to ask how common is it to get pregnant from the withdrawal method

(65 Posts)
AmberSocks Tue 12-Feb-13 10:37:02

or from putting the condom on just before "the moment"?

I know,very silly that i dont even know but until i read the other thread i didnt realise it was so common.

I thought it was one of those things you are told not to do because there is a very rare chance you could get pregnant but really everyone does it,are you supposed to put the condom on as soon as it gets hard???

{confused}

specialsubject Tue 12-Feb-13 16:37:48

Vatican roulette...or am I thinking of something else?

anyway, sex to the end is fun because that is how the human race is encouraged to reproduce. Withdrawal is ruining the fun with not much chance of affecting the result.

scary that anyone actually thinks it is reliable! OP, the mantras include 'no glove, no love', or 'no admittance without a jacket' . Or the other methods, of course.

FergusSingsTheBlues Tue 12-Feb-13 16:31:48

Numerical, I originally put it down to our high sex drives (in those days lol) or the fact that 30% precum has sperm in it, (maybe hes a leaker) but at the end of the day, its an unreliable method for us anyway.

Adversecamber Tue 12-Feb-13 15:20:39

Well I know a very cute 3 year old that is the outcome of the withdrawal method.

Mosman Tue 12-Feb-13 14:54:35

I have a niece and a nephew as as result of this particular method, sweet as they are it don't work.

TheDoctrineOfSciAndNatureClub Tue 12-Feb-13 14:52:07

Diaphragm?

NumericalMum Tue 12-Feb-13 14:49:26

How do you use it and it fails three times?? Once maybe but 3 times?
Used it for 5 years, no problems, had planned DC and now use coil as I would not be happy if we had an "accident"

Softlysoftly Tue 12-Feb-13 14:36:01

It's not as good as finishing no but condoms I find uncomfortable and hormonal contraception turns me into a looney so until I'm/he's sure we want no more and get snipped its the best option. I think stopping, adding condom, starting again would be even worse!

Though I may try the coil soon.

Theicingontop Tue 12-Feb-13 14:07:29

Me and OH used the withdrawal method for three years with no pregnancies, but it was quite stressful sometimes, if for some weird reason my period was late. But we did it with the full knowledge that it was likely to fail, and was prepared for it to do so. But for us, it didn't.

AmberSocks Tue 12-Feb-13 14:04:06

sallying i agree,i actually find it a bit uncomfortable too when he pulls out,puts a condom on and then puts it back it,im not keen on condoms at all ihate the feel o fhtem,weve tried all of them too.Dont want the coil or anything.

I would like more babies but dc4 is only 18 weeks so would like to wait longer,hmm.

aldiwhore Tue 12-Feb-13 14:04:06

Well I have two children, conceived inbetween my usual contraceptive devices, both whilst 'being careful' (which of course we actually weren't being!) on the other hand, we had many instances of being (not) careful where a baby didn't happen either.... it's a Russian Roulette method!

we have successfully been using the withdrawal method for 15 years. Only one unplanned pregancy - how many planned ones?

Sallyingforth Tue 12-Feb-13 13:58:07

But doesn't withdrawal spoil the feeling?
What if you are about to come just as your partner pulls out? OK there are other ways to finish off, but IME there is nothing else as satisfying as finishing together, PIV.

JessieEssex Tue 12-Feb-13 13:43:17

We used it after DD1 and I got pg (sadly mc'ed though). I agree with chica - we wouldn't have used it had the prospect of another child been an absolute no-no. Am now 33 wks pg (planned!) with DC2 and we will not be using it again after this, as we want to settle at 2 DCs.

DP wants a vasectomy while I recuperate in the post natal ward!

Alligatorpie Tue 12-Feb-13 13:43:06

Dd1 is a result of withdrawl method. In my mind, it doesnt work. But i love her to bits!

Softlysoftly Tue 12-Feb-13 13:42:45

thedoctrine tmi but we don't stop for condoms we get to "the moment" then withdraw in the nick of time.

FergusSingsTheBlues Tue 12-Feb-13 13:41:11

We use it. Three pregnancies in three years, all in the supposedly safe period, and with a clockwork cycle. AVOID!

I have posted before about this but dc5 was conceived without us ever actually having sex - dh had "the moment" as you call it and somehow some of that must have made its way to the desired area because i found out i was pregnant 3 weeks later. To recap, this was the only time we were anywhere near each other between the birth of dc4 and finding out i was pregnant with dc5. I was also still breastfeeding dc4 and had not started my periods again. Technically the % chance of me getting pregnant at that moment was probably tiny and yet it happened.

scaevola Tue 12-Feb-13 13:39:02

The linked survey quotes one study by Hatcher et al. Here's a fuller version of their findings on failure rates of a wide variety of methods. Perfect use of withdrawal is on a par with natural family planning, has twice the failure rate of condom use, and over half the participants had discontinued it as sole contraception before the year was up. Given the discussion in the rest of the paper about major confounders (reporting reliability and concomitant use of additional methods), I don't think the headline figure can carry much more weight than 'best guess', and would certainly look to the typical use failure rate of 22 rather than the 'perfect' one.

chicaguapa Tue 12-Feb-13 13:37:53

I got pg using the withdrawal method. hmm Had it been an absolute disaster if that had happened, I wouldn't have been using it. It's not reliable enough if you don't want to get pg under any circumstances.

Habanada Tue 12-Feb-13 13:35:23

Oh and just to add, I never tracked my cycle.

Habanada Tue 12-Feb-13 13:34:10

We successfully used the withdrawal method for 10 years.
When we decided to have a child (all 3 times) I got pg first shot, not even the right time in my cycle.

After I give birth this time DH is getting permanently shut off.

daddyorchipsdaddyorchips Tue 12-Feb-13 13:28:57

I find it utterly astounding that anyone would use this "method of contraception" in this day and age.

If you're just not that bothered about an unplanned pregnancy, fair enough. But if you really, really do not want to be upduffed, fgs stick a wrapper on it or something!

TheDoctrineOfSciAndNatureClub Tue 12-Feb-13 13:24:26

Is stopping just before "the moment" to put a condom on really more satisfactory than using one throughout and not stoping?

milf90 Tue 12-Feb-13 13:24:13

We've used it for just over a year with no accidents (during fertile times too). The link you gave us says only 4 out of 100 women who do it properly, will get pregnant a year - I personally don't think that's bad. You need to have complete faith in your partner to pull out on time and he needs to know his body enough to be able to do it.

GoingBackToSchool Tue 12-Feb-13 13:22:08

I had been with my bf for about a year using the withdrawal method, no unplanned pregancies. Went to Family Planning to get contraceptive pills and the woman there almost killed me when she asked me if i was using contraceptions and i said only the withdrawal method!! Her opinion was that it is definitely NOT a sensible contraceptive.

Sashapineapple Tue 12-Feb-13 13:16:36

My friend uses this method, she has been pregnant twice in the last couple of years.

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