To think it should be more well known that when you stop breastfeeding you can suffer from depression

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Would like to share and make aware.

I have slowly been stopping breastfeeding with DS 15 months it now seems that my milk had dried up all well and good. Started feeling not myself last week, absent minded, bad tempered, wanting to cry, it got worse as the weekend wore on. Yesterday spent much of the day crying and thinking things that scared me.

Went to the doctor today I had an emergency appointment, he did some blood tests and gave me valium. I have a proper appointment on Wednesday to discuss where what do from here. Reading another thread on here I learn that stopping breastfeeding can give you very bad PMS.

From this I did a bit of research on the internet to find that you can get depressed when you stop breast feeding because of the change in hormones. Now I told the pediatrician I was stopping breastfeeding a couple of months ago we talked about it but they never mentioned this to me. I should explain I live in the Netherlands and you do not just see the health visitor and you see the pediatrician as well but they also seem to keep an eye on mum and ask how you are and how you are coping so I would think it would be good to warn that you may feel a bit depressed when stopping breastfeeding.

So am I being unreasonable to think that if I had known that stopping breast feeding could make me feel this way, i may have reacted differently and maybe been able to to tell the doctor that it could be a factor.

5madthings Tue 19-Feb-13 16:26:19

Yanbu i had this with ds4 i actually got post natal.psychosis and stopped bfeeding, had i had proper support from hcp's i vould have continued. I got much worse once i stopped feeding, then they told me that was probably because of the hormonal changrs due to stopping!!

TooExtraImmatureCheddar Tue 19-Feb-13 16:20:51

Yy, Eldritch. It really annoys me when the NHS try to sideline facts. I'm an intelligent adult and I can make my own mind up, thanks! I would have bfed no matter what, but I was stunned when the HV said 'oh, you should start giving your DD vitamin D supplements when she's 6 months, but we don't advertise that because the vitamins are in formula, so it might put people off bfeeding'. hmm

EldritchCleavage Tue 19-Feb-13 12:45:33

Yes, exactly.

You may be right Eldritch, it would not stop me breastfeeding it just would have been nice to know that it can be a side affect of weaning, as then I would have had some idea why I was feeling the way I was.

EldritchCleavage Tue 19-Feb-13 10:54:09

Thank you OP.

I didn't know either, but it now explains the awful time I had when I stopped breastfeeding DD just after I returned to work. I wasn't myself for months, and the PMS was indeed horrific.

I suspect it's played down to the point of silence so as not to put women off breastfeeding.

WildeRumpus Tue 19-Feb-13 10:47:26

Tabby?! Bloody phone smile yanbu that was!

WildeRumpus Tue 19-Feb-13 10:46:54

Tabby. I bfed my ds until he was two and definitely had terrible hormonal issues after. Felt very down. Also had worse pmt when my periods returned.

Next time I hope to fare better knowing it s relatively normal and not just me having a breakdown I wasn't expecting!

Good luck op and take it easy.

Kelda my periods returned 6 weeks after I had ds

blueshoes Tue 19-Feb-13 09:28:49

I bf-ed my dcs for extended periods as they were boobmonsters. When I finally stopped (too gradual for me to notice), I was on top of the world!

kelda Tue 19-Feb-13 09:06:05

goodiegoodieyumyum - may I just ask - did your periods (ovulation) return when you were still breastfeeding, or have they only just returned?

CloudsAndTrees Tue 19-Feb-13 09:05:56

I hope you feel better soon smile

I didn't know this, and it's years since I finished bfing. I don't remember it being a problem for me, but I can remember how breastfeeding made me feel like I knew so much more about my body. Being aware that stopping feeding can cause depression is something that I'm sure would help a lot of women.

kelda Tue 19-Feb-13 09:04:40

Very sorry to hear this. Hope you are getting the help you need.

I have never heard of stopping breastfeeding causing PMS or depression. For what it's worth, I didn't experience any negetive feelings when I stopped breastfeeding each of my three children (each breastfed more then a year). To the contrary, I felt happy that I had succeeded in my goal.

It just shows, different women have different experiences.

Hope you recover soon goodiegoodieyumyum.

Thanks everybody for sharing your experiences, I know if I had been warned that I could feel at bit down when stopping breastfeeding then I would have been more prepared and maybe could have handled it better.

As it was I decided on Friday that there was something wrong and I should see my doctor on Monday, I go worse at the weekend went on and was having very dark thoughts on Sunday which really scared me. I have suffered terribly when younger with PMS so I knew what I was feeling was much worse than that.

I hope all of you who are also suffering because of this feel better soon and get help if you need it.

NotSoNervous Mon 18-Feb-13 22:02:11

shock I've never heard of this so thanks for the warning!

Schooldidi Mon 18-Feb-13 21:58:10

I didn't know this but it does seem to fit. I stopped feeding dd2 not long before Christmas and I've felt incredibly down ever since. I put it down to unresolved grief about my mc last Easter, which it probably is in part, but it's worse now than it was when i was still feeding.

I am also getting the most awful PMT which I ahve never ever suffered from before, but then I've never really had regular periods either due to my pcos so that's taken some getting used to as well.

IncrediblePhatTheInnkeepersCat Mon 18-Feb-13 21:56:09

Thank you for sharing.

Like others on the thread, I am prone to strong anxiety and occasional depression (though thankfully escaped PND). Currently ebf DS who is 6 months - will make sure I tune into my body when we start weaning!

Branleuse Mon 18-Feb-13 21:51:13

i didnt know this, but it stands to reason as breastfeeding causes a surge in oxytocin to help you bond with the baby. I guess if you get used to this level of oxytocin in your body, you may notice it when it stops, or it inhibits depression while you are feeding. Acts as a natural anti-d

This probably doesnt mean that stopping breastfeeding stops depression, but it delays it if someone already has it underlying.

In the same way that coming off an antidepressent wouldnt cause depression, but it may bring old depression back

WookieWoo Mon 18-Feb-13 21:42:57

Unfortunately I already knew this due to my own experience. Not nice at all. Still on ads two years later as it seems to have triggered some more deep rooted mental health issues. Nonetheless, with the help of a psychologist and psychiatrist I have pin pointed the start of my depression to when I stopped breast feeding.

I certainly don't believe this would ever be the case for most women but for some I do think that the hormonal changes may trigger depression that is perhaps "dormant", if you know what I mean.

Thanks OP for bringing up the subject and I hope you are ok.

Thanks for sharing. Was looking at DD last night as she was having her bedtime feed and thinking how much I will miss BFing when the time comes. Hope you feel better soon OP.

OHforDUCKScake Mon 18-Feb-13 21:40:04

The few days before my first period after stopping bf my pfb was absolutely horrendous.

I very suddenly plunged into a very dark depression. I couldnt even bring myself to feed him, hold him, look at him or anybody. I was a crying, hysterical, dark mess. I actually cant put into words how bad it was. I made it worse by 'remedying' it with alcohol. In attempt to cheer myself up (not realising what the problem was) I made it much worse.

It was short lived, so in theory Im not sure it 'techincally' comes under the term depression. But it absolutely was.

I will be far more aware of it this time, I certainly wont drink. I'll get the valium ready, vitamin C, sunshine, exercise and hope to God it isnt as bad as last time.

I had only been feeding him once a day as well, I never thought it would give me such a reaction. And no, no one warned me.

larks35 Mon 18-Feb-13 21:38:53

YANBU to share. I didn't know this but I only gave up breast-feeding due to returning to work and found that so stressful both times, that I possibly wouldn't have realised that stopping BF was a factor. For both of mine, I did continue with night feeds for a while but had to stop that gradually due to constant fatigue. For each of mine I didn't have a period til at least 4 months after stopping the night-time feeds, but did feel a sense of relief when they finally came.

Emsmaman Mon 18-Feb-13 21:37:34

YANBU, although maybe depression is a bit strong. I definitely had a downer and was very weepy, moody in the week or two after stopping completely and I didn't know why until I self diagnosed over google. I felt better knowing it wasn't just me and that it would indeed correct itself.

PoppyWearer Mon 18-Feb-13 21:30:05

More sex? If my period stops anytime soon, like this side of Christmas, I'll give it a try. DH will be delighted!

PoppyWearer Mon 18-Feb-13 21:28:51

Thank you OP! I stopped bf'ing my DC2 a couple of months ago (now 18mo) and have been on a roller coaster since then, seriously doubting my sanity at times, and worse. I am definitely not myself most days and my periods have been erratic, long and horrendous, with accompanying black moods.

I have been blaming my pill, but your post here could be the answer. I'm seeing my GP next week anyway.

Thank you!!!!! thanks

MummytoKatie Mon 18-Feb-13 21:25:32

I never knew this either. Wasn't an issue as the stop with dd was incredibly gradual (plus the two days after the "last feed" I was on a hen weekend so may have been self medicating!) but I'm really shocked.

Am pregnant again so I'll be careful to keep an eye out for this in a couple of years. (And thanks to poachedeggs advice dh is keen to help out to. hmm )

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