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To Get The Rage Over Hammered School Shoes/Lost Gym Kit???

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LaQueen Tue 26-Feb-13 16:24:43

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NinaHeart Tue 26-Feb-13 16:29:41

I would encourage her to get into the habit of making lists to remember what she needs and where it is.

And only replace what is absolutely vital and with cheap versions, nothing branded until she proves she can be a bit more responsible.

I'd be furious too - and well remember my offspring going through a similar phase, for which you have my sympathy.

Blipbip Tue 26-Feb-13 16:36:20

You have my sympathy DS1 is the same and he is nearly three years older.

I refused to replace his jumpers last year - he had to spend half the year in shirt sleeves - and he hasn't lost his jumper this year grin

I also got his shoes rehealed at the cobbler much to his shame but I was quite proud of my ingenuity grin

I used to drag him into the lost property first thing in the morning and make a big fuss out of serching for all his things, that made him squirm a lot too but the big school isn't quite as easy to manipulate

QuickLookBusy Tue 26-Feb-13 16:45:55

I would be cross about her losing her trainers but I do think some dc just are a bit more forgetful than others. Dd2 is a bit like this. I used to dread her going to secondary school, but after a couple of episodes of her forgetting a book or pencil case, then getting told off by the teacher, she soon developed a much better memory!

As far as her shoes are concerned, I do think you're being unreasonable. School shoes do get scuffed and covered in mud. To me that means she's playing and having a good time running around etc. I'd much rather my dd was doing that than standing still worrying sick about a scratch on her shoes. My 10 yo neice is like this, she stayed last weekend and was really frightened about getting messy when we want for a walk and made a cake. She wouldn't even get some cocoa out as she said she might get it on her clothes(she had an apron on fgs)

TheSeniorWrangler Tue 26-Feb-13 16:50:37

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LaQueen Tue 26-Feb-13 16:54:23

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LaQueen Tue 26-Feb-13 17:02:24

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LaQueen Tue 26-Feb-13 17:04:13

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usualsuspect Tue 26-Feb-13 17:09:07

She's a child, children get their school shoes dirty. That's life.

The losing stuff is annoying, but my DS lost most of his school uniform over the years all through his school life. He left his PE kit hanging on the back of his chair over one easter holiday.

I was amazed it was still there when he returned to school.

QuickLookBusy Tue 26-Feb-13 17:16:34

Do her friends change into their trainers at play time? If not then I expect she won't want to appear "different" to them by wearing her trainers.

usualsuspect Tue 26-Feb-13 17:17:55

Bit of a faff to have to change her shoes every playtime.

LaQueen Tue 26-Feb-13 17:25:12

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DS1 used to lose things at primary school. When he started secondary school, we gave him a list of how much each item would cost to replace, and told him that he would be contributing to the cost on a sliding scale (35% of the total cost in Y7, 40& in Y8, 45% in Y9 etc).

Since we did this, there has been a dramatic reduction in the amount of stuff that gets lost or damaged. On the rare occasion that he does lose something, he is quite motivated to look in lost property for it until he finds it.

Ds1 at the first year of GS lost 2 coats, an entire PE kit including football boots, a jumper, a blazer, a set of house keys, an Oyster card and a bag.

Now, if he loses anything he has to replace it with his own money.

I have noticed he was very careful and never lost addidas jackets, hollister hoodies or his blackberry.
Since imposing the "pay for it yourself" rule 2 years ago he has lost....one pair of PE shorts and a maths kit.
That's all. In 2 years.

stealthsquiggle Tue 26-Feb-13 17:29:24

Are they really outside in the mud in their school shoes? The school's cleaning bill must be ridiculous with all that mud tracked back into school.

My DC spend break times outside, largely in the mud (in DD's case often, by her own admission, literally rolling in the mud) but they are all wearing wellies, overtrousers and coats, which (except the coats) have to stay at school.

I can't help on losing stuff. DS (10) often comes home without a jumper, but I have an absolute '1 jumper in school at any one time' rule, so he goes in the next day withough a jumper, and it usually turns up pretty quickly as long as it is cold enough. I know some of his peers are still losing pretty much a whole games kit per term, though - and presumably having it replaced hmm. I don't know whether it is just who he is, or his mortal fear of having to tell me that he has lost stuff which is making DS keep better track.

QuickLookBusy Tue 26-Feb-13 17:34:44

I was just going to say similar stealth. The classrooms must be covered in mud if the dc are walking around in mud covered shoes. At DDs school they weren't allowed on wet grass unless they had wellies on.

However, I still wouldn't be cross about her shoes being scuffed or muddy. I think that's what happens to shoes. And some children are just heavier on shoes than others. My DDs always went through 2/3 pairs of shoes per school year. If they got scratched they just got polished a bit more.

stealthsquiggle Tue 26-Feb-13 17:38:07

Oh, yes, my DC's school shoes are wrecked. Unless they actually have holes in, I periodically paint over the scuffs with shoe polish. They never get new ones unless they have outgrown them or they have holes in the sole (I made a pair with holes in the top hang on for the last few weeks of term once)

MariusEarlobe Tue 26-Feb-13 17:38:08

Laqueen I could have wrote your post, I said to deputy tonight who will be here teacher next year that if the only thing he teaches her next year is to bring her stuff home I will be happy.
I stand NO chance at secondary!
she came home three times after falling in mud with a borrowed or kit because she didnt have hers, she has TWO in school. Three cardigans and many pencil case and contents also missing.

Loving the "one jumper in school at any one time" rule! DS3 (Y4) managed to lose three of his jumpers at school last term. At my request, the teacher told him to spend a morning break looking for them. His best friend kindly stayed in too to help him; no luck.

That evening was parents' evening; I went to his cloakroom and within a couple of minutes I had found all three jumpers within a 2 metre radius of his peg.

sittinginthesun Tue 26-Feb-13 17:41:53

I've got one of these. DS1 (aged 9) loses everything. He's always been the same, despite nagging, shouting, positive incentives etc. His teachers tell me it is just part of his personality, and that he is creative and deep thinking etc. I tell them, they're not constantly searching for stuff.

We're currently only missing a tennis top and a hat, but last year he lost his school shoes twice in a month!!!

DS2 is completely the opposite. Tidy and very very neat.

Wishihadabs Tue 26-Feb-13 17:45:52

I feel your pain. Ds had a new pair of school shoes today. They are covered !!

Badvoc Tue 26-Feb-13 18:00:36

LQ...puma trainers for school!?
Blimey.
I only buy cheaper stuff for school for just this reason...
Clarks is the most I would pay for school shoes and trainers and I have been known to buy supermarket brand trainers.
Ds needs trainers and plimsoles at school and then trainers for home and school shoes.
I could weep at times.
Both of his school sweatshirts with the logo on have black marker pen marks on.
I can't get the marks out.
So he now wears sweatshirts with marks on!l
He is on his 2nd lot of school polo shirt and trousers since sept.
I am wearing 3 year old jeans and 4 year old tops from next!

MerryCouthyMows Tue 26-Feb-13 18:16:54

LaQueen - isn't she just taking after her dad? Didn't he lose an entire car once?!

HoraceTheCheese Tue 26-Feb-13 18:28:24

My DD seems to be getting better at last about losing things (she's 13) - but this thread has just reminded me I need to superglue the back of her school shoes which she's ruined by shoving them on without either undoing the laces or using the shoehorn.

I wouldn't worry about mud or scuffs - mud washes off leather or plastic with the help of an old toothbrush, and a tube of renovating cream lasts ages covering a multitude of sins signs of having an active life. grin

LaQueen Tue 26-Feb-13 19:30:41

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