AIBU to want my newborn to stay a newborn? Do you feel the same intense love for your child at every stage?

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Pinkflipflop Fri 08-Feb-13 19:30:03

My ds is only 8 days and even though he's my first and it's a steep learning curve, I'm totally in love with my little bundle of cuddles.

I keep looking (and gazing) at him and loving everything about him and just wishing he could stay a newborn for ever!

So many people keep saying to me "pink, enjoy your little baby as they grow up so fast", I know this sounds really bizarre but it makes me feel a little sad when they say this. It's almost as if those days when your child is a tiny baby is the only stage to enjoy.

Does this make any sense?

I'm 33 and previously the least maternal person you could imagine, but I can't believe how my son has made me feel.

dollyindub Mon 11-Feb-13 02:01:02

Oh, and massive congratulations btw!

dollyindub Mon 11-Feb-13 02:00:28

My baby boy took me completely by surprise - had him at 44! He's 5 months old next week, my only child and I love him so much it scares me!

YADNBU!! I would love to have a pause button, especially as I bagged up (most of) his 0-3 month clothes for an expectant friend recently.

I won't be having any more babies and regret finding out so late in my fertile years how much I love being a mum (or I'd have a footie team) but am truly grateful to have had him to experience this amazing love.

VictorAndBarry Sun 10-Feb-13 23:29:06

DS is 19, DD 15, they are still amazing!

Lovelygoldboots Sun 10-Feb-13 22:07:05

This is such a lovely post, congratulations. Mine are 10, 8 and 5. I love them so much I think my heart will burst. Thanks OP, just to type this out has made me happy. smile

Maryz Sun 10-Feb-13 22:00:44

My oldest newborn is flat out on the sofa hungover asleep as we speak. My heart still melts when I see him sleeping even though he smells and has his feet on the sofa

The love never goes. It may have to change and stretch a bit, but it doesn't go.

thebody Sun 10-Feb-13 21:57:13

Lovely post pink and congrats.

I love my 4 babies age 23 to 12 more every living day.

Beamur Sun 10-Feb-13 21:57:06

Every age my DD has been so far has been my favourite. Love her to bits.

hamdangle Sun 10-Feb-13 21:55:40

I have 12 week old DS2 asleep on my tum now and 16 year old DS1 is upstairs playing on Facebook/twitter/whatever. I love them both in exactly the same way but when I lie in bed with DS2 looking into his eyes and singing to him while he coos I think this is the best feeling ever and it's such a shame that I don't have that any more with DS1 (mainly because doing that now would be very weird and probably get me on a register somewhere). Your love does grow but it also changes and develops. It's great that I have such a laugh with DS2 and I know we'll do loads of fun stuff this week because he's on half term from college but I still miss the times when I could cuddle him really tightly and just breathe in the smell of his hair.

GrannyRatOnAScooter Sun 10-Feb-13 21:53:39

Ah OP I know exactly what you mean. I always tell my DS that the first happiest day of my life was the day he was born (the second and third being my wedding day and the birth of DD).

I was only telling 9 year old DS tonight about how special the time was when he was born, how I'd spend hours breastfeeding him and drinking in his smell and touching his skin. I told him about how every Wednesday at 10:10am for the first few months of his life, I'd wish I could go back to him being placed in my arms for the first time.

I absolutely feel this way about DD (6) too and she regularly asks me to tell her about the day she was born despite hearing it hundreds of times.

The good news OP is that the love gets stronger and deeper. I kiss my babies when they're asleep every night and I whisper how much I love them and asking God to bless them.

I do wish I could go back and do it all over again as I'd do things so differently but then I look at how lovely my DCs are and think that DH and I haven't done too bad of a job. As much as I'd love to go back, I am just as excited for the future - my boy doing his 11+ and going to secondary school and learning his instruments and my DD learning her times tables and going to brownie camp.

Enjoy this precious time but remember you have so many exciting times ahead smile

hamdangle Sun 10-Feb-13 21:48:15

I have 12 week old DS2 asleep on my tum now and 16 year

AndFanjoWasHisNameO Sun 10-Feb-13 21:16:44

What a beautiful, soggy eyed thread envy ha knew you weren't vipers
Congratulations OP, it's mind blowing isn't it?! And yes, it just gets better and better-that's why we keep doing it. Each stage flies by, that's all I take from the saying.
My toddlers can't believe the size of clothes we're collecting for the imminent new baby and refuse to accept that they were that small not so long ago...

Pinkflipflop Sun 10-Feb-13 19:57:04

I'm loving reading over all the answers and responses to this thread!

It's reassuring to know that the love only gets deeper! I guess its like other people's babies and toddlers, they are sweet but you don't really know love until you have your own.

Yfronts Sun 10-Feb-13 13:51:12

I remember feeling the same but I can assure you that it's only the start of a very beautiful long and lovely journey with this little soul. Your baby will grow and grow and will get even more amazing with lots of stages to enjoy. Mine are 2, 5 and 10 and I feel so blessed.

nickelbabe Sun 10-Feb-13 13:31:47

with her mouth, obviously, because she didn't know about the nose blow thing.

nickelbabe Sun 10-Feb-13 13:31:08

dd made me laugh at church today.
dh reached into his pocket toget his hanky, and blew his nose.

dd copied him completely from across the pew. she didn?t have a hanky but she put her hand to her nose, made a blowing noise with her hand and then wiped her face like her dad did grin

Yadnbu I know exactly what you mean I remember sitting feeding my dd at 1 week old sobbing cos she'd never been a week old again! I love her more every day and as much as a newborn is amazing a toddler is a lot of fun gringrin

orangeandlemons Sat 09-Feb-13 17:55:25

froggy legs!

orangeandlemons Sat 09-Feb-13 17:54:42

My eldest is 18. He's quite quite lovely in every way. I still feel overwhelmed with love whenever I see him. Intelligent, kind, loving, gentle....they just keep getting better....but I am very attached to newborn's. especially when you pick them up, and they stay curled up with their little foggy legs. Aaaah

LaQueen Sat 09-Feb-13 17:52:18

I had PND with DD1, so never experienced that rush of love when she was born, in fact it was 5 long, long months before I really felt any emotional bond with her.

But, it grew steadily, and I slowly but surely fell in love with her.

She's 10 next month, and I absolutely adore her, and can't bear to think that there will come a day, when she doesn't climb into bed for a cuddle at the weekends, and when she won't want me to tuck her up in bed at night [shakes head...hums tune to distract herself...]

CoffeeChocolateWine Sat 09-Feb-13 17:48:46

ILoveFrogs I had those doubts when we were trying for another baby, but DD is 6 months now and DS is 4 and one of my favourite parts of being a mum is right now watching the most beautiful relationship forming between. It's so heart-warming...and yes you do feel exactly the same for DC2 as DC1.

ILoveFrogs Sat 09-Feb-13 17:37:22

My one and only DS has just turned three, I can honestly say that I love him more each day. I wasn't too keen on the baby stage but he is at such a lovely age just now, he is a little chatterbox and everything he says just makes me smile, it melts my heart when he asks for a cuddle and last week he told me he loved me, it was one of the best moments ever!

We are talking about trying for another but I really don't know if I have it in me to love another as much as I love DS (I know in reality I will though).

weegiemum Sat 09-Feb-13 17:12:57

I didn't much like the newborn stage, actually. Partly it was the pnd, but I also find it really boring! I loved them all, but I was glad it didn't last forever! Give me my big kids (13, 11, 9) anytime. Its currently really good fun. I don't miss the baby days muc at all.

magimedi Sat 09-Feb-13 17:02:13

When my DS was a baby I thought I'd never be able to bear it when he grew up.

He's now 30 & I love him just as much & really, really like & respect him as a person.

(There are times, during teens when you may not like them very much!)

MamaBear17 Sat 09-Feb-13 15:29:11

Oh God you are just in for a world of amazement. My dd is 18 months and I can honestly say I fall in love with her all over again every single day. It doesnt stop being brilliant, even when they are drawing with wax crayon on your freshly painted walls. It genuinely does get even better but in a different way. Congratulations x

IAmLouisWalsh Sat 09-Feb-13 15:24:58

My baby is four and gives amazing little butterfly kisses.

My bigger baby is six and can wipe his own bum.

Every age has an advantage!

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