To think that a 7 year old can be expected to

(106 Posts)
Verycold Thu 14-Feb-13 23:01:47

Be quiet during a show. And even if it is a show mainly for children, you still shouldnt chat all the way through it as if you were in front of your telly at home.

Callycat Sat 16-Feb-13 19:26:56

Thanks, Catching - it is clearly a very sensitive area. I am still learning smile

Catchingmockingbirds Sat 16-Feb-13 19:13:56

I think these threads also get a bit heated cally because if someone mentions the possibility of SN due to sensory seeking/hyperactivity/skewed sense of social norms etc (possibly as they've experienced this with their own child), they're made to feel bad by some posters for mentioning it in the first plae iyswim? And this obviously upsets others and causes arguments such as those seen up thread.

Roseformeplease Sat 16-Feb-13 18:15:17

My worst cinema noise moment involved some perfectly ordinary looking adult women who proceeded to sing all the way through at the top of their voices (Mamma Mia), off key and without really knowing the words. It was a karaoke style nightmare.

I expect children to do their best when they are out and about and for their parents to support them.

Callycat Sat 16-Feb-13 18:00:01

Ah, thanks hazeyjane. I get it now!

(and I won't make the "SN kids" mistake again blush)

kinkyfuckery Sat 16-Feb-13 17:35:51

So the problem wasn't with the kid chatting, it was the mother? Have you considered maybe the mother has SN?

jeff a lot of cinemas do ASD friendly/SN showings now if you feel more comfortable doing that?

kerala Sat 16-Feb-13 15:36:56

DH and I saw Les Mis at the local Arts cinema (so middle class type demographic). The rustling and munching from ADULTS was incredible and always at the most heart wrenching emotional bits - Fantine dying for example rustle rustle munch munch, all the friends massacred crackle rustle gulp drove us mad!

Would expect a 7 year old to be sit and watch a film yes whispered questions fine but if they really mucking about you may as well leave they are not getting anything out of it just annoying others.

hazeyjane Sat 16-Feb-13 15:30:57

Callycat, I think it is more a case of some children with sn (as opposed to 'sn kids') being perceived as badly behaved, because, for example they might not understand about being quiet in a show, or may have tics, or need to flap etc. Some people may look at this behaviour and think the children are being naughty or the parents are being a bit crap. I think it is this that people are pointing out, rather than saying 'naughty = sn'.

Callycat Sat 16-Feb-13 13:53:04

Slightly off-topic, but if sometimes feels like a few posters here regard SN and "badly-behaved" as synonymous - hence the inevitable "He/she might have special needs". Isn't that kind of insulting to SN kids? "Special needs" covers a wide range of personality types, and many of these kids are quieter than NTs in my experience.

theodorakisses Sat 16-Feb-13 11:47:03

Can I just ask something? is it the other children in the cinema/theatre who find this disruptive or just the parents who get annoyed? If your children are not distracted or upset, why would the parent? I don't choose to watch kids movies and doze through them anyway.

theodorakisses Sat 16-Feb-13 11:44:18

Jeff, take him if you think he would like it, he has as much right as any other person. You can always try and find a film that has been out a while or go at an odd time when it will be quiet but I just don't think you have to. Just don't loud parent! wink

JeffFaFa Sat 16-Feb-13 11:18:25

I havnt been able to take ds1 who is almost 7 to the cinema ever, he is a sensory seeker and unable to sit still, he also asks incessant questions and if trying his very hardest not too speak will make vocal noises such as grunts and sounds, he literally cannot sit quietly for more than a few minutes. He would LOVE to go to the cinema and asks me frequently sadly i cant take him because of the attitudes of others sad

ipadquietly Sat 16-Feb-13 11:13:35

Why pay for your dc to watch a film if they're going to talk through it? They'll miss the story!

When we go to the cinema, my 6 and 8 year olds are so engrossed in what's happening on the screen, they don't have time to talk to each other.

Maybe you people who think it's ok to talk through films are just going to see crap movies.

Dothraki Sat 16-Feb-13 09:21:52

I haven't seen 7 yo's misbehaving - asking questions is not misbehaving. Teenagers on the other hand................

theodorakisses Sat 16-Feb-13 09:15:30

I say let the kids go and leave the parents outside, generally it would be much quieter!

theodorakisses Sat 16-Feb-13 09:14:28

That's the point, it is usually that "look how I interact with my genius" parent rather than indifferent parent or naughty child. However, I still believe that a child with autism or SN or whatever shouldn't be left at home. As said above, short answers and a talk about what is expected before you go in. I would still rather have chatterer than think of someone leaving one child at home because they may be chatty, excited or freaked out.

somedaysomewhere Sat 16-Feb-13 09:05:56

I must admit, this is why I haven't taken my 7 year old to the West End.

If I'm going to pay that much for a ticket I'd want them transfixed for the entire time. Maybe when he's 27 grin

Verycold Fri 15-Feb-13 22:41:43

P? grin

Picturesinthefirelight Fri 15-Feb-13 22:08:18

If I was going to see Shrek paying West End prices I'd expect children to be able to stay quiet. It's not an interactive show in the same way as panto or p

Verycold Fri 15-Feb-13 21:58:10

Sorry to disappear, busy day!! It was Shrek the Musical, evening performance. £55 a ticket if that makes a difference. Like somebody else said, what really annoyed me was not so much the child talking but the mother happily talking back as if they were on their own. I would think short answers would be enough and some reminders to be quiet. With regards to sn, my youngest who is 6 has sn. Incidentally he was quiet as a mouse wink

Strongecoffeeismydrug Fri 15-Feb-13 15:30:01

I would take my son with ASD to the cinema and if he made a little noise then so be it. I would keep him as quiet as possible but hey ho he would make a little noise.... He has to learn just like everyone else and if I kept him at home he wouldn't be learning the rules of cinemas ect.
If it was a kids film he wouldn't be the only one being noisy anyway .

MyHeadWasInTheSandNowNot Fri 15-Feb-13 13:19:43

Thanks Helen smile A little clarity from MN helps to point out the sodding obvious

somedaysomewhere Fri 15-Feb-13 13:02:22

Oh gosh, I did it too.

Sorry

EllenJaneisstillnotmyname Fri 15-Feb-13 13:01:56

HelenMumsnet, thanks for your quick response, that was exactly what was needed.

silverfrog Fri 15-Feb-13 12:55:14

Helen thanks

I know you know, iyswim smile (does just show how easily it is done, and I have been guilty of the same more than once - eg I often type 'dd1 is ASD' which sets some people's teeth on edge)

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