to not drink on my SIL's birthday?

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ImNotDrunkIJustCantType Tue 19-Feb-13 12:50:59

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BoundandRebound Tue 19-Feb-13 12:52:22

Tell her you're an alcoholic

gordyslovesheep Tue 19-Feb-13 12:53:06

why do you have to be so 'fevered brow' about it - just go - drink coke, tell her it's got vodka in it - end of problem

lockets Tue 19-Feb-13 12:54:46

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ImNotDrunkIJustCantType Tue 19-Feb-13 12:56:30

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HollyBerryBush Tue 19-Feb-13 12:57:19

There is nothing worse than being around drunks when you are the sober one.

Bowlersarm Tue 19-Feb-13 12:59:53

Don't give in to her. Drink if you want to, but not because she wants you to.

Although I'm not sure how I'd approach it tbh. Could you do something along the lines of starting off on soft drinks saying that you'll have a glass of wine later but never intending to and with that time never coming, and hopefully the heat will have gone out of the situation/she'll be too pissed to realise?

ImNotDrunkIJustCantType Tue 19-Feb-13 13:00:08

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HollyBerryBush Tue 19-Feb-13 13:01:22

She wants you to drink top validate her behaviour.

I like to party along with the best of them, but I loathe it when its my turn to drive, hate being round drunks.

ImNotDrunkIJustCantType Tue 19-Feb-13 13:02:40

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Cakecrumbsinmybra Tue 19-Feb-13 13:02:57

No of course YANBU. Your SIL sounds ridiculous and really immature and will sound that way to everyone else. Just stop thinking about it, there's really no point. Your SIL will get used to it. If she cries then that's her problem, not yours! Don't get into any further discussion about it.

ImNotDrunkIJustCantType Tue 19-Feb-13 13:03:09

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diddl Tue 19-Feb-13 13:03:26

Tell her that your coke has vodka in??!!

Why, why, why would anyone suggest that?

She sounds an absolute bore tbh.

Why do you have to be drunk so that she enjoys her bday?

ImNotDrunkIJustCantType Tue 19-Feb-13 13:04:27

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Cakecrumbsinmybra Tue 19-Feb-13 13:04:28

It's important to her because she's probably got a bit of a drink problem herself and you giving up is making her feel bad/guilty/whatever.

diddl Tue 19-Feb-13 13:05:37

Do your husband & his brother drink?

Is it that she be the only one who´s drunk & annoying if you don´t join in?

Cakecrumbsinmybra Tue 19-Feb-13 13:06:01

i want to get it through to her before we go out

You can try, but personally I would just not have any further conversation about it.

diddl Tue 19-Feb-13 13:07:06

You don´t want to ruin her birthday?

That´s taking entitlement to the extreme, isn´t it-it´s her bday so you have to get hammered??

WilsonFrickett Tue 19-Feb-13 13:07:25

Some of us are programmed to think sober = boring. It's not A Good Thing and is probably one of the reasons I don't give myself the chance to stay sober. For instance, since we moved there have been a few occasions where it would be easier to take the car and not drink, but I've chosen to go on public transport so I could drink. Even if I only have a couple. Your SIL sounds like she is like this too.

You need some sort of 'safe word' for DH so when she starts banging on (which she will) he can rescue you and turn the conversation. If you can show her that you're as much fun sober as drunk she'll probably settle down - it sounds like she's a bit overinvested in her birthday being the best night ever? Can you go for a girls' night next week so she can see for herself that the new you is as much fun as the old you?

Alternatively, tell her if she keeps banging on you're going to cancel.

ImNotDrunkIJustCantType Tue 19-Feb-13 13:10:32

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ImNotDrunkIJustCantType Tue 19-Feb-13 13:12:27

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Whocansay Tue 19-Feb-13 13:13:41

I wouldn't bother going at all now. She's going to harp on about it all night. And I wouldn't put it passed her to spike your drinks, just so she can get you to drink. She sounds utterly immature.

What you could do is tell her you're on anti biotics and it would make you really ill if you had alcohol. Not ideal, but it might shut her up. I can't see why you'd want to socialise with her anyway. She sounds like an arse.

msrisotto Tue 19-Feb-13 13:15:16

She's being ridiculous. Don't bring it up and if she does, just say you're not drinking etc and if she really pushes it, just ask her why she cares so much?

ImagineJL Tue 19-Feb-13 13:15:16

If she wont just accept it, I would have a serious word with her. Lie if you want to, say that you've been a heavy drinker for years, and your GP recently advised you to stop for a while. You could say your blood pressure is borderline and some of your liver enzyme tests are elevated. Few people will continue the "go on" attitude when faced with some medical issues.

ImNotDrunkIJustCantType Tue 19-Feb-13 13:16:08

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