Or a bit of a bitch?

(37 Posts)
SirBoobAlot Fri 15-Feb-13 23:42:39

Heading towards the busiest season for DP, though it's still reasonable at the moment, due to get manic soon.

He had a meeting last night (no big deal) which has been planned for a while. We had had a conversation way back about dessert dinners. Then I saw a local cake shop doing just that - three mini desserts and a glass of wine, tomorrow night. Booked us two tickets. This was weeks ago, and he was really excited about it (I though).

He's now saying he's too ill. He has a freaking cold. I wouldn't be so pissed off but I have an operation in two weeks time for an undiagnosed pain issue. So firstly, I feel like he's taking the piss to say he's too ill when all he has is a runny nose, and secondly, it took me ages to recover from the GA last time, so this will probably be the last night out I could have had for a while.

No one else to go with, and besides, I booked it to go with him.

Of course I've been sympathetic, asked him if he needs anything, etc. But AIBU to feel a bit ragey?

Shakey1500 Fri 15-Feb-13 23:44:29

I would go on my own and wolf six desserts and at least two glasses of wine grin

YANBU

You'll have mumsnetters offering to come with you in a minute though. It sounds great envy

SirBoobAlot Fri 15-Feb-13 23:48:13

Shakey now there's an idea grin

I'd be up for a MN blind 'date'.

<grump> I really wanted the cake.

simplesusan Fri 15-Feb-13 23:52:23

YANBU.
He really should make an effort to go.
Perhaps he will feel better by tomorrow.

SirBoobAlot Fri 15-Feb-13 23:56:38

Perhaps. But then if it's man flu, it might be worse wink

YANBU - I would dose him up between now and then and drag him out to dinner. He doesn't have to eat any of it, just sit there while you snaffle everything do.

Hot whiskies are great for killing off minor colds pneumonia. grin

Hope you make it out and wish they had such civilised dinners in my neck of the woods. sad

SirBoobAlot Sat 16-Feb-13 00:09:48

They're mini desserts, so we're only talking an hour or so, not like I'm dragging him out till 1am...

<ponders emotional blackmail>

BreconBeBuggered Sat 16-Feb-13 00:15:06

Oh, YABU, because now I really want some dessert to go with my wine and I haven't got any. Where's this shop again?

SirBoobAlot Sat 16-Feb-13 00:17:01

Now you're making it worse because I won't have either <wails>

Ah, but you will tomorrow night! grin

SirBoobAlot Sat 16-Feb-13 00:25:14

So you reckon I should just go alone? There would be advantages to this...

BreconBeBuggered Sat 16-Feb-13 00:27:24

I'll be honest with you now. If it was me and DH going, I would expect to eat 5 of those desserts myself and leave him with one. For his own good, you understand. You should go and either eat the bloody lot yourself or get them to box 'em up for you to take home. But don't let your DP have any as he is far too ill.

Ooh - 'takeaway'. No, definitely would not be good for DP...

BewitchedBotheredandBewildered Sat 16-Feb-13 01:08:10

I'll come!
I could only do one dessert and the wine ( I'd bring extra) and you could have the other 5 grin.

Not really the point though is it? You want him to come.
Put your foot down, make him go, he'll love it.

BewitchedBotheredandBewildered Sat 16-Feb-13 01:24:42

Oh and YANBU and def not a bitch, he's a lucky bugger to have you.

TheElephantIsADaintyBird Sat 16-Feb-13 07:00:06

I would definitely go alone if he won't go! Don't miss out just cos he's a boring sod. Take some magazines or a book or whatever and enjoy yourself.
Or do you have a friend you could invite?

Sokmonsta Sat 16-Feb-13 07:37:38

YANBU. Feed a cold and all that. But then I would go on my own, cancelling the babysitter since dh would be home for 4 dc. That would probably make mine think again.

CharlandOscar Sat 16-Feb-13 08:19:32

yanbu. and not being a bitch! i got cross when my dh missed my brothers wedding because of the sniffles!!! grr. that was 5 years ago but still irritates me.
if emotional blackmail does work nothing you can do! he might be a pain if he goes and grumps the whole night

Emilythornesbff Sat 16-Feb-13 08:56:16

Yabvvu. You obviously have no idea how serious a cold is for a grown man.
I can send you a cure but most "man flu" remedies i know of have a high risk of fatality!

Where do u live and can I come out for pudding with you?

ENormaSnob Sat 16-Feb-13 09:03:14

Yanbu

My dh is the same when it comes to a cold or sore throat. Irritates the shite out of me.

I like the idea of 6 puddings and 2 glasses of wine wink

HecateWhoopass Sat 16-Feb-13 09:11:49

Can't you go with a friend?

Or me.

I'll go with you.

You won't get any of the cake, but you'll have the company. grin

SirBoobAlot Sat 16-Feb-13 09:21:09

Hecate grin

Well saw the Plague ridden creature just now, sure he thinks a tribe of mini violinists are following him around. He did the big puppy dog, "I'm sooooo ill", and has suggested a night in instead.

Really wanted to tell him to get fucked, then send him a picture of all the puddings and a single fork tonight, but that would be very childish blush I even told him a little bit of a lie - that it was fully paid for - to try and make him feel bad enough to go, but he just said, "Oh I'm sorry. Let's watch a film on the sofa instead."

Arse.

Oh - BBB are you coming on the 23rd?

Really, you should do that. He doesn't need looking after. He only has a cold! Go out, eat cake, have fun. Send him the occasional description of what cake you are eating. Don't stay at home on the sofa sad. I like going out to eat on my own, I can put all my effort in to enjoying my lovely food, not making polite conversation.

Or go to the shop, ask if you can just have the cakes in a box, then sit at home on the sofa with him and a bottle of wine and refuse to share any of it as he is clearly far to ill...

SirBoobAlot Sat 16-Feb-13 10:25:41

Yeah I like going out alone too, but TBH, I know it will be filled with couples tonight, so then I'll just feel like a dick.

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