My name is NOT Julie...

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ApplyYourself Fri 22-Feb-13 17:53:28

So I am reasonably friendly with a mum at the school. Our DC are both 6 and we have known each other for 16 or so months. Our kids play together in the holidays, do a club together and have tea etc, so a fair amount of contact.

I'm called Julia. She has always, ALWAYS called me Julie. I have corrected her twice over the months. Nicely but emphatically. The first time she said it I smiled and said ' It's Julia or Jules, either of those is fine, ' and the second time I just said ' Eeek! I don't like Julie.. it's julia! ' again with a smile. I have also corrected her son in front of her when he has said it.

She is the sort who use your name A LOT. And still she says Julie.

So.. would this irritate you? Annoy you? Not bother you?

It annoys the FUCK out of me grin

pleasestoptalking Sat 23-Feb-13 16:31:03

My sister in law pronounces and spells my name incorrectly. I've been married over 10 years now. I used to correct her but now I expect it. Doesn't bother me anymore and I've given up correcting her.

One day she might get it

BellaVita Sat 23-Feb-13 16:22:32

I either get Angela, Angelique or Angeline or sometimes Ange (the last one does irritate me especially if they do not know me).

Cuddlyrunner Sat 23-Feb-13 16:11:30

I hate being called the wrong name! I hate most of all when people who don't know me call me the very shortened version of my name-THAT IS FOR INTIMATE FRIENDS AND FAMILY ONLY!!! Not you, Mr Bank Manager or you who I only work with occasionally. It literally makes me boil inside!

MrsDeVere Sat 23-Feb-13 13:42:27

My DFIL called me Betty for 20 years.

My name is NOT Betty.

OttilieKnackered Sat 23-Feb-13 13:36:17

My name is Alice and I quite often get called Alison.

Some people don't seem to believe it's not short for Alison. Even when I say 'Alice, as in wonderland'. Pretty sure it's never been called Alison in Wonderland. Grrrr.

WorriedMary Sat 23-Feb-13 13:27:15

People often get my name wrong and I get; Paula (misheard as this) Carly or Clara. I just find it embarrassing having to correct.

Once I tried to correct a women who decided my name was Chloe when I worked at a supermarket when I was 17. I corrected her but she carried on calling me Chloe. I just answered her she looked a right twat though when she called me Chloe to my manager. grin

Since getting married I am also blessed with a surname that is frequently mixed up with a more common surname.

nickelbabe Sat 23-Feb-13 13:27:10

i am Andrea and have been called Anthea soooo many times.
[grr]

i just have to correct it - i always do it in a loud guffaw like the person's been a complete prat for getting it wrong.

I'm a Julie, and normally get called Jules by family which is fine...and some people call me Julie Wulie.....WHICH IS NOT BLOODY FINE angry .

Funnily enough, I was named after my grandmother, who was called Julia....

sorry - I have an 'unusual' name. Not usual.

oldraver Sat 23-Feb-13 12:55:05

Well if you think its just because she is a bit dim then I would think of way to have fun with it (if there isnt too much steam coming out of your ears), change her name she if she notices, write yourself a name tag (like a previous poster suggested) etc.

I would be worried if I had thought she was doing on purpose as changing someones name I would consider a bit of a put down

Oh this would really annoy me.

I have an usual name that normally gets pronounced as 'Sara' by people that can't read it properly. I once pulled up a manager of mine in a big meeting about how he was saying it. Everyone looked at me like I was out of order but I didn't want to spend the rest of the time in that job being called something that wasn't my name!

Yohoahoy Sat 23-Feb-13 12:30:37

My name is extremely common, and there are hundreds of us about. It has 5 letters.

There is a less common version with one letter missing off the end. More often than not, I get it spelt the shorter way. have even had people insisting it should be spelt the shorter way. <boggle>

I must confess to a brain freeze several years ago. Met a woman at nursery called Rebecca. (Names changed btw). I called her Rachael. I continued to call her Rachael for an embarassingly long time because my brain seemed to freeze around - "Biblical name beginning with R - Rachael."

Managed to get it right eventually, and she was very nice about it!

tharsheblows Sat 23-Feb-13 11:39:48

I had someone call me Molly for about a month. My name's nothing like Molly. I actually missed it afterwards, I quite like the name.

I am called a nickname from the time my mother was pregnant, my parents have never called me anything else ever and I find it hard to answer to my "real" name, too, because I forget it's my name.

I've got an awkward arsed name, and long ago gave up on everyone getting it right hmm

a mate though, I would expect to call me the right name, maybe next time say...do you know you keep saying my name wrong?

charlottehere Sat 23-Feb-13 11:27:42

I also have an 'a' ending name which has a more common varient of ending in an 'e', I get called the wrong name all the time, don't like the name but often let it go. However in your situation I'd be fecked off. Is she a wind up merchant or thick? grin

DizzyPurple Sat 23-Feb-13 11:20:58

My friend has a new baby Orla. A neighbour saw her in the street and said "why did you call her Ola, after the one on Strictly?" My friend said her name is Orla NOT Ola. The neighbour was adamant she was Ola as another neighbour had told her so. My friend got a bit cross in the end and had to say "I am her Mother. I gave her the name Orla, I think I know better than x down the road!" The neighbour still didn't seem convinced!

EnjoyResponsibly Sat 23-Feb-13 11:07:44

There were 3 of us in my class with the same name. So we were named by height, or rather by size. I will never forgive teacher for saddling me with the prefix "Big" as it lived with my sensitive teenage self for too many years.

I also hated the
Little version. She tweelly referred to herself as Little X in the third person especially when relaying a good test score. "Ooh
Little X got 98%".

Little twat.

Hissy Sat 23-Feb-13 10:09:07

Get a sheet of address labels. Next time she calls you Julie, get a label, write My Name is JULIA on it and stick it to yourself, forehead might be an obvious place, tho perhaps a little OTT. grin

TheEndTisHere Sat 23-Feb-13 10:00:50

I have a Celtic name that is spelt very differently to the English version.

80% of the time I fill a form out I get asked to check the spelling of my own name! I swear the next person who ask's if my name is spelt correctly will get my pregnant hormones in full force. I mean I know how to spell MY name!

OP I would call her on it every time surely she knows your name now.

RobinSparkles Sat 23-Feb-13 09:57:14

You need to be more like my DD grin. She is Isabel but my friend's little boy kept calling her Annabel. Every time he said Annabel she corrected him nicely until on the hundredth time she ended up shouting "My name is ISABEL, ISABEL! I am NOT Annabel!" blush

I understand how annoying it is though. In High School I was called Michelle by my Maths teacher and Vicky by my physics teacher, for FIVE years. Neither is even close to my name!

cece Sat 23-Feb-13 09:48:25

I have an Aunty Julia. But everyone verbally calls her Julie, she is never called Julia. Only when writing it do they spell Julia and not Julie.

Strangely though it's not even her real name. I found out the other day that her realy name is Ethel!?

ithaka Sat 23-Feb-13 09:47:01

YANBU it would annoy me.

To the poster much earlier in the thread who kept confusing her sons GF's name with his previous GF. My sister's MIL did this a few times when she and BIL were in the early stages of dating. My sis breezily responded 'please don't worry about getting my name wrong. My parents never bother to learn my boyfriend's names as I have so many' Snap.

melika Sat 23-Feb-13 09:36:18

YANBU, I get this with my SILs, one has a long russian name and always corrects me when I shorten it and the other tells me her name has an A on the end, but they always call me the shortened version of mine.. so I tell them MY name is MELIKA NOT MEL! Don't stand for it, Julia!!

HollyBerryBush Sat 23-Feb-13 09:29:58

And the ones who persist with the funky spelling of a normal name - it's
Holly - not fecking Holli or Hollie, just plain old Holly.

Your name is your identity and if people CBA to learn it properly, then they are just R.U.D.E ! What they are actually saying is 'you are so inconsequential, I cant be bothered to learn your name'

I get the name extension all the time. It is not my name. My name isn't main stream. I chose a short version because mainly I CBA to go through the correct pronunciation and spelling of it endlessly. Just stop anglicising it!

Startail Sat 23-Feb-13 09:20:33

I'm dyslexic I fuck up names all the time.

They just don't get past the useless short term memory into the functioning bit of my brain.

I'm desperately trying to put names to faces at a couple of things I do and having huge difficulties as there are too many slightly bald men and women with mum bobs.

I've come to realise I lose the details in faces, just as I lose the letters in words. I also suspect DD1 has the same problem and it's part of why she finds making friends hard.

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