So I had a rare night out last night with friends, planned for ages, and texted DP at 10.30pm to ask him to make up sofa bed downstairs so I wouldn't disturb him when I came in. He sent a nice text back and did and that was fine. I got in around 1 then when DP got up for DD (3) at 7.30am I went to bed upstairs. This is what we do when one has a night out and the other takes DD out so they get a quiet morning (and I'll do Sunday morning this week).
Anyway I got up at 10.30. some friends had dropped round briefly to collect something but i didn't know that til i got up so i chatted to them. They left. then DD got whingey and DP couldn't get her to go out with him and she got stroppy and wet herself (she is in early days of potty training but so far only accidents are when she gets upset). I then had to change her etc. and said to DP he should just have taken her out. He said I shoud have stayed in bed and was 'nosy' to come downstairs! He quickly got angry with me and was muttering and slamming around and then they left without him saying goodbye.
Is he punishing me for having gone out? He has similar nights out with lads then hungover morning when I take her out so he has a quiet time. He also mentioned that he heard me coming in as he was listening out for me. Is he my dad?! I feel like a naughty teenager. He will now probably be in a mood at least for the rest of today. He seems to have no initiative with taking her out and timing things so that she just goes along with it, and makes it feel like he is doing me a favour. I had her all day yesterday and ran her ragged with swimming and soft play so she would be nice and tired at bedtime for him and yet he cannot even take her out for a Saturday morning? I work part time and him full, we share weekends but he does mornings in the week too. I tend to do more at the weekends because he gets grumpy.
I genuinely want to know whether I should be apologising to him, or him to me.
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To think DP is being an arse? (Long and boring -sorry)
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Arcadia · 16/02/2013 12:23
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