there, and my children having to breath the smoke in if they want to play in their own garden, I'd mind my own business but now I'm thinking of reporting her to our joint landlord. AIBU?

Kyrptonite Thu 28-Feb-13 08:03:31

YABU. There's less smoke off a spliff than a cigarette. I highly doubt that outside was so smoky your DC asked to go inside. What do you do on the street if someone is smoking and walking past them?

It's not ideal but as pp have said you could have worse neighbours.

garlicbrain Thu 28-Feb-13 08:03:48

Erik, why on earth should the neighbour desist from smoking in her own garden if OP chooses to be out in hers? If my next-door asked me not to smoke outside, I'd ask her to go elsewhere!

garlicbrain Thu 28-Feb-13 08:04:42

... I have got a cute mental picture of the two of them popping in & out their back doors now, like one of those weather clocks grin

twofingerstoGideon Thu 28-Feb-13 08:05:34

now I'm thinking of reporting her to our joint landlord. AIBU?
Joint landlord. Snigger.
<Childish>

Seriously, though, as someone else has said - better the devil you know. If this is the worst she's doing it doesn't sound too bad. Sure you could end up with someone nicer, but you could end up with loud, thumping music, unpleasant twats, etc...

Just speak to her. Explain that the smoke is making your children cough and would she mind not smoking when they're outside.

veganvenelope Thu 28-Feb-13 08:07:08

Op, Yanbu! Cannot believe the amount of ppl telling you yabu. Your neighbour is a slank and a bad patent fíe smoking weed in front of her child, its an addictive, carcinogenic substance. Your garden shoulsd be a nice place for you and your children to sit in and play in, not where you are forced to inhale some selfish cows illegal drugs! I would grass her up, you absolutelt should not have to tolerate that. Cannot believe the hård time youve got here, though many on here are just hård Wired to say yabu regardless of the issue!

Chattymummyhere Thu 28-Feb-13 08:18:10

Yabu

Just ask her nicely is she would mind smoking at the bottom of her garden near the other side while your little one is out as its affecting them and making them cough.. If you come across as having an issue with the weed to her you will get no where just be nice and friendly to her.

vegan tobacco is addictive and carcinogenic. Wasn't actually sure that weed itself was either (the tobacco used as a vessel is...)

lottiegarbanzo Thu 28-Feb-13 08:43:28

The issue for you is her smoking in her garden, in such a way that it affects you. You should talk to her, exactly as you would if her cigarette smoke was bothering you. Be prepared for her to point out that she is outdoors, which is usually considered acceptable smoking space.

Much better for her children that she's doing it in the garden than indoors in the same room as them. Again that's equally true of smoking cigarettes.

someoftheabove Thu 28-Feb-13 08:47:09

I think the jury's still out on whether cannabis is addictive or not, but is certainly seems to be habit-forming, which could lead to dependency. The harmful effects listed for cannabis on the Talk to Frank website are more wide-ranging than for tobacco, and of course, if you've got both in the mix, that's even worse.
I don't think this post is about weed, though. I think it's about how to approach a delicate subject with a neighbour so that you can continue with a good relationship in the future. I would agree that just making a reasonable request in a pleasant manner has to be the way forward, for this and any other issues that come up.

WandaDoff Thu 28-Feb-13 08:54:52

If that's the worst thing she does, then you are lucky.

Just have a quiet word with her if it is bothering you. You would be very unreasonable to report her to the landlord for it without even attempting to speak to her.

DeepRedBetty Thu 28-Feb-13 08:57:18

I'm constantly amazed by the attitude that cannabis is harmless. No-one on here other than me ever actually had a family member develop cannabis psychosis? However that's by the by... OP tell your neighbour nicely that the pong from her joints is stinking your garden out and makes your kids cough. She probably doesn't realise how smelly it is and how far it carries.

leaharrison11 Thu 28-Feb-13 09:03:17

I cant believe how blunt people are being on this thread ! OP simply asked a question and then gets told to take the stick out of her arse. I think MNetters should say YABU or YANBU but there is no need to be nasty.

I completely understand how you feel my neighbour smokes it in the summer and i cant put my DS clothes on the line because the end up stinking of bloody stuff and i also dont let him play in the garden of they are smoking it i take him to the park or to nanas big garden, i believe children should be kept away from drugs and if that mean i have a stick up my arse to then im happy its there.

If i was you id speak to your neighbour to if that doesnt cut it then yes id go to landlord , if she will get thrown out thats her own fault for doing drugs and putting it around children.

someoftheabove Thu 28-Feb-13 09:03:52

I'm with you on that, DeepRedBetty. I think the argument goes, alcohol and tobacco are legal and are just as dangerous, so why are people going on about cannabis. But the issue is not how dangerous it is relative to something else. It's how dangerous it is, full stop.

OverlyYappy Thu 28-Feb-13 09:06:55

I have a family member with weed psychosis and YES it is addictive from what I have seen

Would I tell someone Landlord, no. I would ask them to go blow their smoke elsewhere though.

ChairmanWow Thu 28-Feb-13 09:08:21

I think it's the idea of rushing straight off to the landlord that's getting people's back up. It just seems a bit underhanded and snitchy. OP asked if she was being unreasonable to be going to the landlord, in which case the answer has to be yes. They have to live next door to each other and her neighbour may have no idea it can be smelt next door.

I suspect even those who have indulged would feel it's not unreasonable to not want others to smoke near to our kids, if only because it raises some tricky issues. But that wasn't was OP was asking.

Ilovexmastime Thu 28-Feb-13 09:09:46

YABU, just talk to her, no need to go telling on her. Like others have said, I doubt the landlord will care anyway.

fromparistoberlin Thu 28-Feb-13 09:10:30

yes, YABU

and sanctimonious!

Altinkum Thu 28-Feb-13 09:10:36

YABU, as far as I'm aware its not illegal to smoke/inject drugs, but it is UR to have them on you, to sellthem etc...

AngelWreakinHavoc Thu 28-Feb-13 09:15:07

YABU!

MrsKeithRichards Thu 28-Feb-13 09:22:31

Bad patent slank, that's what she is. grin

HeySoulSister Thu 28-Feb-13 09:29:00

If you create a fuss op then what will she do??

I will tell you.... She will do it indoors instead.... Where it will seep through Walls/loft/floorboards...... Which creates a BIGGER problem

Pick your battles....

pluCaChange Thu 28-Feb-13 09:29:17

I'm not arguing about cannabis, which I do think is unpleasant, addictive and unhealthy (and probably wastes more time than just the time for consumption, rather like alcohol).

However, the landlord is not the one to complain to.

NC78 Thu 28-Feb-13 09:39:02

Reporting her is too harsh. Just ask her not to smoke it near your kids.

babanouche Thu 28-Feb-13 09:40:11

YABU. Your neighbour will probably be mellow enough to agree not to smoke when your daughter's in the garden. smile

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