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Ilove come and join us with Aug born babies. Do you have FB? We've gone over to there. We love nothing better than moaning about the trivial things I'll send some over to convince you we're not harridans.

Not that you are going through trivial things - God my post sounds bad.

I'm in the August group too.

Started off sharing stories of our positive tests on here and the births then someone set up a FB group which I was a bit unsure about joining as I like the anonymity of mumsnet but I'm so glad I did!! We have all been through all the stages and provide each other with so much support. It's completely private and a secret group so no one can see your posts. They have really got me through the last 5.5 months.
I don't really know that many people in rl with babies so their support has been invaluable to me.

I still come on mn all the time too

Hi I'm also in the August group. Just wanted to say you'd be very welcome to join us, we are a friendly bunch and we are all going through the same thing. It is always nice to be able to rant to people whose babies are the say age as yours and who can reassure you what's normal!

Hi, I'm in the August group too that started on here then moved to fb. I've had a real wobble this week too feeling quite similar stuff to you. The group is great for emotional or practical support so come join us!

what wonderfull supportive posts!

Op why not put baby in day care for the morning ( if you can afford it)and spend some time pampering your self, even just a long bath or coffee with friends. My dp has to be told how im feeling as he thinks im happy all the time

You sound as though you are doing a fab job holding it all together dont forget your 'u' time

P.s best not post about your dp in aibu though as you will get shouts of ''leave him'' - not very helpfull when ur just feeling a bit pissed off!

Remember the MN mantra 'this too shall pass, it's only a phase'.

I promise, as one mummy with a baby who thinks (thought in my case) that sleep and naps are for the weak, that it will end. You will get to sleep and you will feel better.

Take care of yourself, as Olivia just said. If you're not sleeping and you're breastfeeding make sure you're eating well! Not just chocolate.

Yes absolutely has to be whole nut! Fruit and nut always seems pointless to me, who needs a little bit of health in the middle of an indulgent treat?m (tho could you count it as one of your five a day?)

I agree that drinking plenty of water and eating well supports you whilst you are tired/low. Not so easy to eat a balanced diet when u have a newborn tho!

Yes, loving this week, thanks. Got kids at home on half term and were having a lovely week and nice plans for the next few days

Hope tonight goes well, update us tomorrow.

Thanks Ambi, Signet, Nightfall and Ginger, I will join the August babies' group on FB. Not sure how to find it though! Had a wee look yesterday, with no success. I am lousy with anything IT related.

And yes, Olivia,taking my vitamins every day .

Rod, you' re right, everyone' s posts have been wonderful.

Dh took dd last night, all night. He juat rang to tell me how exhausted he is, ans that it was so hard......as if I didn' t know! Still, I really appreciated it. [ grin].

Thanks again, everybody.

Tell him that when he's done it for several weeks straight he can tell you how tired he is

Then tell him Friday & Saturday nights are his with DD

I hope you have explained to him that he also needs to pull his weight around the house - his wife is now a stay at home MUM not a stay at home MAID. Fair enough to do what you can, when you can - but he needs to as well. He sounds nice, so talk to him!

Very of your new baby cuddles though - if it gets too much, send her over here

ilove I have just sent you a message with how to join

agree with bunny!! The elation of new baby has gone by 6 months and tiredness catches up. Don't let your needs slide, rest and don't give up trying to get dh to understand.

Thanks Nightfall. See you on FB.

Hello, hope you've found some of the replies cheering. You are so up and down with a DC at that age (and at other stages, at least as much as I have found so far!) Pretty much everything hinges on whether you have had a good night and whether everyone is near enough to feeling 100% during the day. Such a simple thing and so, so elusive. With the sleep demands, you end up much more tied to the house than DH, at least in my experience, so you therefore get stuck with the work that goes with it too. Sigh. I just had one thought which may have been covered, but could you look into doing something once a week with your DD, like a baby group, that you really enjoy and could look forward to? I moved house and area with my DD at the same age as yours and missed all the early health visitor support very much. I ended up going to 'Baby Sensory' to get myself out of the house and able to explore the area a bit, and I must say I thought it was magic, so creative and a lovely structure (and DD is now far too old for it but I really still quite miss it!), but if this wouldn't be for you then there are sometimes swimming sessions with music and floats meant for babies, or even a sensory room at a library or children's centre? A tip from our angle: things that started before about 1.00 in the afternoon were not successful due to the sheer ruddy length of time it took for us to get ready and out of the house! So go for something taking place in the afternoon (or whenever you are most on the ball!)