to not drink on my SIL's birthday?

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ImNotDrunkIJustCantType Tue 19-Feb-13 12:50:59

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ImNotDrunkIJustCantType Tue 19-Feb-13 14:57:18

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ImNotDrunkIJustCantType Tue 19-Feb-13 15:03:39

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2rebecca Tue 19-Feb-13 15:21:30

Agree re being firm, if she goes on say something like "I'm feeling rather bullied by your attitude, why are you so interested in my alcohol intake it's nothing to do with you?"
Next time don't tell her when you're not drinking for a few weeks.
Alternately tell her it's for lent, or that you'll never drink again as you think the Morman religion is very interesting!
I suspect I'd be avoiding someone like your SIL as I hate feeling people are trying to control me and telling me how much I should be drinking/ dancing/ socialising etc.

I think you really are going to have to be very firm and upfront about it. Or she'll maybe push and push and when you refuse you'll be cast as the villain who spoiled her birthday.

Lovelygoldboots Tue 19-Feb-13 16:58:27

Another one on the wagon here, mainly for health reasons. Sunk enough red wine to sink a battleship over the years. Reading your post has made me determined also. I am enjoying feeling the health benefits and you will regret it if you stop now. smile

whocansay shock i only ever had alcohol put in my drinks. after i got so angry at them they never did it again to me. apparently im scary when im angry. guess thats a bonus grin i was on anti-depresents in those days too... not a good mix.

it amazes me how stupid people are. do they really not get how dangerous and irresponsible something like this is? bloody madness!!

Have you not reminded her that last time you went out you puked?
I think you just need to be super direct and tell her that she wont be changing your mind. Let her get the tears out of the way beforehand.

ImNotDrunkIJustCantType Tue 19-Feb-13 17:56:29

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diddl Wed 20-Feb-13 07:18:28

What if you threatened not to go at all unless she stops demanding that you get pissed?

Does she only want you there as a partner in crime, or does she actually like you??

Brandysnapbasketapplefantastic Wed 20-Feb-13 07:39:00

People who insist on other people drinking need to grow up and get a life. If other people want to drink then great, but if not I shall respect that. I have friends who don't drink (pregnant, religious, choice) and I still have a great time with them.
If your sister in law respected and cared about you she would be supportive of your decision, instead of being selfish and wanting you to drink.
I have a friend who stopped drinking and I am delighted for her and take so much more pleasure in seeing her be the classy lady she is than seeing her make a fool out of herself which she always used to do when drunk.

littlewhitebag Wed 20-Feb-13 07:43:35

Take the car - no negotiation on not drinking if you do that. If that isn't possible just go and don't drink. You don't need to discuss this with anyone it is absolutely your choice.

fatlazymummy Wed 20-Feb-13 07:59:26

I agree, it sounds as if she is looking for validation of her own behaviour. It also sounds as if her life overall is not really satisfactory to her and she is putting too much emphasis on her birthday celebration.
I agree about being honest and upfront about it. There is no need to lie about it. You have made a decision about your own health and wellbeing, and anyone who actually cares about you will respect this.
It sounds as if your husband and other inlaws are supportive of you which is a good thing.Hopefully they will back you up if push comes to shove.

slhilly Wed 20-Feb-13 08:21:14

Has she said why she wants you to drink? It might help to force to her to spell out her reasoning. But I guess that slightly depends on whether you are OK to do a bit of therapy with her...!

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