To be bothered by DH's new "food militancy"??? He's turned vegan and gone a bit nuts really.

(274 Posts)
MrsMushroom Sun 24-Feb-13 23:38:46

He's always been into healthy eating and working out...it's part of his personality. Fine.

But...a friend of his (big into uncovering government plots and all that...lizard people you know)

Well this friend sent DH a copy of something called The China Study which is a big expose on our food chain etc.

All this happened BEFORE the horse meat thing.

DH is now vegan. He's constantly asking me to read the report...telling me things like "When meat protein mixes with milk protein that is what causes some cancers"

And the latest is that cheap peanut butter has mold in it...which causes cancer.

So we can only buy organic.

He won't eat any processed foods...we hardly have any anway! As a family we didn't eat a lot of meat...one roast chicken a week which we got 3 meals out of...and maybe a bit of bacon.

That was it...no red meat really as we're on a small budget.

I'm frigging SICK of hearing it all!

he's now on Skype with his paranoid mate and they're discussing the evils of that fake meat...what's it called...you know soy stuff.

I cooked a chicken yestersay which I ate with the DDs...he came in from work and asked me to cover the chicken up...I suspect because he was tempted.

AIBU to be bored and a bit annoyed?

YouTheCat Sun 24-Feb-13 23:42:02

Sounds very irritating. Ignore him. Tell him he can cater for himself and keep his daft ideas to himself.

MrsMushroom Sun 24-Feb-13 23:44:51

Well he does catrer for himself with no complaints. it's just his holier than though attitude and the constant unwanted reminders that the food I like is apparently killing me.

it's like he has to have something to be INTO. Or he's not happy. WHY? Just fucking read a novel. Write one! Do something creative...don't be so navel gazing about your body and your life!

Seabright Sun 24-Feb-13 23:44:59

Buy him a parsnip and insert it let him deal with it as he sees fit.

FannyBazaar Sun 24-Feb-13 23:46:36

Does he grow the organic stuff? You can never trust the stuff you buy, get him digging if he wants to know exactly where his food comes from wink.

YouTheCat Sun 24-Feb-13 23:46:42

Tell him to go and do some volunteer work to stop him being so self-obsessed?

YANBU. Buy him a copy of Ben Goldacre's book and get him to check out the Bad Science Forum

TBH I'd be MORE worried about the influence this paranoid conspiracy-theorising so-called mate seems to have over your DH, especially as his opinions seem to override yours when it comes to family decision making.

MrsMushroom Sun 24-Feb-13 23:47:19

I do! I am sick of the fridge full of vegatables and cupboard full of pulses! All he eats are fruit, veg, pulses and rice etc. He's not having cheese or yogurt or anything and hasn't for about a month.

Fine...but shut up about it!

OhLori Sun 24-Feb-13 23:47:31

Let food be your medicine and medicine be your food. How true. However, this maxim is tempered with (in my) opinion that "healthy eating" becomes a problem when it comes from a place of Fear and Paranoia. It can be easy to fall into this obsession .... It is a positive thing to care about your body and eat healthily, but when people get into a tizz looking at a chicken or cannot relax socially in restaurants and friends' houses, there is a problem. Perhaps you could explain the difference to your husband? He may have just missed that in his current excitement/obsession - if all your life is taken up worrying about food, that is not real life ...

You may have to ride this out ... but you don't have to listen/go along with it.

Am I the only one who is grin about him turning vegan and 'going a bit nuts'. <giggles> I'm allowed to be cynical, I was 8 years behind the nut cutlet, woman and girl.

expatinscotland Sun 24-Feb-13 23:48:23

Ignore him! Weirdo.

MrsMushroom Sun 24-Feb-13 23:48:25

Well Lapsed his diet is his diet....not the family diet...so it's not affecting the families descion making at all. I still have cheese etc as do the DC.

MrsMushroom Sun 24-Feb-13 23:48:52

No MrsPratchett I noticed that after I wrote it too! grin

FairPhyllis Sun 24-Feb-13 23:52:37

YANBU. I would find it really difficult if someone I lived with radically changed the way they eat, but I would have an even harder time respecting anyone who started buying into paranoia and conspiracy theories.

PatsysPyjamas Mon 25-Feb-13 00:11:38

He does sound annoying. And covering the chicken up? Odd. Plus, if you're on a small budget, his health fads are going to be adding to the bill. Obviously you can't stop him from being vegan though. Does he never eat the family meals?

LadyBeagleEyes Mon 25-Feb-13 00:37:49

As long as you don't have anything to do with him and his diet just let him get on with it.
Carry on with feeding and eating with your dc.
I bet he picks at the chicken when you're not around though.

VivaLeBeaver Mon 25-Feb-13 00:38:58

Dh has the same ideas about food but thankfully isn't evangelical about it. He's been vegi for 30 years and just about vegan for nearly 10. No cheese, no milk, no eggs but he will eat yoghurt.

No quorn type stuff, no pasta and rice at a very maximum of once per week. No processed stuff.

He caters for himself. And he would cook dd bacon butties, etc if I'm out.

He does piss me off by opening all the windows if I cook sausages though as he can't stand the smell. So this time of year we can't eat them as he will insist on all the windows and the back door been wide open for an hour.

Tortoiseonthehalfshell Mon 25-Feb-13 00:42:45

But what is this doing to your small budget, if everything suddenly has to be organic?

And does the separate meal thing mean that you are cooking and cleaning for you and the DC with no help and he never takes a turn, and then he does the cooking and cleaning up for him? So there are two meals and clean ups to be done every night?

That would drive me utterly batty.

I had a friend who decided to become vegan after watching a programme about processing plants etc...she had this preachy preachy attitude and talked about how everything I was eating and feeding my DD was poison and went a little nuts about it all...I used to just say we ALL die eventually it is the one single thing we all have in common...I would much rather eat what I eat and look closer to Nigella than starve myself eating seeds and raw veggies, look like Gillian McKeith obsessing over my poo and die at roughly the same age I would have done anyway! Life is too short to examine every single thing that passes my lips...wink

GregBishopsBottomBitch Mon 25-Feb-13 00:51:59

Tell him to shut up before you ram a Filly con carne down his throat.

But your not NBU, because they are his views, hes doesnt need to force feed them to you.

MrsMushroom Mon 25-Feb-13 00:55:48

He will cook for us all...we just eat what he makes and then fill up on ham later! grin

I cook a roast dinner...he eats all the veg...I just end up doing say 6 vegetables instead of the usual three!

So he's got a plate of roast potatoes, broccoli, roast carrots, sprouts and roast garlic for eg.

The DC are used to eating vegi food as we've always done it to some extent. It's the lecuring me now and then I hate.

flow4 Mon 25-Feb-13 01:00:14

Annoying... But it will pass. New converts to any cause are always a bit over-enthusiastic wink I have friends who have been vegan for 20+ years, and they never mention it any more! grin

LentilAsAnything Mon 25-Feb-13 01:05:25

So he is passionate about wanting to eat healthily? Gosh, how utterly awful for you. Good for him. Perhaps you should read The China Study too, and maybe you will understand where he is coming from. Or you could watch the film Forks Over Knives, and Earthlings.

LadyBeagleEyes Mon 25-Feb-13 01:09:21

I'ts threads like this that make me ever thankful I'm single
I now realise that I have utterly no patience at all and no one could ever live with me without being murdered in the first hour.
It really is my way or no way and I love it, I'm so selfish.
Fuck compromise.grin

expatinscotland Mon 25-Feb-13 01:19:33

Thanks to this thread, I'm tempted to rustle up a ham salad roll.

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