AIBU re ice skating

(27 Posts)
PrivatelyPeaceful Tue 12-Feb-13 15:45:48

AIBU to not want a relative to take dds aged 8 and 10 ice skating, and want to supervise them myself when they skate?

I would take them myself and have done so a couple of times, but think that its actually quite a dangerous activity in terms of possibility of injury occurring.

Partly this is to do with this particular relative not having dc and not being that tuned in to the amount of support my younger child might need to help her negotiate an ice rink safely (i'd feel ok letting mil take them).

I am happy to go all together as on outing, but do feel anxious about relinquishing full responsibility.

AIBU / overly anxious to engineer things so that this relative doesnt take them alone?

PrivatelyPeaceful Tue 12-Feb-13 15:47:15

ps I honestly don't do helicopter parenting, but do have the odd anxiety and head injury is one of them, hence me asking for some perspective.

chibi Tue 12-Feb-13 15:51:33

if this is more to do with that relative, then YANBU

if it is to do with the inherent dangers of skating then YABU, as long as it is a proper rink and not one of those supercrowded outdoor ones

Wallace Tue 12-Feb-13 15:54:47

Personally I would delighted if anyone wanted to take my children anywhere to have fun. so YABU smile

Fourkisses Tue 12-Feb-13 15:55:03

I let my ds go ice skating for the first time ever at a friends birthday party. He was 7yo at the time.

Would you let this relative take your kids to a playground or swimming? What about driving in his/her car? These could easily be just as 'dangerous'.

Sorry but I don't see what you are worried about. YABU

I think you're being over-anxious, especially as they've been before. If they've only been a couple of times, they won't stray far from the edge, and are unlikely to be going at speed. Honestly, most children would be starting to go with groups of friends at this age. Our rink was in a shopping mall, so I'd leave the DC and their friends, but would be nearby in case I was needed. (I never was!)

PrivatelyPeaceful Tue 12-Feb-13 15:56:48

it's more to do with not being tuned in to how much help youngest might need as a result of being unused to children.

as i say, i would let them go with mil. or dh could take them. i guess some of it is anxiety based so i have to feel extra sure the person taking them will be 'on it', iyswim

Chopstheduck Tue 12-Feb-13 15:59:54

I think you are worrying too much. Just because they don't have kids doesn't mean anything really, they might even be ultra careful just because they don't have that experience.

I'm experienced - I have four kids, and have taken mine skating a few times. One is disabled, so i generally have to stay with him and my 7 year olds go off by themselves a lot of the time. You'd probably be horrified!

PrivatelyPeaceful Tue 12-Feb-13 16:00:42

sorry, slow typing!

hmm... tbh i would worry a bit about dd2 swimming with a group of friends. i am a bit overprotective of her as she is tiny, i must admit.

its weird 'cos they go off and ski without me for hours and thats more dangerous... i guess its not a rational thing.

SashaSashays Tue 12-Feb-13 16:01:49

I think yabu, lots of people who don't have children are great with children.

My DS and his girlfriend who are both late teens, took their nephew ice skating at Christmas. He's 4 years old, neither of them have children and it was fine. They all had a great time.

Theres a rink near us and I used to take all my DCs from the sort of ages you've said and leave them while I went in the cafe. I'm also pretty sure DD's (6) best friend is planning an ice skating party next month, based on the ages of the people who run these parties at the local rink, they generally don't have kids.

Startail Tue 12-Feb-13 16:02:00

I hate watching my two skate, they love it. I'm delighted if they give someone else a heart attack falling over.

if you can skate reasonably then you may be some help to them. I can't and the children shoot of into the distance.

PrivatelyPeaceful Tue 12-Feb-13 16:03:52

chops, i wouldnt be horrified at all, and if i was with her she would skate off alone, i promise. i'm just control freak!

PrivatelyPeaceful Tue 12-Feb-13 16:05:45

i am quite a good skater startail, but i agree it is stressful watching them fall over!

PrivatelyPeaceful Tue 12-Feb-13 16:08:25

sasha, she is good with the dds in many ways and would prob be fine. i realise that its irrational.

Withalittlesparkle Tue 12-Feb-13 16:15:13

I'm sorry but I'll have to go against the grain and say theres no way I'd let anyone take my child ice skating (even though said child is actually not born yet!!) I had a rather nasty experience/accident on the ice and have since been unable to watch ice skating let alone think about doing it!! But thats my phobia talking!!!

BarredfromhavingStella Tue 12-Feb-13 16:16:12

YABU, ice skating is really not that dangerous & they have been before so not completely inexperienced.

It is also pretty silly to think that the relative wont be able to look after them properly as they don't have dc.

You do sound quite over protective from your posts...

lljkk Tue 12-Feb-13 16:26:44

yabu.
Besides everyone knows that breaking arms is the skater's choice of injury (or legs, says DH).

they ski for hours without you which is fine but you're not okay with skating in an indoor rink? Did you mean skating on a wild lake somewhere? I presume not.... okay, yes, you need to recalibrate your perspective.

Saski Tue 12-Feb-13 16:28:04

I tend to be a nervous parent and I'm not seeing this. I think YABU.

MaxPepsi Tue 12-Feb-13 16:41:45

YABU

I don't have kids but I'm much more tuned in to the needs of kids - especially my brothers kids - then their own parents are or ever will be!

SashaSashays Tue 12-Feb-13 16:44:44

Well at least you realise its irrational, now hopefully you will let them go.

laluna Tue 12-Feb-13 16:50:50

Yabu. DD chose an ice skating party for her 8th birthday. We took about 6 of her and her friends - none of them had skated before and I am certainly no Jayne Torvill! They had a ball. They all got on fine.

complexnumber Tue 12-Feb-13 17:06:54

I'm another party pooper here. I let the kids go to parties at the ice rink and didn't bother to watch until DD1 fell and smashed her face. I found that there was no first aider and I was just given a tupperware with some tissues and band aids to get on with myself. After a pretty grim experience I would want to know what your friend's plan would be if one of the kids got injured but not badly enough for an ambulance. Taxi drivers don't like the blood it turns out. I won't be taking them ice-skating again without a car within 100 metres.

LIZS Tue 12-Feb-13 17:10:46

Not rational ! Make them wear ski gloves , salopettes and even a helmet if it makes you feel better. Many rinks have pushalong supports (penguins) for the inexperienced or they grapple their way along the barrier. Even dyspraxic ds managed aged 4 (class outing), no injuries.

MyHeadWasInTheSandNowNot Tue 12-Feb-13 17:22:04

It really doesn't make any difference if you are there or not. If she's 'skating off' without you, what on earth do you think you being there will do if she has a fall? You wont be able to do a wonderwoman move and scoop her up before she hits the ice grin Come on, you have to see that it's no different whether you take them or someone else... if they fall, they fall - and at least there's not a cliff involved!

MyHeadWasInTheSandNowNot Tue 12-Feb-13 17:23:32

LIZS - I saw those in London at Christmas and I want one, they're so cute and so much more appealing that the old 'walking frames'! I'm only 5ft, do you think they'll let me have one?? even though I can skate

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