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AIBU to ask if your 10 year old can make toast?

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Fantail Mon 18-Feb-13 06:40:32

I would say most 10 year olds can do this, but perhaps they can't.

steppemum Thu 21-Feb-13 14:36:15

and 10 year old makes a mean beans on toast, and 7 year old apple crumble

we had a discussion last week about each of them cooking a cake in turns for the family at weekend.
dds 8th birthday party next week is a 'Great British Bake Off' party and they will all be baking something lovely and then eating it for the birthday tea

they also do chores, load and unload dishwasher, look after pets, hovering, change their own beds. (my 5 year old happily strips her bed for me - I do the clean sheets for her) They are used to sorting washing, putting it in machine etc.

Life skills - essential

quoteunquote - couldn't agree with you more

steppemum Thu 21-Feb-13 14:29:12

7 year old baked a cake by herself (GO AWAY MUMMY I AM MAKING THIS CAKE NOT YOU) on Saturday - I did ask her to get me when she did the melting butter in saucepan part, and when she took it out of oven.

10 year old does cakes, toast, tea etc

5 year old can do toast - she uses oven gloves to get it out of toaster grin (but she isn't allowed to do it on her own, she asks her sibling to help)

DS (10) can make toast, tea, a fried egg sandwich (with the requisite masses of ketchup) and a sponge cake. Did a tomato sauce for pasta on Sat for the first time but I helped.

1805 Thu 21-Feb-13 14:17:15

10yr has used the kettle for some time now. 7yr - it'll prob be a while yet - see post up-thread.

Virgil Thu 21-Feb-13 13:28:10

I did make up the chicken stock into a jug so that he didn't need to pour the kettle.

Virgil Thu 21-Feb-13 13:27:09

Also inspired by this thread I asked Ds1 (7) to make lunch today. He cooked us a lovely chicken risotto. He's very proud of himself and said he really enjoyed it.

My 8 & 10. Dd both make toast but I'm also interested at the consensus for kettles god the thought of asking them to make a cup of tea ahh I'm easy pleased

willoughboobs Thu 21-Feb-13 12:25:53

my 7 year old ds makes toast, sandwiches,little picnics, cereals and helps with making meals. i am just worried about the kettle but i know he's got to learn soon.
as for cleaning he can polish,clean and set a table, clean all his bedroom then polish and hoover, he also cleans up after his dog on the garden smile

1805 Thu 21-Feb-13 11:56:16

I love my dc escapades in the kitchen! The fairy cakes they made themselves were appalling - dc are 10 and 7. They of course thought they were delicious.

10yo can do baked beans, soup, toast etc, pasta, tea coffee and squash, most basic stuff all ok.

7yo burned her thumb by touching the pan on the stove and gashed her finger with a sharp knife. It's ok. It's the way she learns.

Hulababy Thu 21-Feb-13 11:47:40

My 10y can. But she is pretty handy in the kitchen - can cook a meal and bake pretty much independently plus make hot drinks.

meddie Thu 21-Feb-13 11:41:52

I too taught my children to be independent, as it was always in the back of my mind that they would be leaving to go to Uni at 18 and needed to know these skills
from around 9 they could make a basic meal such as beans on toast and a cup of tea
by 11 they were able to put a wash in and hang it up and iron
by their mid teens they could bake and do a proper meal.
They both went to Uni and lived on mcdonalds and pot noodles sigh
Son appeared at his first summer holiday with a bin bag full of underpants. He never left with that many. Discovered that instead of washing them he was buying a new 5 pack from primark every week.

DewDr0p Thu 21-Feb-13 09:36:49

Inspired by this thread I got ds1 (8) to make beans on toast for the dcs' tea last night! It went v well if a little slowly. grin

DesiderataHollow Thu 21-Feb-13 08:08:48

quoteunquote
Yes Tudor children are the same. We often get told "you'd never get a modern child to do that" when re-enacting.

IT never seems to occur to them that we don't really have a time machine, and that the 5 year-old carefully chopping vegetables, the 7 years old using a chisel, or the 6 year old working in the dairy will all be back at school on Monday morning in the 21st century.

quoteunquote Tue 19-Feb-13 14:20:13

The Amish think we are exceptionally cruel to our children as we do not properly prepare them for life, and it comes as a shock when they realise what is involved in running a home and a life,

a tiny Amish toddler is allowed to gather twigs and keep the kindling baskets full, each job is considered important, if you do it correctly you are then trusted with the responsibility to do another, so children want the next job up as they want to be viewed as equals.

my children think it is a great honour to be trusted to use ingredients, they know if they break that trust by being careless, they will no longer be allowed to have access to the kitchen,

It takes one person four hours to clean a house, and five people less than hour to do the same, everyone in this house mucks in each time anything needs to be done, and because everyone does it to the best of their ability it get done super quick, and properly.

toddlers are brilliant at pulling clothes out of a machine, everyone can help,

my youngest are 9 and 11, there isn't anything in the house they can't do to the same standard that their dad and I do, some of it better than us,

it is not an effort as they have always mucked in they have no idea people don't, they just do stuff without being asked as they know at some point someone will mention it, so they get things out the way before they get involved with what ever they are doing.

MrsTomHardy Tue 19-Feb-13 14:19:08

Yes he can make toast, and wrap pizza's and cups of tea....prob a lot more things tbh

GingerbreadGretel Tue 19-Feb-13 14:13:03

My ten-year-old has just made a chocolate cake and yes he can manage the toaster. Makes and grills his own burger patties, can do soup, etc.

He is not the most coordinated (DCD), so finds some chopping and peeling tasks hard, but we're working on it.

quoteunquote And that is exactly why I'm raising the DCs to be able to live independently. They get plenty of support, but I want them to be able to look after themselves when older, hence the cokkery lessons at home. (Along with chores, etc grin)

quoteunquote Tue 19-Feb-13 13:44:06

a relative of mine ,a few years ago, commissioned (cost millions) a study into why they were losing so many students from the university, the course only take the very best,

they found that the students all which had gained the highest marks possible, had mainly done so because they had parents that gave very high levels of support,

when these students took up their places at university they were well equipped to deal with the academic aspect of uni life,

but when they were failing to eat three health meals, have clean clothes, clean bedding, be reminded to wash, access medical treatment, sleep well, generally run their own lives, rather than rely on parents to do it for them or remind them, they were then over come by strain and dropped out, costing the universities lots of money,

Now if you want to do a lot of the courses, you have to do a year away from home in industry, the uni found that this helped the students to become independent, so when they did start the course they were equipped to cope, once this was in place they lost hardly any students.

my eldest is off at uni, he was the only one in his house of 12, who knew how to self manage, he cooks anything easily, has always done his own washing, stripped his bed, and remade it, can clean easily, and knows how to run a budget, organise his medical treatment, and sleep pattens,

A gap year working, living away will help,

but it is a major handicap to your child to not be able to easily prepare healthy food from scratch.

It's just edible chemistry experiments, once you understand the principles, none of it is hard,

I love half term as mine do a lot of cooking, I leave them to it and enjoy the results.

Yfronts Tue 19-Feb-13 13:18:45

yes

Late to the thread I know, but DD is 12.5 and can cook a basic dinner. I'm just beginning to teach DS (who's 9 today grin) so he can cook as well. Good skills to learn.

Meanwhile, they have been getting their own breakfasts, including toast, for at least 3-4 years, with DD helping DS when he was younger. I'm a great believer in getting them to be independent

There was a good article in the Saturday or maybe Sunday times this week about what children should be able to cook at what age. Basic tomato sauce and pasta, scrambled eggs etc....I resolved to teach DS (aged 8) who is quite interested a bit more. I am embarrassed to say he hasn't used the toaster. He will start.

SmiteYouWithThunderbolts Tue 19-Feb-13 12:27:08

Thanks to this thread, I have informed ds1 (8yo) that I'm going to teach him to cook. He rolled his eyes and thinks I'm the meanest mum EVER because I've also recently taught him how to use the washing machine and started getting him to put his own clothes on the airer. grin

When I was 16, I dated a lad whose mum did everything for him. Granted he was in a wheelchair but to my mind that just meant that stuff needed to be kept low enough for him to reach it. Not so in his house. His mum did all his laundry - including going round his room picking stuff up from wherever he dropped it), made every meal for him and tidied up after him constantly. I was bemused to begin with but when it got to the point where he'd ring me at college to ask me to go over to his house to make lunch because his mum had gone out, I realised he saw me as just the next cleaner/carer/maid in his life. Poor bloke didn't even know how to make toast or a Pot Noodle! shock

Anyway, when I look at my children - especially my sons - I am reminded of that guy and how much I do not want my children to be incapable of fixing themselves a decent meal as young adults.

BrianCoxandTheTempleofDOOM Tue 19-Feb-13 12:23:02

My 9 yo made me breakfast in bed on Friday - toast with peanut butter, a bowl of Cheerios and a cup of coffee grin Totally unexpected (I've taught her to do it for herself, never expected her to do it for me though!) and she makes the best coffee in the world (instant).

She can make pancakes, use the toaster, use the microwave and has been using the kettle for about 3 months. She is a dab hand at cakes but I help her with the finer points of not getting the mixture on the floor/dog/me grin

My DS (currently in womb) makes a mean Beef Wellington <nerr Mini Mushroom> wink

feckwit Tue 19-Feb-13 12:10:15

Even my 8 year old makes toast and uses the kettle. She can cook basic things like pasta, peel veg, turn the oven on and off, use the microwave. I think the greatest skill we can give our children is independence.

quoteunquote Tue 19-Feb-13 11:53:24

Can I ask how you start the younger ones off using knives?

start with a talk about responsibility, and that only if they can demonstrate concentration and sensible attitude will they be trusted to use such a dangerous tool,

use a non serrated very medium sized sharp knife, stand them at a table with a thin non slip chopping board,

slice a cucumber lengthways, place it flat side down on the board, show them how to hold the cucumber with the non knife hand, fingers bent in backwards, so only the knuckles stick out,

video.about.com/busycooks/How-to-Hold-a-Knife.htm

www.seriouseats.com/2010/05/knife-skills-how-to-hold-a-knife.html

www.thekitchn.com/how-to-learn-basic-knife-skill-108959

show them these, talk them through it, if you hold your knife correctly there is far less chance of hurting yourself as you have better control, talk about where the knife gets placed when not in use, (middle of the table, blade pointing away)

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